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I've seen some threads on Meyer's Briggs test before, and noticed that many people on the forums are INFJ's. I think you guys like to talk a lot :p I went to a seminar on this stuff a while back, and the speaker mentioned that a great majority of professors are INFJ's too which makes sense reading the personality type.
 
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I wonder if you've got some of the same thing going that I do -- being a friendly, easy-going people person makes it seem like we're extroverted. But really, we have to refuel with alone time, which is the total opposite of a true extrovert. Whenever someone describes me as "outgoing," I'm all... :confused: But it happens with some frequency.

Yeah. I think some people assume I'm quite extroverted because I can give that appearence but same
 
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true, two people exactly like one another would probably drive eachother insane!

Interestingly, INFJ to INFJ is compatible in this sense: INFJ's hardly get understood, but it takes an INFJ to understand an INFJ. INFJ's are upset by even implied (Unspoken) things, so they know what they should not say to upset - and don't even think of saying it.

I recently took up a new appointment, and said to the bookkeeper, "I tried this test would you like to take this test?" He did and we found ourselves both to be INFJ. The result is that we laugh at the same things, come to the same silent conclusions etc, without even talking about them. When know when each other is upset, and what things seem to threaten.

TWO INFJ's starting a business (where you have to be OUTGOING) might not be such a good thing, and especially with what seems to be a trait - there seeming lack of worry about money (or making it.) Two INFJ's togther in ministry (As long as somebody else covers the evangelism), would probably be great.

Sadly - as far as the whole "Way you think, why you dod what you do, and ideal mate thing", I only found out about INFJ when I was 35. :( If only somebody had said these things to me when I was say 15 :sigh:
 
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lol - yeah I guess it takes one to know one huh!

Interestingly, INFJ to INFJ is compatible in this sense: INFJ's hardly get understood, but it takes an INFJ to understand an INFJ. INFJ's are upset by even implied (Unspoken) things, so they know what they should not say to upset - and don't even think of saying it.
And yeah, I'd go with that. The first guy I really dated and was totally in love with was another INFJ unless I'm mistaken. He could read me like an open book. Nobody had ever been able to do that with me and I was amazed. We got on so well. Unfortuantly personality isn't a replacement for character though and because he could read me so easily I was a sitting duck. I thought he was a christian just backsliding (he wasn't) and because I'd only ever really hung around christian guys I assumed he had values he didn't and trusted him.
I might as well have put a blindfold on my head and handed him a gun.

Apart from his character, we got on brilliantly :doh:
 
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You know when people tell you something about you that is so hidden, that not even you know, and when they tell you, you want to laugh with embarassment and relief at the same time :blush: :D ("At last, somebody understands me.) Well, when I read the cdescription page of INFJ, it was like that.

Sadly, since, I have had a look at INFJ websites, and a lot of them are single (Good side -I'm not alone, Bad side - this could be an incurable disease:o lol;) )
 
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I would be interested to know if guys who are INFJ's have uncles and parents / grandparents and other family memebrs who are INFJ. (IE is this personality maybe a genetic thing.) ?


I have heard it said that probably all the prophets of Israel were INFJ. (Could this be true?)
 
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Don't know. It describes us as 'mystics' on the website mac posted. http://www.geocities.com/lifexplore/infj.htm

And yeah on the singles thing, it can be hard finding people who you click with. I've had that problem. And you can also tell a lot intuitivly about people and know after even a few glances let alone if you speak to them whether they'll make a good relationship prospect or not. (And others might disagree but I bet the INFJ's know what I"m talking about).
So you can sit in one place and carefully scan the room for available guys, and most of them you'll draw a blank on, just after watching them for a bit. And you can ignore your gut reaction just to try to get a relationship but you'll know deep down throughout the whole thing that it isn't a good match.

My experiences anyway.
 
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I wonder if you've got some of the same thing going that I do -- being a friendly, easy-going people person makes it seem like we're extroverted. But really, we have to refuel with alone time, which is the total opposite of a true extrovert. Whenever someone describes me as "outgoing," I'm all... :confused: But it happens with some frequency.
same here, which is why i consider myself an introvert/extrovert. Or maybe an introvert with extrovert tendencies. I can be extremely outgoing at times, other times far from it. I get energy from being around other people sometimes but I also enjoy almost need to isolate myself sometimes and just be a loner and it feels totally natural even though you would think it would be bad thing to cut yourself off from people sometimes. weird....
 
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I would be interested to know if guys who are INFJ's have uncles and parents / grandparents and other family memebrs who are INFJ. (IE is this personality maybe a genetic thing.) ?

I know an Aunt on my Dad's side is INFJ, and I could be WAY off the mark, but I think it may also be the "type" of my Dad. If I were to place my Mom, it would probably be ISFJ. And as for my brothers, one is INTJ and the other is ISTP. I think if I do inherit it, it came from my Dad's side of the family.

I have heard it said that probably all the prophets of Israel were INFJ. (Could this be true?)

I doubt it. There is definitely cause to assume as such with some of them, namely Nathan, Isaiah and Jeremiah. But not Elijah or Elisha. The prophetic persona definitely does fit in with the intuitive ("N") side, but some of the prophets were more Thinker types and more outspoken than what you would commonly find among INFJs.

INFJs are definitely poetic and intense, and we rely very heavily on metaphor, which is common among the prophets, but we are not the only type that does this. Most NFs are poetic, and because the ministry is a common calling for NFs, I would assume that "prophecy" would have similar inclinations (which is both written AND spoken). And in some ways, some of the prophets (like Elijah, Jonah, Micaiah/Micah, etc.) are way more blunt and to-the-point than most of us are, and more resemble a few INTJ friends of mine than INFJ.

And while I would agree with what someone already said about how most of the regular posters in here are INFJ, which might almost indicate a more extraverted trait, I have two things to say to that. First, consider the medium: writing comes much easier for the INFJ. If we were in a room and talking in person, it may not be this way.

And second, the "outgoing" side of the INFJ has to do with something called "function". The primary function is introverted intuition - the thinking of ideas in the head. The second is feeling mirrored to the primary, so extraverted feeling - looking out for people around, and interacting with those around.
 
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I suspect the problem with INFJ's are that you guys think and analyse too much! You are like the Virgo's of the zodiac.

And how come just about everyone who has visited this thread and taken the test has turned out to be....surprise, surprise....INFJ?!

Could it be that you guys are the types MOST likely to take personality tests?

Personally, I cannot be bothered to take personality tests. You basically click words to describe yourself and the 'RESULTS' use online thesaraus (sp) to find alternative adjectives to describe you, and you are impressed and are like 'woah!'.

Oh well, at least the next time I see someone eagerly doing a personality test or inviting me to take one, I can immediately guess that they are probably INFJs! lol.

I am 60% extrovert, 80% outspoken and 48% blunt. Shoult I avoid them?


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Personally, I cannot be bothered to take personality tests. You basically click words to describe yourself and the 'RESULTS' use online thesaraus (sp) to find alternative adjectives to describe you, and you are impressed and are like 'woah!'.


:D

Actually, I agree that most personality tests are a bunch of hooey. Those that aren't are often misused.

The MBTI (Myers-Briggs Type Indicator) is actually pretty sound, however, if taken in its full form and used in its proper context.

It shouldn't be taken as a fortune-telling or (in spite of my jests to the contrary) matchmaking tool. Its best use is in family or work situations in which people benefit from understanding each other better and communicating through differences. There's actually quite a lot of complex theory behind it which is pretty fascinating to study... so this one, at least, in its proper form, isn't just a thesaurus thing. ;)

On the other hand, I've seen some amazingly bogus personality inventories. Things people have written books about and other people have taken as gospel truth just because it's in print. :doh: It is important to be discriminating about these things. :)
 
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Thanks for the explanation Mac. I was forced to take a personality test at work some time ago, by an overzealous HR guy. Total waste of time, especially when he talked me through the 'results'. He was so snotty about his own result, using it to compare to mine, that I almost pinched his ears.

*chuckle*

So, you haven't answered my other question though...will a person like me (stats in previous post) get on well with INFJs?

Thanks.
 
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