Ideal Spouse

[waterbear]

Would your ideal spouse be like you in every way except gender and appearance - why or why not?

 

[carine]

Same interests ideally as me eg a love for nature and christian music
But Id like someone more prayerful( I am prayerful) and someone more mature in their christian walk so that they can encourage me and cause the man is supposed to be the leader so I could respect him more if he were a more mature christian. I couldnt accept someone less prayerful or less spiritually mature as I would see that as a step back and it would hamper my growth..

 

[bkg]

Would your ideal spouse be like you in every way except gender and appearance - why or why not?

No way on God's Green Earth would I want my spouse to be like me in every way. I'm boring, lazy, lack personality, am not very dynamic, pretty lame... and I have a Goatie...

One of the most wonderful things about a spouse is often the first thing that we forget is so wonderful: That he/she is NOT exactly like we are!!! At first it's so wonderful - we learn so much, we love the differences. Then later in live we start to get annoyed by them. Why? 'Cause we forget that it's those differences (often) that caused us to fall in love in the first place.

 

[plum]

Heck no he wouldn't be just like me. We'd go crazy!
My boyfriend and I are so different, but we have the same core: We love the Lord and we love each other. We kind of balance each other out in most of our qualities. I'm more planning-goal oriented and he's more "hey I know what I want but I'm not gonna plan out every move".
He's a poet/journalist and I'm a (non)fiction writer.
He cooks. I don't.
He's more intense in situations and I'm more calm.

It's all gravy when God's at the center!

 

[Sketcher]

Heck no, we'd kill each other.

 

[hischildsindik]

My ideal spouse... the one God has for me.

 

[Living4Him03]

I don't know. I just pray that God will bless me with a husband someday. I suppose he will be whatever is best for me. I don't want a divorce, I know that much.

 

[KeilCoppes]

Ideal isn't even on the plate - I'm looking for a spouse that exists and exists before God.

"I'm spending my wife's food budget since she hasn't bothered to show up yet!"

 

[waterbear]

Well, my ideal spouse would be identical to me - gender and appearance excluded. My reasoning:

- Equivalent values is obviously ideal.
- Equivalent personality would facilate understanding and personality can relate to values.
- Equivalent interests would encourage growth together
- I enjoy lots of time alone, so I won't be bored with an identical spouse.
- If I like a mannerism or ability, I will make a point of having that mannerism or ability. Thus a spouse to complement me doesn't make sense.
- A spouse closer to my notion of perfection than myself would, by virtue of the previous statement, not exist for long - I'd establish parity. Thus a spouse as a leader cannot exist.

 

[SDSUMarcus01]

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[fishstix]

Would your ideal spouse be like you in every way except gender and appearance - why or why not?

Nope. If two spouses are alike in every way that would mean that they would have the same weaknesses. That would make it really hard for them to support each other because they would often both be struggling at the same time instead of one being able to stay strong in the situation to help support the other. I think some similarities are a good thing, such as values like someone already mentioned. Some similar interests are important too although it's good to have some unique ones as well so that each person gets to have some time on their own. As far as personality goes, I think they should be similar enough that one isn't always walking all over the other or anything like that but different enough that each can sort of moderate/tone down any extremes or negative personality traits that may exist in the other rather than multiplying them.

 

[Aussie_Gareth]

My ideal spouse:

Like me but has enough of a difference to keep things interesting
Strong in the areas I am weak
Kind
Gentle
Strong believer in God
Knows how to treat a guy right.

I don't need to dream anymore because I've found her.

 

[KeilCoppes]

If she were me, why would I marry her? It would be like talking to myself.

Differences = personality = interest = resonance...

 

[waterbear]

I usually have the best conversations with myself lol. I still don't agree with the balanced personality arguments, if some feature of your personality is problemantic - get rid of it. People constrain themselves by defining themselves in such broad terms ...

 

[fishstix]

I usually have the best conversations with myself lol. I still don't agree with the balanced personality arguments, if some feature of your personality is problemantic - get rid of it. People constrain themselves by defining themselves in such broad terms ...

Wouldn't narrow terms be more constraining?

It would be nice if we could just get rid of all our weaknesses, but that isn't going to be fully completed until heaven. And it really would be easier if when a hard time comes for one person the other can be strong for them rather than both of them falling apart at the same time.

 

[jdkearns]

A relationship must have certain pillars; i.e. equally yoked, vision, direction, etc.

But ask yourself:
Where is the challenge that is no easy victory and rejoices in the pain of having strove and attained, and cherishes the other's heart as the treasure?
Where is the mystery that makes the other so special, interesting, and leaves you curiously excited?
Where is the desire that my life be challenged by another's in such a way that I can not continue being the same pathetic, immature, selfish, and narrow person I once was and still am?

We are each fearfully and wonderfully made. We have the depths of that to discover in one another.

<>< JD

 

[IDOXLR8]

I would love to meet a woman that is focused on God and understands the purpose of us being here. With that being said I would love to meet someone that respects me and can accept my hobbies which include cars and motorcycles. Finally, a woman that I can learn different things from.

 

[Cordelia]

Lol, I hope he'll be like me in a lot of ways...in terms of interests, ambitions, taste, maturity. My worst relationships (or attempts at relationships) have been with people I had little or nothing in common with. But then again, I hope he'll have had a lot more life experience than me and know more about life than I do. I want somebody I can learn from, who'll take me under his wing

 

[invisiblebabe]

Well, it's given that nobody is going to be your clone (unless, of course, you just went to the lab today and paid them a lot of money... but even then, you sure couldn't marry your clone! ).

However, I think it is best (and this may also be because I am rather far from the norm in many ways, both experiences and personality) that my future spouse is more like me than different from me. Does he need to exhibit more leadership qualities than I do? Yes. Does he have to like every single thing I do? Of course not. So, there will be some differences, which is a good thing. But fundamentally (esp. in terms of worldview, theology, and interest/knowledge of such things....also experiences to some degree....ie i could not imagine myself with someone over 8 or 9 yrs older, or sexually experienced, because that is just too far from my own experience for me to be able to relate to a person on a romantic level), I think we should have more in common than not.

 

[PetraFan007]

There is no woman in the entire world like me.

But what I'd like is:

Requirements
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Female

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Christian
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Always stands up for me
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Trusts me
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100% Devotion, only God before me
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Isn’t stuck in her own world all the time

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What I’d like
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Attractive
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Musically Talented (singing is a plus!!!!)

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Creative
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Thoughtful
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Awesome personality
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Crazy for Jesus
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Someone who spurs me on in Christ
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Ability to broaden her horizons to things that I like (and same for meJ)
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