Innocence

[krstg]

Do men find innocence in a woman attractive? Does an innocent woman seem "off- limits" in terms of dating for some reason?

 

[Glaz]

I'd say no, but I don't know what you mean exactly by 'innocence'.

 

[krstg]

I'd say no, but I don't know what you mean exactly by 'innocence'.

So, when I think of a woman having "innocence" I mean being naive, not having a lot of worldly knowledge/experience, and having - what some might say - a sheltered life.

I'm just curious as to what guys (or gals) might have to say about this. I also wonder: if a girl/woman has that innocent quality, would a guy be afraid to approach her, even if he was interested, for fear of taking that innocence away from her? Is this just weird for me to think?

 

[waterbear]

The type of girls I'd be interested in would probably be 'innocent', but that's not the reason I'd be interested in them. It's more relational: I have a rather idea-centric approach to knowledge, experience-centric people and me don't really get along to well. Sheltered people often have less interest in 'going out' which also appeals to me - I have very, very little interest in 'going out'.

As for approaching her, I wouldn't have any unusual concerns.

 

[Cherub8]

Innocence is a very attractive quality, in my opinion.

 

[Wakeup2god]

Innocense is beautiful but often open to abuse.

 

[2Timothy2]

Innocence is attractive, naivety is not.

 

[Fatolia]

I really think innocence is often a mask. None of us are really innocent. If anyone appears to be innocent, it's probably just an illusion. I hate to be cynical, but it's true, "All have fallen short of the glory of God."

 

[mixiejoeusa]

I really think innocence is often a mask. None of us are really innocent. If anyone appears to be innocent, it's probably just an illusion. I hate to be cynical, but it's true, "All have fallen short of the glory of God."

how true is that....I feel, i still think like a child and play like a child sometimes, but lets face it, I'm 29--and there isn't much that I haven't seen, ya know. I think that the experiences in life you have shape who you are. Experiencing the good and bad things in life, gives you a good balance of real life, if that makes sense

I think that being true and knowing your self is a great quality, and not having a lot if experience, is still a good thing. I hope that helps
.....

Jessica

 

[Stanfi]

Naive is not attractive. My experience with those who are naive is that they do not have a firm grasp on the reality of the real world, and are not able to function in or deal with problems that arise. The often seem to think the world is a rose colored garden, and it is not.

 

[unimportantbuthisnameis]

So, when I think of a woman having "innocence" I mean being naive, not having a lot of worldly knowledge/experience, and having - what some might say - a sheltered life.

Although I find "innocence" somewhat attractive I'm not sure if I could emotionally connect with someone who has had a sheltered life (due to my personal past).

 

[OhhJim]

It wouldn't make a lot of difference, one way or the other, to me.

 

[TriptychR]

If by naive you mean more hopeful and optomistic than the average person, then I would find that attractive. But I'm afraid being blind to certain things would become a trait that would eventually drive me nuts.

 

[Jamza]

I think theres something really special about people who can live in the real world but still be happy and not let suffering and disappointment get them down. That kind of innocence is very attractive.

 

[Glaz]

So, when I think of a woman having "innocence" I mean being naive, not having a lot of worldly knowledge/experience, and having - what some might say - a sheltered life.

I'm just curious as to what guys (or gals) might have to say about this. I also wonder: if a girl/woman has that innocent quality, would a guy be afraid to approach her, even if he was interested, for fear of taking that innocence away from her? Is this just weird for me to think?

That wouldn't be a turn off at all. Would be rather refreshing actually. Alot of jaded andpessimistic people out there.

 

[JPPT1974]

We can never, ever be perfect as we all sin and fall short of the glory of the Lord and need his forgiveness as well as repentance.

 

[krstg]

Innocence is attractive, naivety is not.

I often think of innocence as "positive" and being naive as a "negative" thing. In my earlier post, I had to think about what I thought innocence meant. I wasn't sure if naivety and innocence go together necessarily. One definition of naive I found is "Lacking worldly experience and understanding". To me, it seems that the "lacking understanding" part of naive is what makes it unattractive (in adults especially, to be specific). I don't believe a lack of experience means one is uninformed and cannot make wise decisions. But, I can see that if one lacks understanding then one couldn't discern what kind of behavior or situations are, or could bring, problems and troubles to him/herself or those around them.

 

[krstg]

I really think innocence is often a mask. None of us are really innocent. If anyone appears to be innocent, it's probably just an illusion. I hate to be cynical, but it's true, "All have fallen short of the glory of God."

how true is that....I feel, i still think like a child and play like a child sometimes, but lets face it, I'm 29--and there isn't much that I haven't seen, ya know. I think that the experiences in life you have shape who you are. Experiencing the good and bad things in life, gives you a good balance of real life, if that makes sense

I think that being true and knowing your self is a great quality, and not having a lot if experience, is still a good thing. I hope that helps
.....

Jessica

I agree that the look of innocence doesn't necessarily equal innocent. Yea... I think any person who lives life has to step out into the world and will see or hear some things that don't help keep him/her innocent. This, along with the fact that we are human and "have fallen short of the glory of God", make pure innocence... well... not possible in us.

 

[Cherub8]

Naive and innocent are unrelated --- it's like comparing apples and oranges. Innocence is an attractive quality, and I know plenty of girls who are very innocent but, at the same time, definitely not naive.

 

[lunalinda]

Oh man...I'm innocent AND naive.



And no, I'm not serious.

I'd say I'm definitely more innocent than naive, but I still harbor just a little bit naivety. Both of them come from my sheltered life, however. Slowly but surely, I'm breaking away, though. At least I think I am.

And anyway, much of my innocence is by choice. The naivety will continue to fade as I more progress in leaving this shell of mine. As far as whether or not I'm attractive to guys because of my innocence? Well, I dunno. It depends.

To the wrong guys, I'd be more of a challenge (since I'm so very protective of myself, not naive to the fact that there are still a lot of guys who play a nice role just to get into my pants, which unfortunately tends to merely fuel a lot of guys to try harder), so I guess that's an attraction all its own. To the right guys, I just HOPE it'd be attractive, my not harboring some of the "ugliness" in the world. Tough part is finding the difference in those guys. Some of them have such flawless disguises.

I never really thought about the other way around, though, whether or not I'd be attracted to an "innocent" guy, since I've yet to be attracted to one haha. I don't mean that in a bad way, just stating how it's been. But it certainly would be a refreshing surprise.