Is anyone else embrassed to still be a virgin?

[Trashionista]

I just don't make a huge production out of it. Some folks will tell everyone and his dog they are virgins.

This. Your sex-life or lack thereof, are no-one's business but your own.

 

[mina]

There's nothing to be embarrassed about. It's good you're making your own decision about your sexuality. And if that means waiting until marriage that's your business.

That right there ^. It's no one else's buisness. It's your choice. If anyone makes fun of you for something that is none of their buisness it's very tacky of them.

 

[MacFall]

Not really. In fact when people start bragging about their lack of sexual restraint and condescend to me because I'm not like them, I feel pretty good about it. Even though I really haven't really had any opportunity to be otherwise, I still feel good about it.

 

[DougyP]

if it makes you feel any better, I'm embarrassed to not be a virgin...

Indeed. I afraid I'll meet a great woman and she won't accept me for me. And she would be in the right to turn me down for it. It doesn't break me down anymore like it used to, but I'll think about that every now and then.

 

[broken_one]

if it makes you feel any better, I'm embarrassed to not be a virgin...

It's alright, dude....it happens. You'll be okay, don't listen to those legalistic fundies.

Do I have regrets about my actions? Of course. But will I have sex again? Probably. The older guys here know how it is to be in your early 20s...it's not exactly easy. So I'm controlling myself, but it's definitely a day-to-day problem. As if I needed more.

Now I get why people used to get married when they were young.

 

[Obzocky]

Meh. I only get embarrassed if people use it as an introduction. However it can serve as an excellent icebreaker/moment to reflect on and laugh about in the cold light of day.

 

[Marycita]

Indeed. I afraid I'll meet a great woman and she won't accept me for me. And she would be in the right to turn me down for it. It doesn't break me down anymore like it used to, but I'll think about that every now and then.

you're a repentant Christian, yes?

Then a great woman would not only accept you, but would know that she actually wouldn't be in the right to turn you down for it



sorry...just felt like throwing my two cents out there for some reason

 

[Keri]

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[Marycita]

This is my biggest fear. Meeting a wonderful man, him finding out about my past then wanting nothing to do with me...

then you will not have met a wonderful man...



it really hurts my heart to see you all feeling like this...I mean, I can imagine it's difficult to not feel like this...but it just really hurts my heart that there is any reason you would even need to

ooooo I might end up ranting if I go on

 

[Rhye]

This is my biggest fear. Meeting a wonderful man, him finding out about my past then wanting nothing to do with me...

MARY IS RIGHT, THEN YOU HAVE NOT MEET A WONDERFUL MAN.


Sorry for the cap locks.


He should know what you have done, and where you are in your life, and even the mistakes that you have made in the past. I am sure he has his own shortcomings, so judgement should never beginning in that regard.

 

[broken_one]

This is my biggest fear. Meeting a wonderful man, him finding out about my past then wanting nothing to do with me...

I'm beginning to wonder if that is the same issue I have with dating so-called "Christian" women. Even as a pastor I wasn't seen as an equal or God forbid a superior to these women. Just never really got the light of day. So where did I turn? Beautiful women who weren't as Christian.

I feel like a detective right now.

 

[Thunder Peel]

Let me start by saying that, even though I'm a virgin, I certainly don't look down on those who aren't. We all make mistakes and we all struggle in different areas. I would never dream of turning down a wonderful woman because of her sexual past so please don't assume that just because you are or aren't a virgin that it determines your future. God is bigger than that and any person worth your time won't care about it either.

 

[Marycita]

MARY IS RIGHT, THEN YOU HAVE NOT MEET A WONDERFUL MAN.


Sorry for the cap locks.


He should know what you have done, and where you are in your life, and even the mistakes that you have made in the past. I am sure he has his own shortcomings, so judgement should never beginning in that regard.

Exactly - and if he (she for you men ) can't understand that..then they are basically spitting on what Jesus did (or maybe that's just how I see it )...and is not the right one for you anyway....

 

[Wren]

i don't think being a virgin or not being a virgin is anything to be embarrassed about personally, or proud of. who a person is, is so much more than what their v-card status is.

I know in this day and age its considered strange to reach a certain age and to still be a virgin. but really who cares? some people might make fun of virgins, but to me that reflects more on the people making the jokes than on the virgins. I think its actually kind of sad to only be able to view sex as such a light topic to the point that you think everyone should be doing it.

as for non-virgins, in Christ all sins are washed away. People may still look down their noses at non-virgins, but thankfully what they think doesn't matter. what God thinks does, so long as we aim to live our lives for Him, thats the important thing.

so yeah... i'm not really worried about someone else's virginity or lack thereof. None of my business anyhow.

 

[CrystalBrooke]

I know a woman who was 40 and had never been married..she was still a virgin. She wasn't embarassed, she wasn't proud, but she wasn't embarassed. She got married a few years ago..so I'm guessing she's not a virgin now. But she waited a long time...I guess for her it was worth it.

I'm not a virgin, haven't been for a long time, I had sex far too early, but I don't regret not saving it for marriage either.

 

[Keri]

then you will not have met a wonderful man...



it really hurts my heart to see you all feeling like this...I mean, I can imagine it's difficult to not feel like this...but it just really hurts my heart that there is any reason you would even need to

ooooo I might end up ranting if I go on

That's very true... I'm not saying that the men I have met are like that, I never have been rejected for my past, I'm just saying it's a fear. Even if it's not a legitimate fear.

 

[leothelioness]

I'm 28 and I have to be honest, there are times when I'm embrassed to still be a virgin at this age. I know that according to the bible I'm doing what's right by waiting for marriage, but what if I never get married. The thought of dying a virgin bothers me!! Does anyone else feel this way?

Yes. All the time.

On the flip side, I don't get how people are embarrassed to NOT be virgins. Like, really? Come on.

 

[leothelioness]

This is my biggest fear. Meeting a wonderful man, him finding out about my past then wanting nothing to do with me...

I have the opposite fear; that I'll meet someone who will be turned off by the fact that I'm sexually inexperienced.

 

[Apollo Celestio]

It's a big deal either way, I don't get why people are stuffing it under the carpet. I'm not embarrassed, but I do get mad when people look down on me for it. I don't think I can respect someone who does.

 

[broken_one]

I have the opposite fear; that I'll meet someone who will be turned off by the fact that I'm sexually inexperienced.

Going to be a bit frank here.....all you really have to do is lie down.



Yeah.




Leave the adequacy issues to us men, who worry about these things (ironically not me....one of the few things an anxiety disorder does is make you worry about other things. I have a 3-month reprieve ) more than it is healthy to do so.