In need of help with my boyfriend

[Womeninneedofhelp]

Hello everyone I'm in need of help. To be honest I don't really understand the religion as never read the bible or learnt at school. I have a boyfriend I have been going out with for a year. He has a 3 year old daughter he hasn't since in over a year now he use to be addicted to cocaine and has been in rehab 3 time and finally be off now for almost a year. The last rehab he went to was a christen rehab, and now believe strongly in god and the devil. He feels at the moment he cannot stay in reality and feels he need to go back into rehab. His is very upsetting to myself as not understanding how he feels. He believes he wants to help people and be a healer. Does he really need to go into rehab to be able to follow his heart! What can I do to help? I have been very strong over the past year with his depression and paranoid out burst and I am in a way losing strength. Please help.

Also to add I'm going to learn the faith not only for myself but to understand him better, but do need a helping hand!
Nicole

 

[UnimaginablyHappy]

Hi Nicole!

It is a good thing that your boyfriend is learning more about God. And it can be confusing to you, who has not been as exposed to religion in your life. A cocaine addiction is a very hard habit to kick and I think an addiction in the Lord with your heart is the better. I know that it is hard to see someone you love going through such a struggle, but it sounds like he is trying to make a change, slowly but surely.
I would suggest you to start praying to God for wisdom, knowledge, and understanding about Him, your boyfriend and his daughter. Ask God to come into your life and pray and read the Bible daily. You may not get answers immediately, but He will surely send you some.

I truly hope this helps you in your journey and I will pray for you.

Heavenly Father,
I pray now that you give Nicole and her boyfriend the strength to get through this struggle that they are experiencing right now. I know that everything happens for a reason and I know that You have a greater plan in store for them in the future to prosper them and it's hard to understand because Your ways are not our ways. I pray that You will guide Nicole through her journey in faith and comfort her when she feels down. And I pray for her boyfriend and his rehabilitation. In Jesus Christ's name I pray, Amen.

 

[Sketcher]

Sounds like he's not stable yet. Let him take the steps he needs to get that way. If the relationship was meant to last, then it will survive this thing he's doing. If not, this is probably the best possible way it could end, especially considering that he's not stable yet.

 

[heron]

Let him take the steps he needs to get that way.

People who have been through rehab don't always want to go back, so be grateful that he is willing to allow that to work. Will someone watch his daughter while he's gone? It will be great if he can strengthen himself and lighten the burden on you (emotional, social, financial... ).

Feel free to keep posting here and asking questions. As U.Happy said, it's good to start praying and reading the Bible even if you think you're not completely ready.

As you say, it will help you understand what he believes. And you can also benefit from God's help, especially in this situation. God will help you in quiet ways if you ask.

 

[heymikey80]

He really needs to do what he can to avoid lapsing back into that lifestyle. But it is rough not being able to share who you are in the world at large. He may just need that wider circle of people to share with, gain encouragement from their way of seeing the world.

I dunno about the ending of your posting. So I'll just share what my own crazy mind started to realize as I was trying to comprehend Christianity.

Just philosophically -- does this universe really have your conscience, your personhood in it?

If so, how'd it get here? If it's an artifact, then it's not really here, it's just an illusion: you, me, everyone else.

But if it is real -- then there's probably something ... real ... Someone ... Real ... Who is the Source of all this, just as there's a source to every other existing thing in this universe.

And to be sure, I'd say personhood -- our personhood -- is about the only thing we can confirm absolutely, is real.

I know, this is a philosophical way of thinking things. But frankly, I had to get to the point where I could even realize God existed.

 

[Aibrean]

If I were you, I would start reading the Bible and attending church. It can't hurt and if anything it would help you be better able to understand and communicate with your boyfriend since it seems that is all he is talking about.

 

[papaJP]

Start with Bible reading. Find others who are walking a strong walk with God. Find a place to worship and be fed the true word of God.

I would put this relationship on hold until you are closer to God and then ask Him if this is the person He wants you to be in a relationship with.

I do not want to be judgmental but you need help and this relationship is going to be a hinderance at this time.

God's blessings and prayers are with you. However, you are the only one who is responsible for your life and you must take control with the Help of God.

 

[Forealzchola]

Sounds like he's not stable yet. Let him take the steps he needs to get that way. If the relationship was meant to last, then it will survive this thing he's doing. If not, this is probably the best possible way it could end, especially considering that he's not stable yet.

I agree with Sketcher, that your bf still has alot alot alot on his plate..and you should think about if you want to stick through this, especially if its not leading to something serious..sometimes it be an earth moving struggle to help someone in their drug addiction.

 

[salida]

Something to add to bible study:

www.TheBibleProofBook.com, (you will need acrobat reader for this), read The Evidence That Demands A Verdict by Josh McDowell a former agnostic- (its overwhelming circumstantial evidence of bible) and Examine the Evidence by Muncaster a former athiest/The Case for Christ and The Real Jesus by Lee Strobel a former athiest. www.equip.org (articles), http://www.gotquestions.org/,
http://christiananswers.net/
http://www.reasonableanswers.org/12-Eyewitnesses-of-the-resurrection.html
http://www.gotquestions.org/canon-Bible.html
http://equip.org/articles/a-defense-of-sola-scriptura
http://equip.org/articles/bible-reliability

 

[throughchristimchanged]

Hello everyone I'm in need of help. To be honest I don't really understand the religion as never read the bible or learnt at school. I have a boyfriend I have been going out with for a year. He has a 3 year old daughter he hasn't since in over a year now he use to be addicted to cocaine and has been in rehab 3 time and finally be off now for almost a year. The last rehab he went to was a christen rehab, and now believe strongly in god and the devil. He feels at the moment he cannot stay in reality and feels he need to go back into rehab. His is very upsetting to myself as not understanding how he feels. He believes he wants to help people and be a healer. Does he really need to go into rehab to be able to follow his heart! What can I do to help? I have been very strong over the past year with his depression and paranoid out burst and I am in a way losing strength. Please help.

Also to add I'm going to learn the faith not only for myself but to understand him better, but do need a helping hand!
Nicole

be there for him through his struggle it will only bring yourselves closer,