im sick of it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[peggysue17]

im the youngest in my immedeate family (sis.18, me 17). i inherited my additude problem from my dad and paw-paw. but lately my mom has gotten on my case for everything i say and do!!! i get in fights with my mom or sister everyday. if im lucky i stay out of fights. but like today, my mom and i got into yet another argument. this time it was about a late fine on my library card. somtimes yoou can bring aome cannned food upto the library and they will take fines off your card, well we were up there a while back and they said we could do that.but we had to do some clothes shopping that day so we didnt get back till it was late. about a week goes by and we all forgot about it until a couple of days agothats when my mom says " you could have gone at any time to take those cans up there." THAT IS SUCH A LIE! anytime i would have said anything about it she would say not now, now is not a good time, its to late, or somtihng along those lines! its such a little thing i know but tell that to my mom! shes always telling us not to fight over little things but shes always bringing this up or somting else up. and she never lets me defend myself! i try not to blow up or cry but that gets me in trouble too! if any body thinks they can help me PLEASE SAY SOMTHIN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[jay1_z]

Firstly, what I'm about to say may come of as me being mean but plz don't take it that way.
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Sometimes it's best to be silent. When your Mom gets upset, don't say anything. Wait until the situation cools then you talk to her. Arguing with her is not honoring her. Justifying yourself is not always needed. Sometimes we need to look at our situation and see if we are really at fault. If you had the time, was it in your ability to walk or catch the bus up to the Library? I understand that sometimes we don't feel like doing these menial things, but they need to get done and we can't expect anyone else to do them for us.

i inherited my additude problem from my dad and paw-paw

It's easy to try and justify our actions because of someone else, but we can't blame others for our shortcomings (Proverbs 28:13). This is an easy way for us to stop ourselves from receiving our blessings (I John 1:9-10). We need to confess our sins even if it's something as small as not honoring our parents. Whatever you justify, you have not repented of. If you try to explain it, then you are not sorry for it. Just say 'I was wrong and I'm sorry, plz forgive me'. Don't just say this to your Mom but also to God. When you confess something then you are saying that you agree with God that it was wrong. When you confess you will be forgiven. When you are forgiven then you can continue your relationship with God because he can't bless you when you have sin. This situation can be big or small. If you continue to argue with your mom then it's big because you're holding up your blessings. If you repent then it becomes something that is small. One last thing. Repentance isn't just asking for forgiveness. Repentance is also changing. When you repent, it means that you are asking for forgiveness and saying that you won't do it again. Hope this helps

 

[Horse Luver]

Good advice jay1_z. I agree.
"Restrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret, it only leads to the evil." Psalm 37:8

"A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control." Proverbs 29:11
It's hard to control anger, I know. Whenever you are feeling angry, pray for help.....He will. Think about what you say before you say it too. I'm not saying I do, because that's something I've gotta work on too! But if you say angry harsh words without even thinking, that's going to make things worse, and it could easily get someone's feelings hurt. I'll be praying 4 U.

HL