I'm bisexual and I hate it!

[john1234]

I am attracted to both sexes, I have a bigger attraction on the same sex, guys, and I hate it so much. I don't like being bi at all and I don't understand why I have these feelings. I wish they would all go away. I pray everynight for god to help me through this. I know that being bisexual is wrong, but it seems like I can't help it. Someone please help me!

 

[HomeChicklet]

Hey

First of all you can get through this if you depend on God fully. Keep praying and fill your mind with His word. Make sure yu are spending time in His word.

Secondly I think for now it would be wise for you to not date at all. Just to keep that attraction down just say no to dating anyone.

I can tell this somewhat scares you as well. It would me too. I can also tell its making you angry. Try to not let it do that. That is Satan finding the advantage for him in this situation. Know that God does forgive you for anything you do wrong and that being attracted to the same sex is a sin but God is faithful and just and will forgive you.

Refrain from being alone with a guy. Make sure you are in a group. Try spending some time with a large group of both guys and girls together. Hormones do some crazy things I have been attracted to a girl before and some things happened and I know that GOd has forgiven me for it and it will NEVER happen again.

You can get through this. Don't doubt the power of God. He will help you

I have a few questions for you and you can PM me to give me the answers or ansewr it on here I don't care which.

Not to invade personal space

Was your dad always around in your life? Are you parents divorced and if so which did you live with?

Its proven that those who are bi or gay is because that particular parent was not in the home. That could be one reason keep talking to me and I will get some advice for you tonight at church and PM it to you.

Love you in Christ
Here to encourage
Mandy

 

[KTskater]

Join the club, I hate it too. I wish nothing more for it too be gone, weather it's sin or not. The fact that lusting after anyone is wrong (besides your spouse) makes me hate it even more.

The only thing you can do to crucify these urges is to take them and hand them over to God, ask him to change you and stay in the spirit everyday.
Just don't let your mind wander about, keep it in check. But if you feel youself lusting, forcus on God somehow. Prayer, scripture or worship in great.

 

[bluedart]

Remember change is a process. You may also want to join a group of men that struggles with the same thing for support and accountability. You can't do it alone. God set us up for community. I know a couple people who struggled with this same thing and have had victory in Christ. Some of them are happily married. Remember we can do all things in Christ even if it takes some time.

Billy Graham once said, "God accepts us the way we are but He doesn't leave us that way."

Peace in Christ!

 

[janny108]

I think one thing that would help is how you look at women and men. Do we look at them as potential sexual objects or can we choose to look at them as someone God created? Have you talked to a pastor or someone in a counseling position to find out why you are you having these feelings? I'm sure they could help you further. It is right to feel angry about it. Pain or anger signals there is a problem somewheres.

Jan

 

[kingzjewel]

I agree with the other posters....keep following Christ

 

[Annoula]

hello there...

i don't know if i can be of any help but because i am accustomed with some medical issues ....an idea is to check your hormonal levels....
i don't know but maybe some times hormones could play a role.

good luck, all the best!

 

[jenniferstell]

Work on looking at all men and women as your sisters and brothers. That's what I do to keep from looking at women in a sexual way. You can't help the first thought that pops into your head, but you can surely help whether or not you dwell on that thought and how much power you give it. Work on taking away the power of the thought rather than working on changing it all. One step at a time and pray, pray, pray!

 

[Cristiano]

I think that much of what you said is very helpful and with good intention, but you have to be kidding when you say "It is proven that those who are bi or gay is because a particular parent was not in the home" Either you don't struggle with this or you've been misinformed and have fallen into a viewpoint that the world holds against homosexuality and bisexuality...If you struggle with this, you would probably know that no one fits into a perfect box that has been created by phycological "research". I was raised in one of the best families there could be, with BOTH parents (male and female BTW) in the home and a close-knit extended family. For as long as I can remember, I have been attracted to other guys. I remember being very little and being curious about other boys, not about other girls. I respect that you are trying to help us, but putting those who struggle with same-sex attraction into a box doesn't help. Most of us Christians were raised in regular homes and feel that we have had an innate desire from the very beginning (although I am not condoning it). My hope is that this forum opens up the minds of people who do not struggle with this. May God bless.
Cristiano

Hey

First of all you can get through this if you depend on God fully. Keep praying and fill your mind with His word. Make sure yu are spending time in His word.

Secondly I think for now it would be wise for you to not date at all. Just to keep that attraction down just say no to dating anyone.

I can tell this somewhat scares you as well. It would me too. I can also tell its making you angry. Try to not let it do that. That is Satan finding the advantage for him in this situation. Know that God does forgive you for anything you do wrong and that being attracted to the same sex is a sin but God is faithful and just and will forgive you.

Refrain from being alone with a guy. Make sure you are in a group. Try spending some time with a large group of both guys and girls together. Hormones do some crazy things I have been attracted to a girl before and some things happened and I know that GOd has forgiven me for it and it will NEVER happen again.

You can get through this. Don't doubt the power of God. He will help you

I have a few questions for you and you can PM me to give me the answers or ansewr it on here I don't care which.

Not to invade personal space

Was your dad always around in your life? Are you parents divorced and if so which did you live with?

Its proven that those who are bi or gay is because that particular parent was not in the home. That could be one reason keep talking to me and I will get some advice for you tonight at church and PM it to you.

Love you in Christ
Here to encourage
Mandy

 

[njcl]

i can only sympathise with your dillema and tell you many of pauls converts from greece were homosexuals so that proves the holy spirit can banish this desire within people,same with lesbians i suppose,many many men have homosexual desires,i did when i was a teen,its just finding your sexuality,once i dated my first women i knew i was not gay but just confused,anyway i pray you found a solution to your needs

 

[KTskater]

I think that much of what you said is very helpful and with good intention, but you have to be kidding when you say "It is proven that those who are bi or gay is because a particular parent was not in the home" Either you don't struggle with this or you've been misinformed and have fallen into a viewpoint that the world holds against homosexuality and bisexuality...If you struggle with this, you would probably know that no one fits into a perfect box that has been created by phycological "research". I was raised in one of the best families there could be, with BOTH parents (male and female BTW) in the home and a close-knit extended family. For as long as I can remember, I have been attracted to other guys. I remember being very little and being curious about other boys, not about other girls. I respect that you are trying to help us, but putting those who struggle with same-sex attraction into a box doesn't help. Most of us Christians were raised in regular homes and feel that we have had an innate desire from the very beginning (although I am not condoning it). My hope is that this forum opens up the minds of people who do not struggle with this. May God bless.
Cristiano

It has not been proven, persay. But it is one of the many factors that many homosexual/bisexuals share. Many lesbains were raped by men when they were younger, causing them to distrust men. I mean if you spent all your time with the opposet sex (having a lack of friends who are of the same-sex is also a factor) you would start to act like the opposet sex...

 

[madison1101]

Great advice from the previous posters. I just want to add that you might want to get into the Word of God and pray for God to minister to your heat and mind through your study. Get into a good Bible study, and learn about God, and His plans for His people, and the love and mercy He bestows on us.

Also, get involved in a good church.

Trish

 

[jezic]

focus on Jesus. He can accomplish everything in your soul. Try to enter more deeply into a relationship with him everyday. Focus on loving him.

If you do this to the fullest you begin to gradually approach perfect chastity and Christian perfection as far as is attainable on earth.