Infertility

[GQ Chris]

thread resurrection

 

[StephieLuv]

what surgery was this sorry?
I'm sorry but anyone can have children, and if you ARE infertile it just means maybe you can adopt. When you adopt you are not less of a mother than someone who has natural children. You will be the one mothering the child.

it was a tubal ligation. Apparently, the reason i had to get this done was to get an acne medicine but really, it was just to "fix" me because i have a disability (i have high functioning autism) i still feel to this day that i was betrayed.

 

[blackribbon]

editted because I didn't notice this was an old thread

 

[Toro]

I had a surgery at the age of 19 that I did NOT want but certain family members felt i should get. Ever since then, i had to live with that regret of getting that surgery done that has made me infertile. I am almost 27 now and I still want to have children. It hurts so much that even phrases like "Maybe God has a different plan for you. " is hurtful to me.
What do you mean by that? Does God not want me to be a mother?

Just because "experts" say you "will never" doesnt mean that God cant or wont.

For all you or anyone else knows God is using the situation of "You will never" to prove He is greater than the world.

How many people have been told they cant conceive? Will never walk again? etc. but do.


1 John 4:4 Greater is He that is in you than he who is in the world.

 

[SnowyMacie]

Men, how would you feel if you had a girlfriend who reveled to you that she was infertile? I ask this because My doctor thinks I may have endometriosis, which leaves women with a 50% chance of infertility (I believe).
Would you be okay marrying a woman knowing you couldn't have children with her? Would you break it off?

I would be perfectly fine with it.

 

[Sir Robbins]

I wouldn't get with a woman who wanted kids because I steer clear of them and don't want anything to do with them. You'd be a plus but not everyone thinks like I do

 

[Miss Spaulding]

it was a tubal ligation. Apparently, the reason i had to get this done was to get an acne medicine but really, it was just to "fix" me because i have a disability (i have high functioning autism) i still feel to this day that i was betrayed.

@StephieLuv

You have every right to feel the way you do. I'm sorry for what was done to you. Fortunately though, what was done to you (commonly referred to as 'getting your tubes tied') can be surgically reversed. My knowledge on somewhat limited on the subject, but I did find this on tubal ligation reversal -

"Among women younger than 35 years of age with no other significant cause of infertility, a cumulative pregnancy rate of approximately 70% within 18 months of surgery was reported in one review. If viewed from a cost-per-cycle perspective, tubal reversal is relatively efficient."

I hope that gives you some encouragement. I have no idea if insurance would cover/help with something like this. I doubt it since my bro-in-law's vasectomy reversal was out of pocket, *but I could certainly be wrong about that.

 

[MehGuy]

Men, how would you feel if you had a girlfriend who reveled to you that she was infertile? I ask this because My doctor thinks I may have endometriosis, which leaves women with a 50% chance of infertility (I believe).
Would you be okay marrying a woman knowing you couldn't have children with her? Would you break it off?

I'd think it was awesome.

Never want kids, so everything fine on that front.

 

[Noxot]

I really don't understand why people think birthing their own child is needed and that adoption is not acceptable. it is a great thing to adopt a child and raise them well.

 

[CCHIPSS]

Let's hope not. But we can always adopt.

 

[blackribbon]

I really don't understand why people think birthing their own child is needed and that adoption is not acceptable. it is a great thing to adopt a child and raise them well.

Where are you getting these children to adopt? The children that are available to be adopted usually have significant health problems (a HUGE commitment) and are older with a lot of psychological problems. Yes, they are deserving but it takes a special kind of person along with a lot of financial and time sacrifices. Giving birth is also significantly less expensive in most cases and although you are not guaranteed a healthy baby, most are and haven't lived through the harsh reality of abandonment or abuse. Although I would love to see these kids find homes, it isn't as idyllic as is sounds at first. There are harsh realities that come with adoption...or even just the adoption process.

 

[Goodbook]

it was a tubal ligation. Apparently, the reason i had to get this done was to get an acne medicine but really, it was just to "fix" me because i have a disability (i have high functioning autism) i still feel to this day that i was betrayed.

Thats terrible! All to fix acne?! Another person said on here they were taking contraceptive pills to deal with acne. What are doctors doing these days?! im sorry, thats just not on.

 

[Goodbook]

With all the drugs doctors have people on these days, no wonder we seeing problems like infertility become more common.

Its just so sad. I know when the doctors precribed me drugs they said, stop taking this is if you pregnant it can harm the baby, well what about me?!

Im thankful Jesus set me free and I dont have to take drugs anymore but I sometimes think about all the harm it did to my body, with the side effects and all. So im not confident about my own fertility anymore. But then I think..if God wants me to have children He can do anything and maybe I can adopt.

 

[blackribbon]

With all the drugs doctors have people on these days, no wonder we seeing problems like infertility become more common.

Its just so sad. I know when the doctors precribed me drugs they said, stop taking this is if you pregnant it can harm the baby, well what about me?!

Im thankful Jesus set me free and I dont have to take drugs anymore but I sometimes think about all the harm it did to my body, with the side effects and all. So im not confident about my own fertility anymore. But then I think..if God wants me to have children He can do anything and maybe I can adopt.

Many drugs (and other products that a pregnant mother can use ... including foods) can harm a developing fetus (very rapid cell growth period) without affecting the mother. This is evidence based research. And every drug has a classification on whether or not it harms fetus or we simply don't know. With severe acne, they often give very strong antibiotics that would cause fetus to develop with severe birth defects. A woman in childbearing years has to take extra precautions to prevent getting pregnant. The user has to go in for monthly blood test to make sure they aren't harming their liver and other internal organs. However, severe acne can become a systemic infection (all over in the body and not just on the skin) and this is not healthy for the body either. Acne at this level is a health problem, not an appearance problem. I do not know the full circumstances concerning the poster so I won't comment. If she was tricked and there were no other health issues, then some people should be very ashamed.

Yes, most meds have side effects. So does water. It makes you pee more and an overdose can kill you by lowering your electrolytes to the point where you have seizures and your heart goes into weird heart rhythms. You can die from too much water. If you were prescribed medications, you should have an information sheet provide with shows side effects (no big deal) and adverse effects (reasons to call your doctor and maybe stop taking the medication). Side effects like constipation just require drinking more water, walking more, and if you can't do that because you are too sick, stool softeners. They go away when you finish the med. Doctor's don't prescribe medications just because they feel like it....for some reason you were concerned enough about a situation to go to the doctor and the doctor is concerned enough because the problem could either cause more problems or could get worse if left untreated. It is always a benefit versus risk consideration. And it is important that the patient understand both his/her medical condition and the medications being prescribed to treat it. The problem with antibiotic resistant bacteria now is partially related to people who don't finish their full round of antibiotics but stop when they start to feel better (and save a few for next time). The bacteria is not completely killed at this point and those that survive now have "immunity". This is no different the concept of vaccines. The surviving bacteria now have the ability to mutate so they are no longer susceptible to that particular antibiotic.

 

[blackribbon]

With all the drugs doctors have people on these days, no wonder we seeing problems like infertility become more common.

I don't know that infertility is becoming a bigger problem. I suspect that it is a smaller problem because it can be diagnosed and people can receive counseling on how to increase their chances for getting pregnant (education on the fertile times of the month, boxer shorts on the man to keep from "cooking" his swimmers, etc...). We do have an issue with older women wanting to become first time moms and then there are some fertility issues but that is simply normal female biology.

 

[Citanul]

I don't know that infertility is becoming a bigger problem. I suspect that it is a smaller problem because it can be diagnosed and people can receive counseling on how to increase their chances for getting pregnant (education on the fertile times of the month, boxer shorts on the man to keep from "cooking" his swimmers, etc...). We do have an issue with older women wanting to become first time moms and then there are some fertility issues but that is simply normal female biology.

It could be that more people are seeking treatment for it, whereas previously they wouldn't have. So that would give the illusion of it becoming a bigger problem, when in fact it's just become more visible.