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If someone you could cared about sent you this, what would you tell them?

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GabrielWithoutWings

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The bottom line is this: I have existed without God in my life (from my end). I didn't go to Church, I don't celebrate Christmas, I don't celebrate Easter. I am not looking for God. I am looking for Truth. If God is Truth, then I want to find God. If Truth is that there is no God, then I guess I will just have to deal with that fact.

I am very inward looking. This is what flutters through my mind:

I want to see my father, my sister that I've never met, and my grandfather again after I die.

If there is a chance that this will happen, then I must find out how to do so. Thus, my spiritual search.

However, there is a chance that will not happen. This has far more reaching complications.

I am not a humanist. I'm not one of these, "Oh, just live your life the best you can, contribute to society, and die in peace." I don't want to just die in peace.

If there is no afterlife, then there is no purpose to existence.

If existence is meaningless, then there is no point in being here in the first place.

If there is no afterlife, every single thing I have learned, every single thing I have felt, experienced, laughed at, cried over, and all my hard lessons learned will be for absolutely nothing.

See, a humanist might say it is not for nothing. They would, again, approach with the same tired rhetoric. "Enhance your society, leave your memory through art and science and contribution to the world."

See, that mess only works if there are other people here to enjoy it.

If everything I have and will ever learn is utterly erased upon my death, then why am I here? Why the heck did I learn 1 + 1 = 2 and then expand on that if it will all be gone when I die? Why? All of the people I love. All of my pain and suffering that I've experienced. All of my relationships. Why did I have them if I'm just going to be snuffed out of existence?

This becomes even larger.

If ALL humans are the same as me, then why is anyone here? Why? Why do we have children? To bring more people into the world that will erase upon death? To bring needless suffering into the world for nothing in the grand picture?

Remember, human achievements of all shapes and sizes are only relevant if there are other humans around to enjoy them.

If there is no afterlife, then everyone on the planet may as well commit suicide because it honestly would not make a bit of difference.

But.

If there is one thing that I can think of that fills with such utter horror, dread, and fear as annihilation after death it's this:

To live through your life believing an absolute hope-filled joy bringing lie.

I would rather go through life completely miserable knowing the truth than dandy-dancing all through life with a big evangelical grin on my face believing in something that is complete horse****.

So, when you're reading my words in our exchange, and you think to yourself, "Wow, this guy sure is down in the dumps. What's his deal?" I want you to remember all the stuff I just wrote to you. Now, think about this:

I think about what I just wrote to you from waking to sleeping, every single day of my life. EVERY single day.

Thus, you see why I'm so inward looking, withdrawn and melancholy. It's also a part of why I'm so crass, pessimistic, and sarcastic. It's how I keep sane a lot of the time.

So, I'll just go through life, looking and searching. I'll never find what I'm looking for, and every Christian [this was written to a Christian] on this planet will tell me that.

Thus, I will live in fear for the rest of my life UNLESS something of fantastic proportions manifests itself to me in a way that leaves with no doubt in mind at all.

Let me also say one last thing to you, before my half-crazed, drooling lunatic exchange to you is concluded.

I have never, ever felt anything, not a glimmer, not a sliver of Presence of anything. There have been no miracles, no wonders, no Peak Experiences. I have laid in the bed begging for something, a flash, a feeling, a certainty, a release from the horror of not knowing... something to let me know that I am not alone.

I see people go through their lives, just a-dancin' and a-smilin' because they have the belief, correct or incorrect, that everything is going to be alright because they've got Jesus.

I don't have that luxury of blind faith. I am just not wired that way and there is nothing I can do about it.

Peace.
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I would say that yes, after we die there is nothing. And as sad as that sounds, it is the truth. So are we living for no reason? Well, that is up for he to decide. I think that we have a reason to wake up everyday, and live a happy life. But I certainly do not see it as a godly reason, nor do I see a reason to look up to the far future of some hippy yippy afterlife.

We live for this life. Not an afterlife, not a reincarnation, nothing like that!
 
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Interesting piece of writing. This person does bring up a couple of good points. First, truth is of great importance, not because it is superior to God (it is not), but because it is an attribute of God. Secondly, atheism (and I would put all non-Christian religions in this category) offers no viable answer as to the meaning of human existence. I suppose that in some perverse way, the author's cynicism points every non-Christian to the woe and terror that they ought to feel. As it says of the Gentiles,
They are darkened in their understanding, alienated from the life of God because of the ignorance that is in them, due to their hardness of heart. (Ephesians 4:18)​
It appears the author has some limited insight into the dreadful predicament in which he or she stands: the worthlessness of life and ultimate, eternal destruction of the soul in hell apart from God.

Ultimately, however, I find the following statement to be incorrect:

I don't have that luxury of blind faith. I am just not wired that way and there is nothing I can do about it.

Faith in Jesus Christ is not something with which people are simply born. All human beings are born as godless sinners. On the contrary, faith can be inculcated; people can learn to believe in Jesus and trust God for the salvation of their souls. For some people this process happens in a single day; for others it takes much longer. The author seems to paint a distorted image of Christians as endlessly joyful people who never experience grief. It is true that Christians alone have reason for joy in the world, since we have been given the only gift that can be retained beyond death. But Christians can and do experience sorrow. It is improper to think that there is no place for pessimism, as though it were somehow ungodly. Christians do not live life "singing and dancing."

This is what I would say to this hypothetical individual: to say that you are not wired for faith is merely an excuse to not have faith. Most of us in the church do not experience miracles, wonders, or peak experiences, but rather, "Blessed are those who have not seen and yet have believed." (John 20:29). Most of us develop faith over time, and this development continues until our death. Therefore do not resist God and reject the gift of salvation, but receive what is freely offered you.
 
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I would respond with this:

I completely understand where you're coming from.I wholeheartedly encourage you to search for those answers. I think it's important for you to find these answers yourself. Otherwise, it's just empty words. But I'll try to give you some advice that I think is relevant.

While it's important to think about everything, and keep questioning, there is a point where asking "what if" is futile. "What if" is an endless process, and wherever you find something plausible, it's not necessarily satisfying. I have found personally that if you live too much in your own thinking, and don't take the time to just "be" instinctually, once in a while, it can get to you.

You are NEVER going to have all the answers. But you shouldn't live your life in a constant, over-stressed state where you are never satisfied with what you have and what you do know.

If you want answers, your not going to get any just thinking about it. Try different things, if you feel drawn to it deep inside, look into it further. If it doesn't work, try something else, if it doesn't work still, try something else. But don't stress over it. Take a deep breath. If you decide to try being something you don't really believe in, you won't be happy anyway, because you'll know you are lying to yourself. some argue that you can't accept something just because it feels right. However, given that we have these sensations in the first place, it doesn't make sense to reject it all together
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Look into as many theologies as possible, use logic AND your feelings; both emotional, and gut impressions, and take it easy. There's no point trying to find answers for yourself when you feel like there is a gun at your head.

 
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français;42044100 said:
I would say that yes, after we die there is nothing. And as sad as that sounds, it is the truth. So are we living for no reason? Well, that is up for he to decide. I think that we have a reason to wake up everyday, and live a happy life. But I certainly do not see it as a godly reason, nor do I see a reason to look up to the far future of some hippy yippy afterlife.

We live for this life. Not an afterlife, not a reincarnation, nothing like that!

This, and maybe this.


Life has what meaning you give it, we're only around for a short while so do what you can to enjoy it.
 
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I would say, Hang in there, friend! There's meaning to life and a certainty beyond question that someone exists who loves you like crazy!

May you find that someone and may His peace envelop you, head-to-toe!

Please consider trusting in His following promise: "And you shall seek me, and find me, when you shall search for me with all of your heart!" (Jeremiah 29:13)

God love you, my friend!!

DaveK
Psalm 107:2
 
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Salam.Why did God create the man according to christianity?

According to the Westminster Confession of Faith, the chief end of man is to glorify God and to enjoy him forever. God seeks to glorify his name, and is jealous for his name's honor. He receives glory through our enjoyment of him, so he created us for this purpose. And it is only through Jesus Christ that we can know God, because Jesus Christ is the image of God.
 
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According to the Westminster Confession of Faith,
I googled it and its web-page says "center for reformed theology and apologetics".Is it christianity?

the chief end of man is to glorify God and to enjoy him forever. God seeks to glorify his name, and is jealous for his name's honor. He receives glory through our enjoyment of him, so he created us for this purpose. And it is only through Jesus Christ that we can know God, because Jesus Christ is the image of God.
This explanation is same as ours.
 
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