Interesting Article - Your Thoughts

[HeyHomie]

Here is an article I found interesting. It's entitled "10 Big Mistakes Parents Make." I'd be interested in everyone's thoughts on this.

Thanks.

 

[SnapCount]

The biggest mistake I think parents make is to not let their children know that they love them more than anything, and that instead of building their children up, they tear them down by yelling, spanking and such.

 

[Green Orchid]

Pretty common sense stuff that many parents don't seem to know about nowadays...

 

[GolfingMom]

I agree with the list...Number 8 especially. I see more and more of it and parents tend to become more and more 'helicopter' parents.

 

[-~Truth_N_Trust~-]

That was actually a great list.

 

[lucypevensie]

I agree with all of those. I'm guilty of the one regarding responsibilities. My kids get paid for their chores. Not for every single one, but Friday is payday and it's given after the chore list is completed.

 

[katelyn]

There are a lot of good points in that article. I think #2 and #10 are the ones I struggle with the most, because adequate discipline and follow-through require so much consistency to truly be effective. There are days when I'm tired and frustrated and it's so tempting to let the kids do whatever means they aren't crying and fussing. But I can see in my kids how important consistency is, so I'm dedicated to working on it.

 

[heart of peace]

My son has played exactly four seasons of sports and has earned more trophies than I did in my 40 seasons growing up. Something is out of whack.

Many parents tend to baby kids these days and cater to their every need, and that eliminates the value of hard work and becoming independent as they grow into adults

My son's grandmother babies my son A LOT! Do you think grandparents can undermine a parents' attempt at teaching one's child to 'fend for themself?"

I agree with Green_Orchid, nothing out of the ordinary on that list; seems like common sense to me as well. What are your thoughts on it?

 

[Neenie1]

My son's grandmother babies my son A LOT! Do you think grandparents can undermine a parents' attempt at teaching one's child to 'fend for themself?"

I agree with Green_Orchid, nothing out of the ordinary on that list; seems like common sense to me as well. What are your thoughts on it?

Yeah I know what you mean about grandparents. I think it depends on how often she is doing it and how often you see her. Some grandparents really see their role as spoiling their grandkids. I say this because my mum says it of my children. What exactly is she doing to baby him?

Sometimes my kids grandparents really tick me off about how they treat my kids but I just let it go because at the end of the day I don't think they are doing any real harm (they are not hurting them but just doing things differently to how I would do it). On the bigger issues I do tend to confront it gently, but most of the time it's only small stuff that just gets up my nose for silly little reasons that don't mean anything at the end of the day.

 

[Hadassah]

good list. They totally missed "Simply loving your child for who s/he is" -- but I suppose the 10 does kind of encompass that

 

[Macx]

#8 is a big topic of discussion in our house. Mostly because we'd like a middle ground between our two extremes.

Wife's mom did everything. I am teaching my wife to cook now, starting at basics like how to fry an egg. There are a lot of life skills that mom always did & when my wife became an adult she was ill equipped to do.

I grew up different, by 8 or 9 I could do everything but hold a 40 hour per week job, could take care of wounds that would send most kids to the ER for stitches, hunt, clean, cook, surivive, drive a car or fix a machine. I never really got to be a kid though.

We'd like to incorporate balance for our children & I am thankful for good communication skills in the house so we can work towards that. Neither one of us want our children to grow up the way we did or the way the other did . . . balance is where it is at.

 

[moonkitty]

While I agree with the list, I disagree with some of the examples the author gave. Such as with #9:
“The same goes for the double ear piercing—that’s what you want, not them.” Actually my daughter was the one to suggest double ear piercing—not me. I haven’t let her do it, mainly because she doesn’t really take care of her earrings. If she did, I wouldn’t mind letting her have double ear piercing.

 

[LoisGriffin]

I was watching a documentary a couple of weeks ago (I am a big documentary fan). It was about an 11 year old British girl whos mother was pushing her into dressing like an adult. She got manicures, bleached blonde hair, clothing that in my opinion would be unsuitable for most adults etc. Her mother tried to get her into modeling but the child but the agency said they liked 11 year old girls to look like 11 year old girls. The mother took this badly.

All the little girl wanted to do is play with her friends (she said on so many occasions how she did not want to perform for people and dress that way) but the mother just wanted to live through her daughter. She said that her dream for her daughter would be for her to be famous so she (the mother) could met lots of famous people.

In the end the mother took her to America to the really creepy beauty pagents where it is acceptable to dress your 11 year old daughter like a prostitute and get prizes for it.

 

[Leanna]

Pretty common sense stuff

yup