Im confused and need help

[kittypanda]

I really need help and prayer because I feel lost and confused and in desperate need of help.
A week ago my husband told me he was bisexual,I told him that that was a sin of the flesh and needed to get rid of anything that could make him fall in any type of temptation.He did but was very angry at me so he decided to stop eating and started cutting himself he wud then come to me show me the wounds telling me it was my fault.I was a recovering cutter and seeing that broke my heart.He also spent alot of time with gay friends and texting them often.That hurt me alot, but never said anything.One day I found that he secretly had gone back to the websites we had agreed he wud not look at.I couldnt carry the cross of him being upset at me.One night he had a suicide crisis and went to the hospital for a weekend.Never even telling me where it was or anything.His parents would not share information on the matter.I fell into deep depression and went back to cutting.I cant eat i cant sleep all i do is cry and pray to God.He was out a day before thanksgiving and i wasnt allowed to go to the dinner so i spent it home alone.I cant take it anymore.His mom says he loves me but he needs time alone,he wont text or talk to me and i cant even go to church anymore if he is going.He says i smother him and needs time alone.I have no family,he has his family for support but I have no friends or family,just God.I am confused hurt and scared I might be losing the man I love.I dont know what to do,my cutting is getting worse and it will be a week without food or sleep.I need advise on how to handle this desperatly.

 

[AManInNeedOfSupport]

You cannot do this on your own. You must seek help from a counselor or someone you can trust. Both of you have serious personal issues, as well as marital issues, which need addressing, but the first and most important of these is the issue with self inflicted injury. Get up, go out, and find someone to talk to about your pain. If you can't go to his church, go to another one (any christian church) and ask to speak to a pastor or counselor. Tell them you've been cutting yourself and you need help. If they cannot help you, move on to the next church until you find someone who can help. This is a life or death matter... don't wait one minute! Get out of your house and find help NOW.


Here are some more places where you can receive help over the phone and online:

*selfinjury.com - S.A.F.E. Alternatives® – Referrals for therapists and tips for how to stop.

*1-800-273-TALK – A 24-hour crisis hotline if you’re about to self-harm or are in an emergency situation.

*To Write Love On Her Arms (TWLOHA.com - To Write Love on Her Arms) - A non-profit movement dedicated to presenting hope and finding help for people struggling with depression, addiction, self-injury, and suicide.

*1-800-SUICIDE – Hotline for people contemplating suicide.

*1-800-334-HELP – Self Injury Foundation’s 24-hour national crisis line.

*1-800-799-SAFE – Domestic violence hotline.

 

[kittypanda]

Today I found out that he is in love with a 17 yr old kid and that he wants to separate which he has not talked to me about i found out by a third party.My husband is 25 years old and is completely blinded by this new lifestyle I have no idea what to do or where to go he just started his medication so might be that his medicine is contributing to his lack of understanding of whats going on.I dont know what to do anymore please pray for our relationship.He was just talking to his dad that he loved me a couple of days ago and now i find out that he is lieing.I am at the edge of a precipice and need God's guidance on what to do.I havent had my period in 2 months so theres a chance I might be pregnant so if he does decide to divorce i will be homeless and pregnant.Please pray for me =(

 

[Johnnz]

Are you part of a church where you can get some support and wise counsel? You should not be carrying all of that alone.

John
NZ

 

[anonym00s]

Whatever you do, do not be one of those wives that smothers him. The worst thing you can do, I believe, is smother him by demanding to know every detail of where he has been, what he's been doing, try to control him, etc. Doing that will drive him underground and he will probably avoid you and lead a double life. Do you make these demands? Do you belittle him and try to tell him what to do? Obviously leading a double life and going into bisexuality is wrong but you can only control your own actions. I am just saying from my experiences and what I have seen in others that going overboard to try to control what he does and being demanding will drive him underground and away.

 

[kittypanda]

he left me his parents didnt want me at the house anymore so i have no home im pregnant and nowhere to go.I learned everyone knew he had been cheating on me with this kid for a while and he doesnt love me anymore.He doesnt want the baby and doesnt wanna see me ever again i cannot believe his family helped him through it all.Homeless an alone on christmas is not gonna be fun at all.I really need a miracle

 

[Ortho_Cat]

praying for you Kittypanda...

 

[anonym00s]

also praying for you Kittypanya...

 

[Formuzik2]

Where is your family in all this?

 

[kittypanda]

i have none i was an only daughter and my parents died

 

[in His shadow]

You need to get plugged into a church ASAP to have accountability for any temptations that might arise during this tribulation, sister. Take the initiative to find a Truth teaching church with godly people who will help you out. Pray pray pray.

You and your husband are in my prayers.

 

[Jupiter Drops]

He's not a victim. Your husband is selfish.

I'm sorry you have to go through this. I do hope that you seek help at a trustworthy and helpful church soon. And no matter what, keep praying!! And let others pray with you, and keep your faith with God. These may be the toughest times, but you will come out victorious!!

 

[TheTrueWord]

I'm very sorry:-( I'll pray for you. My suggestion is that you leave this guy and distance yourself from all these problems. His cross shouldn't be yours to bear. It seems that his problems are keeping you from having a healthy marriage. So either talk to a counselor or just pray to God to help you find a way out of this. There's no need for you to go through all this pain, you didn't do anything wrong!