I'm naked.

[FranklinNoble]

I never bought a "nice" wedding ring... all I've ever had was a cheap silver band with her name carved on it that I got for like $30 at a harvest festival. It doesn't fit very well, and I don't wear it anymore.

My parents have been married for 32+ years and my dad has never worn his. I just don't care for jewelry of any sort. I work on computers for a living, and I'd rather not have it on my finger.

I talk about my wife all the time, and I have pictures all over my office, so there's no doubt amongst my co-workers that I'm married. I'm certainly not trying to "look" like I'm not chained down or anything.

That said, I know my wife would probably be happier if I had a wedding band, so when I can afford one, I'm going to buy a nice one that fits well, and hope that I can live with it.

 

[Sascha Fitzpatrick]

Kelly,

DH = Dear Husband (or DARN, depending on the mood!)

 

[FranklinNoble]

What does DH mean? I've seen it a few times online.

Designated Hitter.

It's a rule that's only used in the American League, and most baseball purists think it should be abolished.

 

[poetmom4]

A year ago May I fell playing softball and broke two fingers- one being my wedding ring finger. It swelled up so fast that we had to cut my ring off- that hurt worse than the broken fingers. I got the ring fixed, but couldn't wear it until the swelling went down. I wore it for a couple of months and lost 25 pounds and then it was too big. So a week ago I finally went down and had it resized- two sizes down. And now I can wear it again and I'm so happy. I understand the naked feeling not having it on.

 

[Sharae]

However, I'm married in my heart, and never use the absence of a ring to look at other men in an inappropriate way.

That's a very good point! My hubby & I have been happily married for 17 1/2 years and neither of us wears a ring. The in-laws were very concerned that we 'look married' and so we had the ring ceremony at our wedding and we did wear them on and off for a couple of years, but we both didn't feel any really special attachment to them. We're best friends, lovers, soul-mates, parents of 3 beautiful children and commited to a relationship with Jesus and each other ......I guess we just kinda felt that a ring didn't really symbolise all we were to each other. It just goes so much deeper that it doesn't really matter whether strangers know that we're married just by looking at our ring fingers. I do think the idea of tatoo'd rings is groovy......maybe we can do that on our 20'th anniversary!

Speaking of rings though, do you really think that it helps to deter people from hitting on you or your spouses?

I don't think wearing a ring deters people from hitting on you - in fact I think some people feel safer 'flirting' with someone who is not really available than with someone who might seriously 'flirt back'. A married friend of mine (who has never taken off her wedding ring) flirts outragously with married men too, and she just laughs and says 'what's a ring between friends?' The respect you have for your spouse rather than the importance in the presence or absence of a ring is what makes marriages safe and happy. (Wow, that was rather wordy.......I'll step down off my soap-box now!) It's really a matter of, if it's important to YOU, then do it!

Happy marriages everyone!

 

[Lena75]

My hubby's not allowed to wear jewellery at work so that includes his wedding band. However, he does wear it right after work on Fridays so he can at least wear it all weekend! I rarely take mine off for anything!