Just remember that good partners dont come along every day, especially if you know you are compatable in every other way. I think what we consider to be christians is vastly different from what the bible calls christians. Most "christians" have this pre concieved notion that if you go to chruch and sign the songs your a christian man of God, but not all christians regularly attend church (usually they are wiser people and they get tired of the hypocracy and "scripture inventing") and this may be what your BF has experienced, I bet if he actually read the bible his tune would change. If you throw out the invented scripture (alot which revolves around marriage, divorce, dating and sex) there is no reason why someone would not want to become a christian. I dont think you should be throwing away relationships just because they dont go to sunday service and jump around and sing songs (which none of that is even biblical anyways other than to say do not forsake assembling), assembling can be a few of your friends who are christians talking about moral issues over A beer lol, I think the jumping around was very awkward and did not really do anything for me anyways.
Whatever you do just be smart about it, dont burn any bridges that you dont have to. Life is just as much about doing the right thing as it is about timing, opprotunities come and they go and they are very rarely in nice orgainized perfect timing with a bow on top. If you dumped him what would you do, how would you get that physical and emotional void filled. Would dumping him free up more time to read the bible?
I believe that once our lives fall apart and we are picking up pieces our lives are not going to be a post card, you have to do what you have to do to keep your sanity. Its easy for pat and joy (I just made thoes names up lol) to sit and judge with there happy marriage and 2.5 kids becasue they are not picking up the pieces and guess what I can almost gaurentee joy and pat had pre-marital sex at some point in time.
My thoughts on pre-martial sex and lusting - I almost think Jesus died for the sin of pre-marital sex since it was a natuarl urge that was given to us by God himself in our design and then made it a sin lol (except in the very narrow aspect of marriage for life). I also think it is unnatural to expect people to be celebate into the late teens and early 20s but because of the way societ has developed it is not practical to marry at 18 anymore but Gods design of us has not changed so in a way we are pre destined to sin. I am almost upset at God that we are suppose to feel guilt about pre martial sex when its how he made us and he made our society impractical to marry at an age when our hormones start to rage which would make the most sense to marry of course when we get to heaven we will find out that it is our own inturpretation of scripture that has skewed this whole issue on sex or even some of the authors of some of the books of the bible where these topics are outlined but then why allow a book to exist that has such harsh language on pre-marital sex (ie fornication) it really is a curiosity, maybe our society has created so many road blocks that its all we can do to even attempt to keep Gods laws (either through mental conditioning of gender roles or social pressure, finacial issues like trying to go to college as a married person etc). Of course when we do have sex a bond is formed and at least in myself I can feel that bond. Then with the weight of the world on us we have the chruch pointing fingers when we slip up. I know this will not be popular but I believe you have to be used a few times before you can find that perfect relationship, in otherwords you just have to get out there and do something, take some kind of action to better you life and take the good with the bad.
Do you really think people who are getting over coke use just say oh hey im a saved christian and coke is bad so im going to stop today and have tea with debbie after church, that scenario is extremely rare, your probably going to have relapses before your clean. Now refering to natural urges that are God given (regardless if they were designed for marriage or not) your not going to be like oh hey my husband beat me now I left and im going to read my bible every day and everything will be ok and I will find a knight on a white horse that meets 95% of my relationship requirements and God will bring him on a red carpet.
And after the dust settles getting the divorce will still be sad, maybe you will be thinking about what will happen when your ex dies, you hope that he finds God without you because none of us wants a mental picture of them in a casket being buryed without God no matter how bad they were, I think it was a shame when they omitted the apoclypse of peter from the bible because in that book it states that thoes in heaven can ask God for the release of thoes in hell and thoes in heaven will have the love of God and I dont think people in hell will be there long, I wonder if it was left out of the bible because it takes away the fear factor that the chruch has used for years to get people to do things (of course torment for any amount of time would not be something I would want)
