Illness/death

[c1ners]

I am not divorced, so I hope it's okay that I post in here. But I do have a question regarding a divorced friend. My bestfriend just found out that his exwife has stage four ovarian cancer. They have two sons together that are older but still live with the mom. One is 19 and one is 24. Both boys going to college.

I'm not sure what, if anything, to do to help him through this. He says he is fine and just worried about the boys, but wouldn't you still have a connection with a person you had children with? Wouldn't there be a part of you that would grieve for this person?

If your ex was dying and you had children with that person, what (if anything) would you want or expect for your friends to do to help you deal with it?

 

[FaithPrevails]

In my situation, I would grieve for my children and their loss. But, I would not experience any personal grief.

If my friends know my children, then it would be meaningful to me if they reached out to my children. If they didn't, then just being supportive if I needed to talk about my feelings/reactions to watching them deal with the illness/death/grief would be what I would need.