- Mar 29, 2017
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I agree. Also.....I think the message it portrays about God/love can lead to all sorts of trouble later, too. Love isn't manipulation. That's what I see as maybe the most harmful parts of all this...is how he's forcing the children to do things against their will (leaving no room for them to explore and discover on their own). With them nearing (or at) teen-age years....IMO, that's a scary thing to mess around with. I believe in building the bond of trust between children and parents....not merely teaching them to avoid punishment/consequences.
As it stands, my kids have been going with their father solely, to his church, since last November. They have not stepped foot in my church since. His "plan" was to have them go until this December, where they would get Catholic teaching and instruction on the Chatocism (sp?).
My eldest son, who is about 16, hates it. He complains every Sunday and tells me he can't wait until he's done being forced to go with his dad. He is upset though, that even though his dad and I agreed they would only have to go until this December, dad told him he's going to make him continue to go until he's done with his Chatocism classes, and I don't know when those end. I've seen the calendar the church emails and it seems to go on through next Spring. So, I'm going to be pretty dang upset if my husband goes beyond what we agreed to and keeps forcing the kids to go after this December.
My other two kids seem to like dads church now. And my middle kid seems to think he wants to be baptized there and become a Catholic with dad. If that is the case, I don't believe he will ever be allowed to attend my church again. Even though his dad says, if he decides he doesn't want to go to his church any more he can make that decision...I just don't believe he'll allow it.
My youngest, who I feel is way too young to be forced to decide what "religion" she wants to commit to (being only 10), has told me that she just wants to be able to go to both of our churches equally and doesn't want to just go to one. That's what I want too.
I tell my kids when it comes time to sit with the Priests and discuss what they want/believe, etc, they need to be honest for themselves and not worry about what me or their father wants. I told them they need to be selfish in their decision and do what THEY want. Hopefully the priests will be honest as well and not try to steer them one way or another.
I just do devotions with my kids daily on our way to school. And I try to teach them what the scriptures say. I don't tell them their dad is wrong or that his church is wrong, etc, I just tell them what the Bible says is the ultimate truth and let them go from there. Once in a while my parents watch our kids and will do a devotion with them, and my youngest will tell my husband this, to which he feels they are being indoctrinated against his church.
We both believe in the resurrection, the Trinity and the path to Salvation. What we don't agree on is church teachings. Hence why I don't like "religion"...and don't feel it's necessary to belong to a denomination, when the most important thing to me, is the personal relationship with Jesus.
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