If A Man Wants You

[Krysstian]

Someone sent this to me, a gentleman...and I figure I would share it. Enjoy

IF A MAN WANTS YOU​

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.​

If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.​

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.​

Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.​

Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.​

Slower is better. ​

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.​

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.​

Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.​

Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.​

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.​

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.​

He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently?​

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.​

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.​

If something bothers you, speak up.​

Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.​

You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.​

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.​

He is a man, nothing more nothing less.​

Never let a man define who you are.​

Never borrow someone else's man.​

Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.​

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.​

All men are NOT dogs.​

You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.​

You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary..​

Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.​

Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, And your always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.​

Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.​

Keep him in your radar but get to know others.​

Share this with other ladies..... You'll make someone SMILE, another RETHINK her choices, and another woman PREPARE.​

They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.​

 

[HolyOne87]

i like that! thank you for posting that!

 

[futuredoc]

I liked it so much I posted it to my myspace

 

[Blank123]

most of it was good but i think it should have been written for both genders, most if not all thngs on that list can be applied to women as well

one thing that really bothered me was....

Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

why would i ever be in a relationship with a guy i couldn't trust not to use my past/secrets/mistakes against me?

 

[Krysstian]

most of it was good but i think it should have been written for both genders, most if not all thngs on that list can be applied to women as well

one thing that really bothered me was....

why would i ever be in a relationship with a guy i couldn't trust not to use my past/secrets/mistakes against me?

This was written from a man to a woman.

As for that saying...I would let my hubby know about my sexual past but I would not go into details about what I did, how I did it, when I did it, and how it felt...and other things "raised eyebrow" if you know what I mean

Ever heard of the saying never give out volunteered information?

 

[LookingTotheFuture]

That line bothers me as well. I guess maybe for simplicity's sake it was kept short and simple. I didn't understand at first what it meant either. Thanks Krysstian for making it clearer.

To me now I see this wisdom as using discretion when it comes to the little things that will service no good voicing aloud. This rule should be followed in communication in general. Applied of course within reason, omitting information to mislead can be as bad as lying.

 

[Krysstian]

That line bothers me as well. I guess maybe for simplicity's sake it was kept short and simple. I didn't understand at first what it meant either. Thanks Krysstian for making it clearer.

To me now I see this wisdom as using discretion when it comes to the little things that will service no good voicing aloud. This rule should be followed in communication in general. Applied of course within reason, omitting information to mislead can be as bad as lying.

Well sometimes I don't go into detail about certain things because some people are just not ready to hear it. If someone asked me something I am going to tell them the truth, the whole truth...but if its something that I could go into detail I don't...unless they ask more detailed questions?

 

[LookingTotheFuture]

That sounds right. You end up making the judgment call on how much you wish to disclose unless specifically asked for more. And if you feel uncomfortable, you can always refuse to answer. (giving a reason if necessary)

 

[covenantwmn]

Really good, could be pretty much flip-flopped to If A Woman Wants You for the guys too.

 

[simpletrust]

I liked that post, good practical advice in there.

 

[bithiah2]

most of it was good but i think it should have been written for both genders, most if not all thngs on that list can be applied to women as well

one thing that really bothered me was....

why would i ever be in a relationship with a guy i couldn't trust not to use my past/secrets/mistakes against me?

when you really don't know someone it is not wise to let him know "everything". you then become intimate strangers. it takes time to get to know another person. too many times women "tell it all" to the wrong one.
good post miss krystian

 

[A Taffer]

I feel like that posting paints men as evil.

 

[Highland Watchman]

An excellent poem. I posted it on my blog as well.

 

[Ceridwen]

I think this is a little bit immature and irrational. Women aren't that insecure and bitter as to believe this is a good mode for them to relate to men.

 

[Highland Watchman]

I think this is a little bit immature and irrational. Women aren't that insecure and bitter as to believe this is a good mode for them to relate to men.

You'd be surprised. I can't count with my fingers and toes the number of women I have talked to whom this poem will help. But at the same time, as it was said before, it can be easily flipped over to describe women's behavior for the confused man.

 

[okiemommy26]

You'd be surprised. I can't count with my fingers and toes the number of women I have talked to whom this poem will help. But at the same time, as it was said before, it can be easily flipped over to describe women's behavior for the confused man.

Exactly!

 

[Krysstian]

Yes you would be surprised how many women need to hear this. I have an 30 year old male friend who tells me all kinds of immature stories about women his age and older

It doesnt say all men and it did say that all men are not dogs...so i dont think its evil.

 

[JPPT1974]

Yes you would be surprised how many women need to hear this. I have an 30 year old male friend who tells me all kinds of immature stories about women his age and older

It doesnt say all men and it did say that all men are not dogs...so i dont think its evil.

Yeah I know what you mean
As I hear all kinds of immature stories
From not just men but women alike
My age or older then my age.