I'm trying to quit

[samdro87]

Hi,

My name is Sam, and I'm a Christian. I have struggled with self-injury on and off for about four or five years. I will manage to quit for awhile, sometimes almost a year, and then I somehow slip and get back into the problem again very quickly. This time, it's really escalated fast and I'm injuring worse than I ever had before and I'm doing it almost every day. I have been through counselling and therapy before, and I've also been through the SAFE Alternatives program. I think I have the tools, therefore, to quit, but I need some support and I think I really need to get serious about stopping this and not starting again - but I'm questioning whether it's really possible to do this, and whether I really want to. But I know that it isn't healthy and that it is going to begin to ruin my life again if I don't put a stop to it right away. I found this message board and I thought that it might help me to have the support of other Christians who understand this problem - I would also really like to be a support to other people who are struggling as well. I'm looking forward to meeting people here. Hope to talk to you all soon!

-Sam

 

[Protinus]

Hi Sam! welcome to a new beginning and hope for sustinance!!

Tell us more! and welcome!!!

JP

 

[tapero]

Welcome to the forums Sam!

 

[mitiog]

Hi Sam,

Nice of you to join us! I'm fairly new here but so far I've found everone to be really friendly and supportive. I hope you feel welcome anyway. We're all at different stages in our battle with SI and I think it's great that we can encourage others in the good times and be encouraged by others in the not so good times.

Take care,

mitiog

 

[momgreenlady]

welcome Sam. I was a cutter for 16 years and have found freedom. We all have different motives for cutting so there is no one real way to stop. The motive has got to be about God though, that is one truth that I have found. If you ever have any questions feel free to PM me or email me.

 

[kathleenmary]

hi, im kathleen. welcome to cf. i am also struggling with SI. if you want to talk, feel free to message me.

 

[chloeobrien]

Hey Sam, I too have been struggling but for about 5 or 6 years. I am currently searching for what I believe in. I too am trying to quit... I haven't been through the safe-alternatives program but have really been thinking about it for a while now. If I am not successful in therapy I may try that over the summer, so it doesn't interfere with school. I will be here if you need to talk to someone. Feel free to PM me anytime and if you want to talk more often than that let me know and I'll give you my e-mail and/or screennames. I wish you the best of luck.

much love and hugs,
Chloe

 

[mamalonglegs]

Hi,

My name is Sam, and I'm a Christian. I have struggled with self-injury on and off for about four or five years. I will manage to quit for awhile, sometimes almost a year, and then I somehow slip and get back into the problem again very quickly. This time, it's really escalated fast and I'm injuring worse than I ever had before and I'm doing it almost every day. I have been through counselling and therapy before, and I've also been through the SAFE Alternatives program. I think I have the tools, therefore, to quit, but I need some support and I think I really need to get serious about stopping this and not starting again - but I'm questioning whether it's really possible to do this, and whether I really want to. But I know that it isn't healthy and that it is going to begin to ruin my life again if I don't put a stop to it right away. I found this message board and I thought that it might help me to have the support of other Christians who understand this problem - I would also really like to be a support to other people who are struggling as well. I'm looking forward to meeting people here. Hope to talk to you all soon!

-Sam

Hi Sam:
Welcome to the forum and yes there are many here who will support you and you can be supportive of. From a Christian perspective you need to be willing to think about life from God's view. Is that something you wish to do?
Also, S.A.F.E. gave you a lot things to use to help you control your S.I. and show how to get to the root of the problem or to look at where the motivation is coming from. Have you assessed that yet? Or are you running from looking at what is going on? It can be scary and that is okay. This is why support people are a good resource. You don't have to do this alone. You can overcome if you choose to. God has provided all you need through His Word, His people, His Spirit, and prayer.
Like the others feel free to pm me. I'm a good listener. I can be quiet for you. Give comments only if you wish. Pray with and for you. I have graduated from S.A.F.E. as well. The program worked for me. I still Log and use Alternatives. Most of all as I wrote in a recent post I realize that I don't wish to harm myself because it makes me feel worse than I did before I hurt myself. I do want get better and not feel guilty, ashamed, etc... It's a journey. Sometimes we do fall. But with help, we can all get up again.
mamalonglegs

 

[0145xyz]

welcome

you will find support here

feel free to pm

 

[Im-revived]

Hi Sam, nice to meet you.

Do you find something triggers the SI of every so often, like you said you can go a while and be fine then it starts again, possibly things like feeling rejected or guilty about something. It might not be but it does sound now that its a trigger for you somewhere, when you feel you can't cope with something. Youve done well writing in here, so be proud of yourself for that.

As you really want to get to grips with this now many can pray and support you, another suggestion is if youve still got all the info you had in your counselling and SAFE remedies try rereading them, maybe talk to a close friend or your pastor too, get a contact who when the urge comes again you can ring. Just 5 mins on the phone can change your whole feelings.

Im-revived

Hi,

My name is Sam, and I'm a Christian. I have struggled with self-injury on and off for about four or five years. I will manage to quit for awhile, sometimes almost a year, and then I somehow slip and get back into the problem again very quickly. This time, it's really escalated fast and I'm injuring worse than I ever had before and I'm doing it almost every day. I have been through counselling and therapy before, and I've also been through the SAFE Alternatives program. I think I have the tools, therefore, to quit, but I need some support and I think I really need to get serious about stopping this and not starting again - but I'm questioning whether it's really possible to do this, and whether I really want to. But I know that it isn't healthy and that it is going to begin to ruin my life again if I don't put a stop to it right away. I found this message board and I thought that it might help me to have the support of other Christians who understand this problem - I would also really like to be a support to other people who are struggling as well. I'm looking forward to meeting people here. Hope to talk to you all soon!

-Sam

 

[raztaz]

Welcome hun

I am also new here.. it looks like here is good support.
keep talking
Tacke care

raztaz

 

[samdro87]

Hi,

My name is Sam, and I'm a Christian. I have struggled with self-injury on and off for about four or five years. I will manage to quit for awhile, sometimes almost a year, and then I somehow slip and get back into the problem again very quickly. This time, it's really escalated fast and I'm injuring worse than I ever had before and I'm doing it almost every day. I have been through counselling and therapy before, and I've also been through the SAFE Alternatives program. I think I have the tools, therefore, to quit, but I need some support and I think I really need to get serious about stopping this and not starting again - but I'm questioning whether it's really possible to do this, and whether I really want to. But I know that it isn't healthy and that it is going to begin to ruin my life again if I don't put a stop to it right away. I found this message board and I thought that it might help me to have the support of other Christians who understand this problem - I would also really like to be a support to other people who are struggling as well. I'm looking forward to meeting people here. Hope to talk to you all soon!

-Sam

Hi everybody,

Thanks for all the messages and support! I'm really feeling good about this - I think that this forum is going to be really helpful. I appreciate all of the offers to talk - I may take you up on it! For those of you who have sent me private messages, I will be replying to you soon, but I have to make a few more posts before I'm able to (you have to post 5 times first.) If any of you need to talk, or just want to, please pm me for my AOL screen name. It is really great to hear from all of you and thanks again for your help and support! God Bless! --Sam--