If they really interested...

[SOLDIER ❤]

Okay so psychologize me and call frida lay but... yeah this question has been one for me. I mean... If they were interested they would show some form of interest. That's all I'm saying. I don't have guys approach me much and the only time I notice they really like me is if they continue their pursuit.

In addition... If I like someone I will pursue them, but I think my whole main point is the pursuit (When it comes to me. No anyone else, but for me.) will end on my behalf when the guy shows absolutely no interest in me what so ever I stop trying. That's my whole point. I guess.

 

[Rhamiel]

Beneficial according to whom? The world or God? Because I don't see God as approving it or seeing benefit to it.

my point is that it is not beneficial for your soul, or for your development as a human being...

but there is a material benefit
a motivation
because if there was no motivation
people would not do these things...

no one in this thread is arguing that these type of actions are the right thing to do. We are merely looking at motivations. If you understand a persons motivations, you can understand situations better.

 

[LOVEthroughINTELLECT]

Okay so psychologize me and call frida lay but... yeah this question has been one for me. I mean... If they were interested they would show some form of interest. That's all I'm saying. I don't have guys approach me much and the only time I notice they really like me is if they continue their pursuit.

In addition... If I like someone I will pursue them, but I think my whole main point is the pursuit (When it comes to me. No anyone else, but for me.) will end on my behalf when the guy shows absolutely no interest in me what so ever I stop trying. That's my whole point. I guess.

If the other person/people is/are not reciprocating then that is as far as the relationship is going to go. Trying to make the relationship go any farther is spinning one's wheels and wasting scarce resources. Business/professional relationships, platonic friendships, romantic relationships--it applies to all relationships.

That is stating the obvious. I do not understand why a thread needed to be created about it, let alone how that thread has turned into a long discussion full of disagreements.

 

[Maka]

I've seen guys go for what they want. If they really like a girl they will speak with her someway, somehow.

So my philosophy... if they are interested they will let you know. If they're not talking to you then don't even waste your time.

What do you think?

I think if their interested they should at least try to get to know you. If their not talking to me then I would assume they have no interest in getting to know me. I guess that works both ways, but I wouldn't become interested in the guy unless I talk to him. Idk maybe after another 10 years or so of singleness I may change that.

Sneak attack romance

This is cute!!

 

[Spunkn]

This is cute!!

Cute if you like the person, creepy / deserves a slap if you don't

 

[Maka]

Cute if you like the person, creepy / deserves a slap if you don't

xD true also if you don't know him.

 

[miss-a]

If I like someone I will pursue them, but I think my whole main point is the pursuit (When it comes to me. No anyone else, but for me.) will end on my behalf when the guy shows absolutely no interest in me what so ever I stop trying. That's my whole point. I guess.

Absolutrly still with you on this. I don't like lingering in the maybe, and I figure if the guy is from God for me, he'll figure this out, or won't go all vague or aloof on me in the first palce. But I also can be forgiving. As others have mentioned, it may just not be a good time for him to pursue a relationship. This doesn't mean he doesn't get another chance down the road if I'm still free and his behavior changes. It just means that for now I'm not going to mess with my own head about him and get all caught up writing a drama around his behavior--maybe he likes me but is too shy, hurting still from his divorce, busy with his kids, but really really wants to be with me. Nope. Just not going there anymore. Been there. Done that. Looked great in the t-shirt, but he never noticed. A girl has to learn from these things.

 

[nick garai]

Put an ad on Craigslist.org and see what happens. Men seeking women.

 

[trentlogain2]

(personally speakingh) sometimes God does what He does in areas like this to make a person more suitable for His kingdom. i've been asking God to help me be more apt to minister to the "least of these" in the world. in order for me to be able to do that, He has shown me that i need to become one of the least of these first.

i've had friends that i've known to be real close that have faded off. i don't doubt the sincerity of their friendship during the time we were together but again God does things that i don't understand. then other times there have been people who really didn't give a flip about me anyway and there never was anything. those are the ones that the Lord teaches me to just not spread myself to broad. to each his own sorta thing.

you dig?

 

[SOLDIER ❤]

Cute if you like the person, creepy / deserves a slap if you don't

Put an ad on Craigslist.org and see what happens. Men seeking women.

ehhh?