I'm naked.

[Kelly]

That got your attention!

What I mean by "I'm naked" is that I forgot to put my wedding band back on after I showered this morning. Yeah, I know...I'm just the type who has to remove all items when I shower, ok?

I've been feeling this little, nonexistant 'ghost ring' on my ring finger. Feeling the band of pale, shiny skin where it's supposed to be. My finger feels unnaturally light. Looking at my finger, it has an indentation right there, like the ring has been acting like a finger girdle for these 7 years I've worn it. When I put my fingers together, the telltale metal against skin feeling isn't there.

I thought about calling my wife and telling her that I forgot it, but she's undoubtedly been in the bathroom and saw it on the counter. A little piece of metal, alone it is without meaning. But without it I feel naked, like I'm missing a part of myself.

There are married guys I work with, older, who NEVER wear their wedding bands. Their fingers don't show this discrepancy. I've never asked them why they don't wear them, but I've always wanted to. I assume, possibly incorrectly, that it's because they don't want to look 'tied down'. Who knows. All I know is when I get home today, I'm heading right upstairs and putting it back on.

 

[bkg]

That got your attention!

Not sure what's worse.... your title... or the fact that I opened the thread...

 

[Serenity Now!]

My dh always took off his ring in the bathroom and left it on top of the toilet seat! Many times he'd go to work forgetting to put it back on. I felt so badly. Of course he lost it. He blames our daughter that perhaps she flushed it down the toilet.

Anyway, I lost 120something pounds and now my wedding ring doesn't fit, and we haven't had the money to get it resized. Boy, has his tune ever changed! He wants a new wedding ring, and he wants mine fixed. He doesn't like me going around w/out a wedding ring on!

Your wife is blessed. You are obviously worried about not wearing your ring. Bless both of you!

 

[redwing030]

I did the same thing today also. I took my rings off to put some goop in my hair before I dried it and forgot to put all my rings back on. I hate when I forget them. My hands just feel funny w/o them there. I miss them!

 

[Kelly]

I've lost about 30 lbs and when I bathe the kids, the combination of soap and water makes mine fall off easily. Then there's two risks -down the drain or baby tries to eat it. Gotta act quick!

 

[okiemommy26]

Mine wont come off my finger my hubby got it sized where it fits and doesnt want to come off lol but if i tried hard enough it would. I dont ever take it off and neither does hubby. My dad on the other doesnt wear a ring because he was in the miltary and when he was in it he lost it and they never got a new one. My mom lost her stone out of her first set so she never wore it that i can remember she has a ring now that she wears but she doesnt wear it all the time cause where she used to work mostly with food they couldnt wear rings. I know what you mean by some men not wanting to wear them because they dont want to show they are married.
Your wife is lucky to have someone care that much about it.

 

[Kokopelli]

Kelly - unfortunately I know that feeling. I always take my band off in the mornings when I put gel in my hair, mainly because I don't want crusted gel on it. But I forgot one morning, and it drove me up a wall all day.

 

[Jenna]

When we were first married, my ring was on all the time. However, one day I was doing laundry, and when I went to grab some clothes, my ring just slid right off my finger. I had lost a lot of weight, and it just wouldn't stay on. My husband wanted to get me a better ring (mine was a simple 10k band), but the real good jewelry gives me a rash. I think that I went for the better part of a year without my wedding ring. I did wonder sometimes what other people thought when I would walk around without a ring on. However, I'm married in my heart, and never use the absence of a ring to look at other men in an inappropriate way.

I am happy that my normally naked finger has a nice, shiney silver band now. I don't itch or burn, and it actually fits. Wedding rings are a blessing for naked fingers. lol

Speaking of rings though, do you really think that it helps to deter people from hitting on you or your spouses? There was a girl in my husband's office who kept flirting with him and being dumb even though he wears his ring proudly. Some people really don't seem to care about those rings or promises at all. It's pretty frustrating when that happens.

 

[EmSchmem]

Deterred? Heck no... my husband jokes that he's never been so hot as he has been since he got married. It doesn't bother me. Most often he repots how ugly the chicks are. He gets flirted with my lots of junior high and high schooloers though which cracks me up! They always tell me with big eyes how lucky I am to be married to Graig and how they want husbands like him!

 

[~PICKLE~]

I have the perfect ring~~~~~~~it never comes off, nor falls off. Can't lose it, can't pwn it. Ya know why, Cause we both have tattoed wedding bands. It only cost $50 a piece and we both wanted it. Like I said it has no worries of ever being lost or stolen, or sold, LOL

 

[LadyBird]

My dad never wore his wedding band. And I always wondered why. To me, it seems like a very important symbol. Something that represents more than just a piece of jewellary and the fact that you are married, but commitment and love. And I sure hope that my husband will always wear his. Because I always will when I get married. When I see men who wear their wedding bands, I just think it's so cute, I know cute eh? But I just think it's wonderful. Stupid I know.

 

[Kelly]

I have the perfect ring~~~~~~~it never comes off, nor falls off. Can't lose it, can't pwn it. Ya know why, Cause we both have tattoed wedding bands. It only cost $50 a piece and we both wanted it. Like I said it has no worries of ever being lost or stolen, or sold, LOL

That's one way to solve the problem!

 

[andiesmama]

I feel naked without mine, the only time I take my rings off (band & engagement) is when I'm making goopy stuff like hamburgers or meatloaf!! My DH takes his off when he plays golf & puts it on his key ring...sometimes I have to remind him to put it back on!!

 

[bkg]

Been thinking and for some reason wanted to respond...


I NEVER took my wedding band off with one exception: welding.

My wedding band is my Father's wedding band (he died in '99). When I decided to use his ring, I knew I had to learn from his mistake and not wear it when welding. In the early 90's, he was welding somethiung in the garage and arched the welder to his wedding ring - burned his finger almost to the bone... he had to cut off the ring. But the wedding ring was replaced with a very nice burn scar... Mom had the ring rebuilt and put in a safety deposit box, where it sat until I was married.

Today, I still wear the ring and it never comes off. It is worn both as a reminder of my father, and as a reminder of the covenant with God and my wife. I do wear it on a different finger, however.

bkg

 

[Ringu]

I always wear my ring. And in the bath as well. Because it just fits perfectly. And also because I feel weird without it. Just really got used to it.

Interesting that my wife wants a second wedding ring. Because she is in the US and you wear your rings on the left hand and we wear it on the right one. And she feels weird to change it to the left, which I agree with, but she tells me that guys there think she is not married because she does not have her wedding band on the left hand finger.

 

[Sascha Fitzpatrick]

Unfortunately, when the time comes for my wedding, I'll have to live with my rings being off my finger for work.

I'm a theatre nurse, so when I scrub, I have to have all hand jewellery off. I hated it when I was engaged last time, but like most others, I learnt to wear the ring on a chain around my neck.

Fortunately the bf I have now understands and knows that whether I will wear it or not does not bring my loyalty to him under question. Doesn't mean that I WON'T get a ring though - just too much of a 'given' for me.

Sasch

 

[andiesmama]

Hey, mrspickle had an idea....how do you feel about tattoos???

 

[Ringu]

tattoos instead of weddin bands? or what?

 

[flyin high]

I always forget to put my wedding band back on. Because of the sport I participate in, I don't wear any jewelry, so my wedding band ends up in some strange places. My car, any bag that i am carrying, tied on my shoe, etc...

Sometimes on the weekends, I will shower or be doing house work and take it off...the the DH and I will go to run errands and i will forget to put it back on. I always wonder if people think that i am my DH's mistress, since he usually has his on and I don't have mine on?

 

[Kelly]

What does DH mean? I've seen it a few times online.