Is anyone else embrassed to still be a virgin?

[Im_A]

To be honest, I find it silly that anyone could actually be embarrassed about a choice they WILLINGLY chose to do.

I mean think about it...let's rephrase this oh in a manner that will make my point more abundantly evident:
"Is anyone else embarrassed that they didn't spread their legs and let someone get inside of them?"

 

[leothelioness]

Not everyone has "chosen" it, though. I would image that would be something to be embarrassed about.

 

[Im_A]

Not everyone has "chosen" it, though. I would image that would be something to be embarrassed about.

I would beg to differ.

I personally don't think virginity is embarrassing. I'm not a virgin and when I was, it was a choice I made. The things I do is because I choose to do them.

Yet, everyone makes a choice to wait for some standard they have set themselves to have sex. Everyone could go out and find it, there are ways. Give a stripper enough money, never know. Pay a prostitute. Go to a bar. Get involved and get serious with someone and then make the choice.

I mean if hell, the god one believes in and disobeying the moral standards based in religion or that you hold to yourself is the ONLY reason why someone doesn't have sex, that's not the same as a gun pointed to one's head telling them, keep that chastity belt on. The only way one 'can't choose' to be a virgin is if they have had no chances, no physical moments with another human being. Sure there are those, but if I had to make a bet on choice or not, more times than not, I would put my money that those virgins make choices to be virgins so to be embarrassed about a willing choice is just plain silly.

BTW-'You and yourself' is meant to be used in general terms.

 

[white dove]

I would beg to differ.

I personally don't think virginity is embarrassing. I'm not a virgin and when I was, it was a choice I made. The things I do is because I choose to do them.

Yet, everyone makes a choice to wait for some standard they have set themselves to have sex. Everyone could go out and find it, there are ways. Give a stripper enough money, never know. Pay a prostitute. Go to a bar. Get involved and get serious with someone and then make the choice.

I mean if hell, the god one believes in and disobeying the moral standards based in religion or that you hold to yourself is the ONLY reason why someone doesn't have sex, that's not the same as a gun pointed to one's head telling them, keep that chastity belt on. The only way one 'can't choose' to be a virgin is if they have had no chances, no physical moments with another human being. Sure there are those, but if I had to make a bet on choice or not, more times than not, I would put my money that those virgins make choices to be virgins so to be embarrassed about a willing choice is just plain silly.

BTW-'You and yourself' is meant to be used in general terms.

You got that right, honey. It is either a choice you make or in unfortunate circumstances (rape, for example) a choice someone else makes for you. If it is in your belief system to wait and you know that you're doing it for a greater purpose, hold to that and who cares what anyone else says?

It is nothing to be ashamed of.

I also can see the point of not wanting to share such information with people who have nothing to do with that choice. Some people are simply more open; others not. And both approaches are okay. As with the choice itself - to remain a virgin or not - it is up to the individual to decide where their priorities lie.

 

[Im_A]

I also can see the point of not wanting to share such information with people who have nothing to do with that choice. Some people are simply more open; others not. And both approaches are okay. As with the choice itself - to remain a virgin or not - it is up to the individual to decide where their priorities lie.

I'm cool with privacy and such. That's a persons' right. Its up to the person how they deal with enlightening themselves to other people.

 

[Janetlove]

With all due respect, this is a message board. We are allowed to respond, if you just wanted posters who would agree with you, you could've made the choice to specify that in your thread.

Furthermore, the sentiment expressed by trentlogain01 and myself is still related to the thread. It's a bit more difficult to feel ashamed of something no-one can tease you about; because no-one (but perhaps, someone you're about have sex with) can tease you about being a virgin, a Madonna, or a harlot if you don't give them the information. As far as I'm concerned if it's okay on this board to call Paris Hilton skanky (as many on this board have/do) because she's (allegedly) been around the block or is flagrant with her sexuality, one has every right to decry Purity Pledges and 'No Kisses, but I WILL TELL ANYONE WITH INTERNET ACCESS!' statements as equally tacky.

You have your right. But I also had my right to express the feeling that you guys seemed liked you were putting down the people in this thread for being open and honest about this topic. Maybe I took it the wrong way. My topic was not about going around telling the world about your sexual history or lack there of. It's about being personally embrassed about it. To me if your going around telling people about your sex life your just asking for people to make fun of you. I love this message board because you can express your thoughts and feelings about a topic like this without people knowing who you are.

 

[Sunset2009]

I am not embarrassed to be a virgin. I am very embarrassed of all that I've already given away, emotionally and physically, however.

 

[penNpaper]

Not everyone has "chosen" it, though. I would image that would be something to be embarrassed about.

Being a virgin is a choice...its called free will. Same goes the other statement. Being not a virgin is a choice...its called free will.

I ain't pointing fingers here. But being still a virgin isn't something to be embarrassed about.

I'm still a virgin am I shamed of being a virgin still. Nope I'm not!! Is it my choice to be a virgin until my wedding night? Yes it is. Is it my choice to lose my virginity if I'm impatient and foolish, Yes it is.

If I'm the next 40 year old virgin...SO BE IT. I'm staying a virgin until marriage. Do I think "I'm better than non-virgins because I still have my V card" NO, I'm not!! I treat everyone as equals, doesn't matter what their past is, I ain't better than them.

Everyone has their own story in life.

This refers to Free Will choices...

NOT if you got hurt/abused (when that choice is taken away from you) when you were younger situations BECAUSE that is a different story and a different answer. I feel angry when people get hurt/abused in that situation, because it just breaks my heart to hear those stories and the people that caused it...should pay...

God Bless,
Drew

 

[Orange_County_Chopper]

Like a virgin... touched for the very first time... like a viiiirrgin..

 

[leothelioness]

I'll rephrase and say being a virgin isn't necessarily embarrassing in and of itself, but the mocking and ribbing you have to endure most certainly are. The post above mine is a good example.

 

[broken_one]

I'll rephrase and say being a virgin isn't necessarily embarrassing in and of itself, but the mocking and ribbing you have to endure most certainly are. The post above mine is a good example.

It's not a song about virgins.....or so I believe Quentin Tarantino who said that it wasn't. Check the vid (warning, language):
YouTube - Reservoir Dogs - Like a Virgin scene

 

[catzrfluffy]

can never hear the song stuck in the middle with you without thinking of that reservoir dogs scene... ¬_¬

 

[blackjellybean]

I'm 28 and I have to be honest, there are times when I'm embrassed to still be a virgin at this age. I know that according to the bible I'm doing what's right by waiting for marriage, but what if I never get married. The thought of dying a virgin bothers me!! Does anyone else feel this way?

Embarrassed, no.

Frustrated and lonely, sometimes.

I need to get out more.

PS Holy thread resurrection Batman! Just realized this is from 2 years ago lol. I really should check the date before I post.

 

[Miss Spaulding]

No, I'm not embarrassed.

 

[TheUnforeseen]

I'm 28 and I have to be honest, there are times when I'm embrassed to still be a virgin at this age. I know that according to the bible I'm doing what's right by waiting for marriage, but what if I never get married. The thought of dying a virgin bothers me!! Does anyone else feel this way?

It bothers you because you haven't committed yet another sin intentionally before you die? I feel no embarassment at all.

 

[HotRhymez]

I'm not embarrassed and I don't see why I should be. I don't get why people (especially males) ridicule eachother for being a virgin and use it as an insult. I'd rather be a virgin than have an STD.

 

[Saucy]

No.

 

[Going Merry]

i'm embarassed

 

[blackjellybean]

i'm embarassed

Don't be, you're awesome.

 

[K9_Trainer]

I've never understood the big deal about being a virgin vs not being one. Sometimes I feel like once you get out of high school, the only people that care about virginity are virgins. Myself and most of my friends (all non-virgins) will be the first to tell you that there's nothing to be embarrassed about and to keep waiting. You aren't "missing out" on some vital life experience. It's great, yeah, but it adds a whole new layer of complexity and responsibility to your life. Enjoy not dealing with it for now and don't be in such a rush to start having sex.