- May 25, 2010
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How many of you look at the young adults forum in here and suddenly have found that you feel too mature for it? Then you come here to the 30s forum and feel a complete outsider because you're not living the same kind of life as everyone else this age, and feel either like you're slow or just immature?
I feel in between the two age ranges and don't know what to do. It impacts my real life as well because all the women in my area who are my age have at least one child. I can get pregnant, and I have, but I cannot carry to term. We think it has to do with the genetics shared between my husband and I, or my PCOS, or both. Not that I really want children either (I just have not found any form of birth control that I can handle.) If we get one, we'll welcome it, it's just that we will be fine whether we have children or not. A lot of women here are aghast when I say that and tell me that it's God's will for every married couple to have children and we have to try whatever until we have one. Basically that marriage is for procreation and that God will give a married couple a child.
They don't understand wanting to do something else in life rather than being a parent. Maybe it's just the area I'm in. But many women here are married right out of high school and have a child a year later (sometimes the child is the reason they married.)
I just feel totally and completely lost.
I feel in between the two age ranges and don't know what to do. It impacts my real life as well because all the women in my area who are my age have at least one child. I can get pregnant, and I have, but I cannot carry to term. We think it has to do with the genetics shared between my husband and I, or my PCOS, or both. Not that I really want children either (I just have not found any form of birth control that I can handle.) If we get one, we'll welcome it, it's just that we will be fine whether we have children or not. A lot of women here are aghast when I say that and tell me that it's God's will for every married couple to have children and we have to try whatever until we have one. Basically that marriage is for procreation and that God will give a married couple a child.
They don't understand wanting to do something else in life rather than being a parent. Maybe it's just the area I'm in. But many women here are married right out of high school and have a child a year later (sometimes the child is the reason they married.)
I just feel totally and completely lost.
