Considering all things posted here, let me say first that anyone thinking about God MUST yield to the ways and mind of God. The matter presented here involves marriage, and that should be by approval of God and by His Word ---IF one is about honoring God. We are told that the world and Christianity are on opposite ground, so one who is truly a "born again" believer (as John 3) needs to be seeking God's ways, not their own. Certainly much prayer is needed, but that means FIRST a conformity to the way of God for man for both persons, would you say? If one is only a casual believer about God, then they are still "in the flesh" as God says and they are not yet likley "a child of God".