- Apr 15, 2009
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...I think I'll marry a non-Christian. I have to be honest and say I was happier dating before I got saved. I found it easier to have frank conversations about relationships, without moral arguments being used to trump practicalities. What I generally see here when it comes to discussions of relationships is appalling to me. But the thing that disturbs me most is this: the idea that sex (which is one of the things that bonds a couple together) is not, according to what I'm reading here, something that two grown up intelligent people can sit down and discuss. That inappropriate behaviour has to be seen as monstrous rather than merely inappropriate.
I mean literally, here I mentioned an analogy (which means it's not a real example, just a theoretical idea) of a guy liking his wife in black stockings, and her refusing, without explanation, to wear them again, and him in frustration turning to erotica that shows women wearing black stockings. Now this is obviously dysfunctional, but the answer I basically got was that it was ENTIRELY the man's responsibility, that he should just go without. This is really messed up. Because yes, the guy shouldn't be turning to inappropriate contentography. In fact, what he should be doing is walking out the door because the woman doesn't respect him enough to even talk about it or explain herself.
And this is why I'd rather marry a non-Christian woman, because to be honest, I think she'd be more likely to understand why the door got slammed and the guy walked out--even if she disagreed vehemently with him doing it she'd realize that he has the right to walk out on a broken contract.
I mean literally, here I mentioned an analogy (which means it's not a real example, just a theoretical idea) of a guy liking his wife in black stockings, and her refusing, without explanation, to wear them again, and him in frustration turning to erotica that shows women wearing black stockings. Now this is obviously dysfunctional, but the answer I basically got was that it was ENTIRELY the man's responsibility, that he should just go without. This is really messed up. Because yes, the guy shouldn't be turning to inappropriate contentography. In fact, what he should be doing is walking out the door because the woman doesn't respect him enough to even talk about it or explain herself.
And this is why I'd rather marry a non-Christian woman, because to be honest, I think she'd be more likely to understand why the door got slammed and the guy walked out--even if she disagreed vehemently with him doing it she'd realize that he has the right to walk out on a broken contract.