I Wonder

[rfprewitt]

I wonder if therapy with an actual therapist or psychologist or psychiatrist works. I'm been playing around with the idea of going to one for several months. I have a LOT of trust issues. Sometimes I think I need to. Other times I don't. Anything anyone could give me on this topic would be good. I'm really struggling with it.

 

[goldenviolet]

they can help. they also specialize in helping people to get their feelings out. so you can go and not trust. question/ interview them too. if after that you don't feel comfy, i'll be surprized. just speak out about how you feel, or write it down for them to read.

 

[trying2survive09]

I wonder if therapy with an actual therapist or psychologist or psychiatrist works. I'm been playing around with the idea of going to one for several months. I have a LOT of trust issues. Sometimes I think I need to. Other times I don't. Anything anyone could give me on this topic would be good. I'm really struggling with it.

I think going to a therapist has helped me. Well, let me rephrase that. Although I constantly feel that I'm not getting better or making much progress, people have told me that I am. I've been going to therapy for 4 months and everyone says that I've made a lot of positive changes since I started going. When I think hard about it, I can see that going to therapy has helped a lot. I would suggest trying to find a christian counselor though. I know that has been the hardest thing for me (my counselor isn't a christian or at least doesn't use that in her counseling methods). If you can't find a Christian counselor you might want to consider talking to a christian too. I know that it's scary. I have major trust issues too...very very major trust issues. It's hard to make the choice to get help this way, but it WILL help. It helps to have other people helping you through it. I don't know where I would be right now if I hadn't started going to therapy. If you have any questions about it, feel free to ask me.

 

[Soulwings]

Ive got trust issues as well, quite major ones. But Ive been in counseling since last June, and I think its helped me some. Its nice to have someone to talk to, and who can help with diagnoses and meds and stuff. It might take you awhile to get comfortable with a counselor, but I think that it would definitely be worth it. Give it a try for a few months (at least) and if its not helping, then you can quit. But definitely give it a try.

 

[NinadeDios777]

weather or not htey can help you really depends on the shrink...i read somewhere that very few actually know how to help people, but more than that, some people jsut aren't' compatable, not matter how capable a therapist may be. be prepared to shop around a little at first.

 

[goldenviolet]

weather or not htey can help you really depends on the shrink...i read somewhere that very few actually know how to help people, but more than that, some people jsut aren't' compatable, not matter how capable a therapist may be. be prepared to shop around a little at first.

i think you are talking about trend of people going to counselling exspecting it to 'work' ... ...
counsellors need their clinents to do the work. they are there to show managing and coping skills; help us discover what we need and why; and to help build us to beable to care for ourselves more confidently.

sometimes we do have to shop around. but it's best to interview them before you hire them anyway. this is done by going to a place where they offer screening. you pay for scrrening but it is a time to tell them what you are looking for and they place you with the counselor they feel qualifies.
then if it =isn't a match, instead of starting over you simply ask for a new referal.

 

[rfprewitt]

Should I just go to a pastor? They are free...

 

[Tubachick]

Well I didnt feel comfortable going to MY pastor because he's a guy. So i started going to a woman psychologist and she is awesome! I dont usually trust people either but she was really easy to talk to. But i do agree about the 'it depends on the psychologist', because i went to another lady about a year ago and i hated her so bad! She made everything worse. I started cutting even worse and ipunched a wall and crushed my knucles out of anger. Sje made me so angry. But my psychologist now is awesome. And ive been rambling so im going to shut up now...

 

[goldenviolet]

Tubachick ....
rfprewitt ...

sometimes in therephy to get through obsticatals, we must work on triggering and painful or uncomfortable;
it's stil all part of growth... it's the first part of of it. the best stuff comes in cycles; but it always gets better for us. because All things good come to those who love the Lord! we got God in charge of our healling. so whatever stage you are in... through boty ups and valleys.. God's loving you right there.

Be glad for all God is planning for you. Be patient in trouble, and always be prayerful. Romans 12:12

 

[NinadeDios777]

i don't trust my therapist...

 

[rfprewitt]

I actually have a harder time talking to women. Most of my abuse was from my mother, and I'm a bit of a tomboy. So I prefer men...but to be honest, pastors kinda scare me. They are intimidating. I know they are jsut regular people, but that doesn't help. So...I dont know if I want to commit to a counseling relationship right now because at the end of the school year I'm going to a different state for the summer to work and live. I really don't know. There is a pastor out where I am going who people say would be more than willing to talk to me and counsel me. I just don't know. Please pray for me. This is a really hard decision to make. Its very stressful.

 

[trying2survive09]

I actually have a harder time talking to women. Most of my abuse was from my mother, and I'm a bit of a tomboy. So I prefer men...but to be honest, pastors kinda scare me. They are intimidating. I know they are jsut regular people, but that doesn't help. So...I dont know if I want to commit to a counseling relationship right now because at the end of the school year I'm going to a different state for the summer to work and live. I really don't know. There is a pastor out where I am going who people say would be more than willing to talk to me and counsel me. I just don't know. Please pray for me. This is a really hard decision to make. Its very stressful.

I understand the going to a different state for the summer. Personally, I started my jouney back in like October/November, but I'm scared to leave for the summer. I don't know what's going to happen. I'm going to try to find someone there to help. I think that would be wise for you too. I will be praying for you.

 

[rfprewitt]

My parents told me I have to get help here too. They want me to see someone now.

 

[Hidden face_Hurting heart]

I'm reading this book called "Cutting" by Steven Levenson, who's a therapist who's worked with a lot of self-injuring people and anorexics and stuff...it's a really good book, very sensitive and well put. It makes me want to try counseling again...I was in counseling for a little while, but it was just useless...if I can find the right person though, like that guy who wrote the book...I think it could help a lot. I hope you find someone who will help you.

 

[Tubachick]

yeah. Ive read that book. Its awesome. And im praying for you rfprewitt! Hang in there!!!

 

[NinadeDios777]

i also have a problem with pastors... i don't know why. maybe because none of them actually took the time to talk to me?

 

[TheMainException]

Although it did not help me (I really don't have the $$$ for such things) I know that had I gone longer and found someone who fit well with me, I would have improved. Meds with a therapist helps a LOT. I think you should go.

 

[rfprewitt]

I think meds is the last thing i should look for

 

[NinadeDios777]

^^ me too. i don't like being on drugs if i can help it. plus, some of the side affects of some of them are suicidal thoughts, and if my deans get wind of the fact that i'm feeling suicidal (which, by the way, i'm not) they'll kick me out of shcool, so for me shopping around for meds is the LAST thing i would do.

 

[TheMainException]

^^ me too. i don't like being on drugs if i can help it. plus, some of the side affects of some of them are suicidal thoughts, and if my deans get wind of the fact that i'm feeling suicidal (which, by the way, i'm not) they'll kick me out of shcool, so for me shopping around for meds is the LAST thing i would do.

The new studies have found that there is not enough evidence to prove such things, and from experience and an understanding of my own, I have found that the reason for suicidal thoughts is because people feel like dying, but before meds, don't have the energy or want to do anything at all, including commiting suicide. However, drugs make them feel somewhat better, but doesn't take away the negative thoughts that the person has been programming into themselves and therefore, they commit suicide, having the energy, but no will to live. Medication does not give a person thoughts. It gives them feelings. negative "brainwashing" (a self-coined term) is something that everyone experiences from time to time, and those who often see the glass half empty are usually called "pessimists" while those who see the glass empty and are constantly attacking themselves mentally are depressed. Suicidal tendencies will be there before the drugs and after, therapy is what can help take that away. Feeling like absolute nothing is what makes people want to commit suicide (that comes from experience).