I Wouldn't Sleep with Her

[de Unamuno]

With a cruel twist of irony, I found out she's been sleeping with a co-worker and friend of mine. We exploded like a rocket but then fizzled out for unknown reasons, only to find out today that she couldn't handle my "no sex" policy.

The irony comes from the fact that I used women for sex for most of my atheistic life. Now a Christian, I'm seeing what it feels like from the other side. It's a bitter hurt, but a lesson I needed to learn. Man... God doesn't pull any punches.

 

[Lbiagm]

I will pray for you man.

 

[Endure2]

haha..... kind of like the girl who wouldnt date me cus she said i was ugly and i wouldnt have sex with her.

 

[lady_of_god]

The irony comes from the fact that I used women for sex for most of my atheistic life. Now a Christian, I'm seeing what it feels like from the other side. It's a bitter hurt, but a lesson I needed to learn. Man... God doesn't pull any punches.

Well i can't really say i'm sorry this has happen to you...

The reason why i say this, is because a person who just wants you for sexual purposes you don't need nor deserve to be with....

In turning your life over to the Lord it's not as "easy" as what others make it appear to be. You will find that people who claim to be your bestest of friends, no longer want to be around you because you got all "goody-goody" on them. And the women you once attracted will no longer find you exciting but a bore... But that's ok. Because God has someone much better awaiting you.

I had a guy tell me once that he couldn't go out with me (or really even be friends) because I'm awaiting marriage. He said basically said I was attractive and he respected what I was doing but couldn't be around me because of it... funny how that works. Reading between the lines of worldy minded people, what he was really saying was "Hi, I have low standards and don't think anything of myself... Your too focused and God oriented for me, I need a girl with no sense of self-respect."

Anyhow, your doing find. Don't be upset, bitter or mad about it. Say a prayer for her instead that she gets her life together and respects herself the way you respect her.

Just pick up your daily cross and continue to follow Jesus Christ!

-Lady

 

[mt_joy]

"Hi, I have low standards and don't think anything of myself... Your too focused and God oriented for me, I need a girl with no sense of self-respect."

That is so true. Why would any of us want a partner like that?

 

[the_man]

Man... God doesn't pull any punches.

Nope, he doesn't. There are times that He has to be ruthless with us, only for our benefit. I'm glad you are able to view it as a lessoned learned.

 

[Sketcher]

Relax, it'll probably come back to bite her if it came back to bite you. She'll get what she deserves.

 

[New Creation]

Lady of God said it best. Pray for her, cut your losses and thank the Lord for the lesson learned.
God bless your brother.

 

[silentpoet]

Man... God doesn't pull any punches.

AMEN

One of my more "dangerous" prayers went something like this "Dear God I want to be closer to you." The defecation hit the rotary cooling device hard and fast.

But as far as practical advice, Lady of God hit the high points.

 

[jarrol]

Relax, it'll probably come back to bite her if it came back to bite you. She'll get what she deserves.

well mate i pray she doesn't get what she deserves - i pray she receives God's Grace and he frees her from what she deserves.... cause i know that's what he's done for me and obviously also for our friend de Unamuno

it can be tough man - i can't say i've ever been what you're going through... but God's got an awesome plan for your life, and it doesn't include sex before marriage again! that's a good thing remember and though it seems wrong now it looks like it doesn't involve the woman you are with now. But mate i pray she finds God someday just like you did

God Luv Ya Mate

 

[lingjanet]

bad.........totaly out

better go far away from this type of people..never know how to take care of herself.

 

[Living Stone]

With a cruel twist of irony, I found out she's been sleeping with a co-worker and friend of mine. We exploded like a rocket but then fizzled out for unknown reasons, only to find out today that she couldn't handle my "no sex" policy.

The irony comes from the fact that I used women for sex for most of my atheistic life. Now a Christian, I'm seeing what it feels like from the other side. It's a bitter hurt, but a lesson I needed to learn. Man... God doesn't pull any punches.

I know what you mean.
The first woman I really dated was a virgin, but somehow I wasnt watchful and in a moment of being a bit out of control (I was 19. 20 years ago), we came very close to having sex.

I mean like clothes nearly off kind of thing.
But I couldnt do it.
IM there, I know shes a virgin, I keep thinking ''how can I do this"

She is asking me to, but I couldnt.
And I asked her ''I thought we were going to wait"
We had discussed it a lot beforehand and both agreed not to fool around but here we were.

Well, I didnt.
More like I couldnt.
Something like writers block, but with sex.
The desire was there. The woman was there.
But something inside just wouldnt let me do it.
Like my brain went blank on the matter or something.

I talked to her after we calmed down some and tried to explain that I really respected her and we'd both not regret waiting until we had vowed ourselves to each other.

Obviously she couldnt handle it either as I got my walking papers over the phone the next weekend.

 

[mankiki]

she couldn't handle my "no sex" policy

This may be an opportunity for you to share more with her about what you believe as a christian and that is the basis of your "policy" and present the gospel to her.
I guess you've done already done so, huh?

 

[superfly]

the bible tells us not to be "unequally yoked," which means that we shouldn't go out with non-christians. i think you found out one of the reasons why. other people don't understand why we do what we do (or don't do in some cases!), so it really helps to be in a relationship where you both have the same set of values.

my heart goes out to you in your hurt, but i'd like to recommend that you stick to the christian ladies. i think you'll find a lot more going for you there! ;-)