I don't care much about abusers, male or female. So sue me.No that was sarcasm since apparently you don't care about such men. They may leave and cannot see their kids anymore. When the laws were bad for women we needed feminism. Now that it's bad for men it doesn't matter. They can choose to stay single.
You can do the needlepoint. I am clumsy with such things. I would love to knit, sew etc., but never had managed more than sewing back on a button.How about needlepoint? I'm not going to be the one to tell Rosey he lacks in the manhood department even though he is getting old.
You got this the wrong way around. If a black person endorses a KKK website, then I would suspect self-hate. If a woman endorses an anti-woman website, the same thing. That's what I meant.This is the same thing as saying, "If you don't belong to the KKK you hate white people".
You don't hate white people do you Hetta?
For a few years before, during and after college I worked both YMCA camps and at a commercial summer camp. Especially at the commercial camp it was noticeable that some kids were dumped there and others were sent there to enjoy what the camp could provide. The kids knew. Sort of sad for the dumped ones as it provided a barrier to them having fun. (but still a barrier that the better leaders could get them over).
Looking back I'd bet that most kids would be OK if their parents missed most of their activities, as long as they tried and sometimes succeeded. If mom or dad made it to just the last quarter or the game or the last half hour of the dance recital having come straight from work what would matter most to the kid was that they made it, not that they missed part of it. Kids are fine if dad gets home so late that all that is left is to read them a bedtime story. Kids tend to forgive falling short so easily that it hardly seems forgiveness as long as they see the desire. In this case the desire to spend time with them.
Yes; the course is open to all viewpoints, and everyone is not only permitted, but encouraged to articulate our perspectives. Class discourse at my college operates significantly differently than discussions here, though. You'd be expected to cogently present a reasoned case and to be receptive of criticism of it.
And you'd seriously have to step up your act from here. I went out with most of the class afterwards for coffee on Wednesday, and actually showed them this thread and discussed it a bit. Obviously we didn't read through all 29 pages, but people pulled the thread up on their iPads and went through it reading some posts aloud. The most vehement criticism of your posts specifically were made by someone who stated he is not a feminist.
There's a difference between silence and a lack of interest in expending time in matching post-for-post on an internet forum thread. There are feminists who've participated here, but not as prolifically as you. That could simply have to do with how individuals choose to manage their time.
Not to highlight your age but I feel that it's relevant since you were in college approximately 40 years ago when less mothers had full-time jobs. It's probable that some of the kids who felt "dumped" at the camp actually had stay-at-home mothers who could have provided care for them that summer, and had valid reasons for sending them to camp. In addition to the social opportunities and ability to learn new skills, camp provides daily structure that can be very healthy. It's possible that one of the reasons their mothers wanted them to attend the camp was actually because she stayed at home and was in need of some time for herself and peace and tranquility in the home. My paternal grandmother didn't work outside the home for many years when my dad and his siblings were growing up. She did most certainly still work; she just didn't receive a paycheck. Every summer the four rambunctious boys were sent off to camp for two weeks. They genuinely wanted to go, but she also needed to, and I quote "be able to sit down for five minutes and have a cup of coffee." This was also when she and my grandfather had much-needed alone time together.
The kids who felt dumped at the YMCA camp might have also had parents who wanted them to enjoy what the camp could provide, but they still had attitudes about being there. Their attitudes might have actually been the barrier preventing them from having the fun being offered to them. One of my friends was forced to attend camp because his parents saw the benefit of it, and he resisted it and pleaded to not have to go and then to come home. His emotions were captured in dramatic letters he wrote. His mom kept the the letters and gave them to him when he started college, and his girlfriend later posted them on Instagram because they are kinda humorous and endearing. I don't think his mom worked when he was growing up.
Do you really think the husbands are feminists? Feminists are pro-women's rights, so why would a "feminist" husband force his wife to do something against her will? Or perhaps it's just that the only way they can survive financially is for her to work, and to support her kids through working? I know you prefer for women to get to play like little kids their whole lives, but I hope it's only the minority of women who are so immature and lazy.All those babies that have to go to daycare when they're 3 months old. Small kids that cry all the time when a parent leaves. One or two daycare workers with a bunch of babies and kids. Moms that want to stay with them and may not because of the money or a feminist dad who won't let her.
These kids grow up just fine. They have parents who love them and those parents find good daycare, or family members who can help with their kids. I was lucky to have time at home with them because of extended maternity leave in Europe (I had almost a year at home with mine) and by then I was glad to get back to work, because being at home full time would have made both me and the kids miserable.Ah that's good for them. They have to learn to grow up and not whine so much. I was lucky that dad could take care of them and I got kids before the crisis when you got paid for 4 days and only had to work 2 for a year with each kid.
Well good for her. I mean, what is the problem here? Although I see a lot of wasted training there. All those years studying to become a doctor and then dump it all to stay at home with the kids. Wow. I work with MDs and have many friends who are MDs, and I don't know one of them who, having been through 14-16 years of schooling, would then turn around and say "now I'm not even going to use it." Most of them got pregnant during residency or fellowship and took the time off then, but now they work in their field. Most of my female doctor friends also married doctors, and they are able to juggle their schedules so that someone is always there for the kids.What you see a lot here is because daycare is so expensive grandma's and granddads raise their grandkids while the parents work.
A friend of mine is a doctor so she earned much and had to pay extremely much for daycare. Her husband is a doctor too. She said: I'm not gonna work and give my whole salary to the daycare workers. I'll take care of my own kids.
Do you really think the husbands are feminists? Feminists are pro-women's rights, so why would a "feminist" husband force his wife to do something against her will? Or perhaps it's just that the only way they can survive financially is for her to work, and to support her kids through working? I know you prefer for women to get to play like little kids their whole lives, but I hope it's only the minority of women who are so immature and lazy.
Stay at home moms are immature and lazy? Wow! Have you ever met my mom? She is up at 5am everyday and balances children, a farm, being a pastors wife and community activities. No one would ever describe her as being lazy. It's actually pretty sad how women who chose to stay home have to defend themselves to other women who think this.
These kids grow up just fine. They have parents who love them and those parents find good daycare, or family members who can help with their kids.
Why not raise your own kids? Instead of depending on others who might have different values and ideas that you don't.
I was lucky to have time at home with them because of extended maternity leave in Europe (I had almost a year at home with mine) and by then I was glad to get back to work, because being at home full time would have made both me and the kids miserable.
Being at home is hard work isn't it? Investing yourself in your children and raising them is hard work. Being at home full time isn't an easy road is it? Why would you be miserable raising your own children? Why would it make your children miserable? That makes no sense to me. Of course, it's hard work and often boring and maybe not even stimulating to be with children all day but it's an investment. Everything we do in life...EVERYTHING...is what we chose to make it.
Well good for her. I mean, what is the problem here? Although I see a lot of wasted training there. All those years studying to become a doctor and then dump it all to stay at home with the kids. Wow. I work with MDs and have many friends who are MDs, and I don't know one of them who, having been through 14-16 years of schooling, would then turn around and say "now I'm not even going to use it." Most of them got pregnant during residency or fellowship and took the time off then, but now they work in their field. Most of my female doctor friends also married doctors, and they are able to juggle their schedules so that someone is always there for the kids.
I know plenty of women who spent years in school and decided to stay home after they had children. They wouldn't change that for the world. Investing themselves into their children is far more fulfilling to them then a career. Having 'someone' there for their kids isn't good enough for them. Childhood is very short.
The thing all this moaning and complaining about working moms seems to forget is that, in a few years, kids go to full time school. There is no reason for anyone to be at home when the kids are at school, lol. What exactly is it that those moms are doing for their kids when they are at school 8am-4pm?
Please tell me you are kidding right? So many stay at home parents are so involved in their communities ...on school boards, working at their children's schools, lunch monitors, and so on. Not to mention that it is a full time job to be at home They don't sit at home watching soap operas while their kids are at school. Attitudes that say what you are actually demean women too. It's so frustrating to me when I read other women saying such things. Spend a day with my mother and dare to say she is lazy and immature with nothing to do. As well, not all families chose to send their children to school either. It's about time we stop judging and start supporting all women in their choices.
Oh driving them to the school door, picking them up from the school door, because God forbid they have to get on a bus and deal with the real world. Helicopter parenting is a major problem in the US and it begins with exactly this kind of behavior. Then you have college age students who have to get mommy and daddy into their advising sessions, and waive FERPA so that their parents make all their decisions for them. Where do you think that ends? We have medical students who still want their parents to sit in for their advising. It's pathetic. When do they ever get to meet the world on its terms when parents are at their elbow from birth to adulthood? It's not like that in Europe. I made my own way to school with my siblings from 3rd grade, and how I wish we had remained there so my kids got that kind of life. But even then, my kids took the school bus here (and one still does). They were expected to have independence and make many of their own decisions. Most American kids don't have independence until they go away to college, and that is why so many of them go utterly wild.
Hmm..? When I wrote about short men, I wasn't just writing about myself but all shorter men. Despite how some may think I portray myself here, I am actually tolerant towards derogatory comments against small men. The only thing I expect is equal treatment with the genders. I'll laugh at comedies like the Simpsons and Family guy when they make fun of shorter men (especially if the joke is pretty harsh). The thing about these shows is that they make fun of everyone, including heavier and older looking women. Yet I will gladly rage at a woman's talk show that spends countless segments talking about how all body types of women are beautiful but sadly often take pot shots at shorter men
I'm open for people having different stances, all I ask is for people to be consistent. What angered me is that you women just defended the women. Why not defend the other shorter men here? If you defended neither I would have been fine with it too.
I never had the opportunity to continue being harsher to shorter men. You women only defended my comments regarding older women so I simply had to defend my original statements. If you brought up shorter men, I would have done the same thing too. The only difference being I would probably be less harsh regarding short and older women in my future posts, since I wouldn't have the anger of the inequality of your actions to egg me on.
Biologically I think I'm more spot on than many would like to admit. Also the men arguing against my assertions seemed to miss the point that I was simply talking about physical attraction when they listed the reasons they found older women more attractive was because of emotional maturity etc..
Where? The only post I saw defending shorter men was from a guy. He was defending women too, so in his case he was consistent.It still goes back to you, making the mess, and whinging, when others don't clean it all up for you. There were still posts, from women & men, saying, no, that's not true that all women prefer taller men, etc.
Really? Because most of the original points I made about women I also applied to shorter men.. I didn't see myself being more rude to women's body issues. I had to write a little more about older women from the start, but that is because others already introduced the idea women prefer taller men.There wasn't, nearly as much, of a defense, as you had not slung mud, at short men, nearly as much, as you had at "older" women (as in, women the same age, as yourself, and older). The original post you wrote, about shorter men, and "older women," it was far ruder, towards women. You didn't make it a balanced offence, with your insults, from the start. Other people, they were consistent, yes.
Uh, there are biological reasons for why men prefer younger women too. In fact my age of 25 being the tipping point was me being pretty generous. At the end of the day biology gives men and women plenty of reasons to be shallow.You weren't writing, for biology lessons, MehGuy. You were being spiteful. Someone, had accidentally upset you, about a comment, about favouring taller men. You then, wanted to rage, about women, in childish retaliation. You were writing, about how repulsive, arid, unattractive, ect, ect, etc, women were after the age of 25. It wasn't about biology, it about MehGuy. All completely rude & unnecessary. Biologically, there are evolutionary reasons, for why taller men, are preferred. Yet, nobody was making such disparaging comments, about short men, in that thread, like you were making nasty comments, about women. You made one comment, lightly, self-deprecating, about shorter men. Most of your posts, along with posts that quoted you, were deleted, as they were flaming.
I'm floored that this is really the stance that anti-feminism takes and that some men agree with it. So the little princesses want to remain princesses and if they have to go to work to help support their family, they're all boo hoo hoo, it's not fair, I wanted to stay home and play. Geez. How entitled can anyone get? I suppose that their husbands are working every hour that comes their way, but that's okay. Let the old man die of a heart attack at 60, so long as I can play all day. It's sickening.
Feminism should mean supporting choices WHATEVER they may be.
wow, heck froze over, I totally agree with you.I'm floored that this is really the stance that anti-feminism takes and that some men agree with it. So the little princesses want to remain princesses and if they have to go to work to help support their family, they're all boo hoo hoo, it's not fair, I wanted to stay home and play. Geez. How entitled can anyone get? I suppose that their husbands are working every hour that comes their way, but that's okay. Let the old man die of a heart attack at 60, so long as I can play all day. It's sickening.
Somewhat different in US, I know a lot of stay at home moms who I wouldn't pay to watch my kids ( wouldn't let them watch my kids even if they paid me) with husbands busting themselves to support the family and getting nagged out when they do get home for " not doing their share". Not pretty.Dutch men don't get a heart attack from working. I never dated one who had a job. The ones that have don't work more than 40 hours. Most work 32 and have a dads day. That's because we don't need luxury like big expensive houses and cars. A bike and a 2 room rent apartment are really cheap here. We value free time and time with the kids over money, so we don't get enslaved by that nonsense.
Women who care for their husband who works 40 hours, clean up and take care of a bunch of kids full time work hard enough.
Why force them to work? In daycare maybe? Take care of someone elses baby? And then give 1/3 of their income to unemployed totally healthy men?
Gosh I hate feminism.
Terrible, yes then I understand the comment.Somewhat different in US, I know a lot of stay at home moms who I wouldn't pay to watch my kids ( wouldn't let them watch my kids even if they paid me) with husbands busting themselves to support the family and getting nagged out when they do get home for " not doing their share". Not pretty.