i wish i was in a relationship...

[Thithy]

I think it is much like a watched pot never boiling. Usually when you stop looking is when you manage to somehow wind up in a relationship.

Amen to that. I swear it's the truth. Whenever I'm not looking I swear guys appear out of the woodwork.

I guess there are times when I wish I was in a relationship, and other times when I'm so happy I'm not. I know I'm not anywhere near 30, but just because I'm not doesn't mean I'm not seeing lots of my friends in college hooking up. Maybe not getting married, but still being in a relationship. It's hard and sometimes makes me wonder "what's wrong with me?"

 

[soda]

I understand you. I have times like that too, although, mostly I'm really happy with my singlehood and I enjoy it!
I have never wanna get married or even have kids. But lately this thought is not so absurd as it was before. I actaully don't know what to think of those new feelings I have.

but this is not about me. it's about you.
trust in god, listen to him, be patient, keep your eyes and heart open, learn from other people, be yourself, cheer up, look ahead and never forget to have fun!

 

[batmatt]

I feel the same way as a lot of you. It is kind of frustratibg when I think about it too much espaecially since my YOUNGER brother is getting married in may and I've never even had a girlfriend. I know, however that it is not a good time for me to be in relationship anyway because it would get in the way of my school work, which will get quite intense over the next year.

 

[22smsbears]

Well this club has my name written all over it. It is so hard to find someone who is a christian that believes in the same things i do. It seems like all the good ones are already taken

 

[Diane_Windsor]

Usually when you stop looking is when you manage to somehow wind up in a relationship.

I disagree. That hasn't been the case for me, or most singles that I know. We recently had a great discussion about this in the Singles' forum here.

I've been single my entire life , and tried not looking as an experiment several times. Yet, when I stopped looking I remained single. My advice is to keep your eyes open, and keep searching. God helps those who help themselves.

Hopefully, I'll meet my match this year

Meanwhile read the thread I started in the Singles forum aptly entitled "What I love about Singlehood". That ought to cheer you up.

Diane

 

[lionman]

I just wanted to share that sometimes I get frustrated with being single, too. I've never been in a relationship, and I do notice when people my age are getting married, having kids, etc. However, I also know that God is in control in my life and that I will get married in his timing. I just hope that I don't have to wait too long for it.

 

[swtldy622]

I feel the same way. I wish I was blessed with a relationship, but I guess I am still young and I should be patient. It is funny how I never really thought about getting married until I got to college. Now I think about it a lot. This is one of the areas of my life that I need to surrender to the Lord, among other things. But hang in their, you are not alone.

swtldy622

 

[Multi-Elis]

Come to my church here in Paris. Most people in my church get married at age 30 on average. Seriously, this year all the couples who got married in my church were in their 30's. And before that, in the past three years I've been there, I only know of one couple that was 28.

 

[lady_of_god]

Relationships are fulfilling and great... when you are without one, it really bites!!! I'm hoping to startover again with someone I really really love and care about. I know that not being in a relationship right now is for a very good reason... sometimes we want what is not good for us.

For example, my friend of five years i went to school with, got into this relationship with this guy. At the time I was lonely and seeing her and everyone else around me at school get together made me very lonely the following year they got married (and everything seemed great), they had three bundles of joy. Now their marriage is currently headed down splitsville, as there were alot of things that has gone bad(and i mean alot of things), she seemed so happy but now she is crying all the time. So i'm saying... don't rush things! Wait for God because when he gives you something it is a true blessing. When we make things happen we are asking for trouble...

We will get someone special but on God's time... just pray about it!

-Lady

 

[JourneyRain]

I understand. I'm 25 years old and I live bascially in the middle of nowhere and it seems that everyone is married or has a kid. I also just had my heart broken by someone I fell for her hard and although I'm doing okay, I still miss him and wish things could be differently.

A problem I had is when I was younger my classmates told me I was ugly and would never get a boyfriend or anything. Well, i'm a classic example of someone who grows into their body/the ugly duckling turning into the swan. But I know people will still see as inferior or ugly because I am not dating anyone or because I'm not married.

Also, another thing I realized is that I was taught the only way to be COMPLETE was to be married. That a man would validate me and make me worthy. That combining with how I would never have a boyfriend has really screwed up my thinking.

Thankfully, I am moving away to a big city away from this small town where maybe I'll truly be able to be myself and maybe I'll meet someone, maybe I won't. I know until I truly get over this heartbreak, I can't get involved in a relationship.

 

[navybig]

JourneyRain:

You definitely will not have problems meeting more ppl in a big city, b/c theres just more ppl around! I'm from a moderately sized city and I'm not too impressed with the people though.There will be a lot more ppl but there will also be a lot more weirdos and non-religious. Never lived in a small town, so dunno about that. I had a friend who was in a long term relationship here in town and when his girl went to law school on the other side of the country, he switched colleges to up north, and the moving has definitely helped him get over the whole deal. So, GL with all that!

 

[Multi-Elis]

Blue Impulse, aren't you able to meet people through smaller churches or through neighbourhood activity centers?
From my experience from living in a big city, you meet so many people, but you can't keep up a relationship with them unless you continue to do the same activity together regularly. People just live on the other side of the city, and so unless you both keep going to the same place, you just drift a part... with a few exceptions of some real soulmates you make after 3 years...
And there is just so much to do in a big city, that you don't always have time for serious relationships beyond a few friends...

 

[22smsbears]

I think it is much like a watched pot never boiling. Usually when you stop looking is when you manage to somehow wind up in a relationship.

AMEN to THAT!!!

 

[Niels]

I got married Feb 28 last year, turned 30 on May 16. I'd been wanting to get married since I was about 22, but God kept telling me to wait.

Patience is something we all need to have, especially when waiting for God's perfect timing.

God Bless.

Thanks for the encouraging words . They largely echoe how I feel about the subject. Wanted to get married around 22, but it looks like it'll happen a few years after that. I often doubt God's timing on this issue, but I suppose he'd rather I wait, than settle for a mismatched woman.

 

[kenalim]

Just want to share some thoughts this new year and maybe hear from some of you out there...

It's getting more and more difficult to be a single and unattached twenty-something turning thirty. Everyone around is getting attached, married and/or having babies. Often, the green-eyed monster surfaces as i watch happy couples (among my friends) sit/walk/talk together.

Much as i'm enjoying my singlehood, being involved in youth ministry (meaning i hang out with teens more than i do with peers) and having the freedom of single-dom, there's also a longing for a significant other in my life.

I know i should trust that God has a plan and purpose for me... sometimes it's just hard... my prayer for 2005... to find a partner for life...

thanks for listening.

GOD will reward your faithfulness and grant ur heart desires, I am sure. i'll pray for you.