I'm confused.

[Prayerforthepeople]

I recently came to terms with the fact that I have feelings for guys... not girls. It took alot of work, I hated myself for a long time, but with the help of my friend Kelsey, I realized it wasnt my fault that I liked boys and men, not girls and women. But as I tried to reach out for suppot in my church, I was shoved away and told I was sick, just when I started to feel like I wasn't some gross freak. I don't think God hates me, God is loving, God is fair.

I don't know what to do! I'm so lost, so confused... I dont know what to do!

 

[creidibh]

I don't think it's what you feel that is a problem, it is how you deal with it and act on it.

The best suggestion I can think of is to pray to God and tell him you don't know what to do, that you want to do what is right and to help you find whatever that is.

 

[feline]

Lots of people have been in the same situation you are. Please find a church that welcomes and supports gays and lesbians. And you are right, God loves you, and the fact that you are gay will not change that....
Now get ready, because a bunch of people are going to post after this and accuse you of all kinds of things and question your salvation. Ignore them, and find that church.

 

[Leader of the Banned]

I knew two men who repented from homosexuality when they turned to Christ. Phil 2:13 For it is God which worketh in you both to will and to do of his good pleasure. Pray for Him to do this.

 

[QUIC]

I'm with feline on this one.
The sooner you accept who you are, the sooner you will be able to concentrate on your love for Jesus.

Mind picture for you:
It appears that your sexuality right now is like carrying a huge weight on your shoulders. Fighting it your self and struggling against the weight will only make it harder and more tiring for you. Pushing it right up with your arms towards God and asking him to take it away from you will only make you weaker while waiting for him to take it (which rarelly happens).

The only way to relieve your self of the weight is to either train your self to use the weight to your (and God's) advantage, or to just throw it down and try to forget about it (Easier said than done right?)

Not sure if that helps

Cheers

Daniel

 

[KTskater]

Please know that God loves you and nothing you ever do can change that. He'll love you even if you murder 100 people. But just because he loves you does not make it right.
The Bible is clear on sexual immorality of all kinds. It is not pure, it is not Christ-like.
You have two options, my dear brother, you can take the path that many follow and give in to this sin, then try to justify it as many Christian's accuse you of this sin.
Or you can do what God asks and repent, God can change your heart. He has begun to do it for me. He can do it for you.

Remember God won't call somthing a sin unless there is better way.

 

[Prayerforthepeople]

Thank you all for you help. And creidibh and feline, I'll go look for that church.

 

[The-Doctor]

It has already been said but I'm going to say it again anyway. God will love you no matter what you do or who you are. I agree with Feline, find another church who accepts you for you.

 

[apologia25]

Dear friend,
Some say that there is wisdom among much counsel, but we have to be discerning what is per se good counsel. The church of today is not so confortable with the topic of homosexuality. I want to encourage you that God's will for your life as written in 1 thessalonians 4:3 is our sanctification and of abstaining from all sexual immorality. I was about your age when I really started questioning about
why I liked other guys and not really girls. It is hard being 15 much less being gay and 15. That verse in 1 thessalonians tells us that to avoid all sexual immorality. Brother 1 cor 10:13 tells us that there is no sin that is uncommon and that God is faithful to not test you beyond what you can take. Did you read that right? Yes all sin is common. I say this because right now the devil wants you to feel left out like a freak ostracized. It is then that he will lead you down the wrong path. God's will regardless of love for women or men is your sanctification. That means your body set apart for Him to be holy. Do you want to be holy? I am sure you do and going to a church that allow homosexuality is not the right step. ANy sex outside of marriage is wrong and not acceptable.
Now maybe what I am telling you do not want to hear. Maybe what you want to hear is that it is okay to remain gay. Well I tell you it is not okay to remain a liar, or adulterer, or thief or whatever. Society has lied to us bro and told us that it is natural to be gay, but it is not. I think I have written enough for now. But I encourage you to write me and we will correspond. I am here for you if you need me

 

[KevinC]

God, in a sense ,accepts you as you are. The only thing people are not saying is that he is unwilling to leave you that way. God chastises those he loves. He gave the word as a guide to know what to do and not do.He also gave the spirit as a guide. These things bear witness of what is pleasing to God.This being said, we know from his word that homosexuality is wrong. This is not a made-up rule in the 21st century. This is a biblical mandate.Accepting that will not be easy, but the christian life never is. You can pray that the feelings not be there but that might not change. Paul had his thorn in the flesh(whatever that was)all his life, but he still led a fruitfull christian life.DENYING SELF is the key. It is not about what we want, or think is fair. God is the judge.

 

[headedhome]

Your being sold a lie by many in the Church community. Don't accept this story that God created you gay, it's a lie from hell. We are all born in sin, thanks to mans fall in the garden of eden, its our choice whether we continue to live in it or not. God didn't make anyone gay. Jesus wil deliver us from this just like He will all sin. You may not be perfect in this life, you won't be. This may always be a sin you will struggle with. Don't ever except it though. I battle with Same Sex attraction but know I must keep looking to the Lord. Same sex togetherness is a sin, God makes this clear regardless of what man says.
Are people born to be live a life of Adultry, or the life of a pedophile, or any other sin, no. It's people's sin of choosing. We are born in Sin God provides us a way out. If we accept His way He'll cover us with grace. When we screw up Gods grace covers us and we will then be convicted of our sin. Thank god for His forgiveness and go on sinning no more. We just can't accept it as a way of life. Not a Christians life,it's not a way of life, it's a way of death.

 

[aric714]

Man we are stillin our teenage years and have so many things to figure out and try. Our hormones are so messed up and this whole thing could be a faze. I don't really want to get in to depth here with it but if you want just e-mail me or whatever and we can talk more.