I want to stay single forever

[aaronkt]

I'm in conflict. I want to stay single forever and be celibate forever. I feel God looks down on it because he won't be quiet about it.

Why does Christianity look down on being single? I personally do not want to be in a romantic relationship. Too much drama.

If I were to be married with kids, I wouldn't be able to hold down a job. Why is God more concerned about me getting married and having kids than anything else?

 

[bluegreysky]

Why wouldn't you be able to hold down a job with a wife and kids?
The whole idea is you are the breadwinner, off making the money all day
and she stays home with them or maybe works part time and gets a baby sitter, and you just have to make time for all of them on the nights and weekends.

 

[Jupiter Drops]

God doesn't look down upon singles. Paul was single, but he worked for God.

 

[Elliewaves]

Be single if you want to; it's not a sin and God sometimes calls people to it. Please don't get married if you feel this way.

 

[EazyMack]

Who said God looks down on singles?

 

[Owlette]

1 Corinthians 7:8, "To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single as I am. But if they cannot exercise self- control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion."

Maybe you're feeling pressured by society or other Christians, but I don't know of any Bible verse that states God wants us to get married. You don't HAVE to if you don't want to. I'm not sure if I agree with your reasons though. You'll have drama in your life as long as you are alive and talk to other people. Lol. Besides… Who says the person you might marry enjoys causing drama? Maybe she dislikes it as much as you do.

 

[abacabb3]

I'm in conflict. I want to stay single forever and be celibate forever. I feel God looks down on it because he won't be quiet about it.

Why does Christianity look down on being single? I personally do not want to be in a romantic relationship. Too much drama.

If I were to be married with kids, I wouldn't be able to hold down a job. Why is God more concerned about me getting married and having kids than anything else?

Celibacy is preferrable to marriage. It is the clear teaching of Scripture, but most protestants think it is "too catholic" and want to make celibate people think they're losers or something.

Yes, a gross exaggeration, but celibacy is a real gift from God and has its place in the church.

 

[aaronkt]

1 Corinthians 7:8, "To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single as I am. But if they cannot exercise self- control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion."

Maybe you're feeling pressured by society or other Christians, but I don't know of any Bible verse that states God wants us to get married. You don't HAVE to if you don't want to. I'm not sure if I agree with your reasons though. You'll have drama in your life as long as you are alive and talk to other people. Lol. Besides… Who says the person you might marry enjoys causing drama? Maybe she dislikes it as much as you do.

Marriage is one less source of drama I have to deal with. Honestly, if God were to give me a spouse, I don't know if I could handle it. If there is nothing you can do to gain favor with God, why would I want to bother with marriage? Marriage is not necessary for survival and it doesn't pay the bills.

By the way, are there any Christian women on here who don't want to get married or have kids? I have only met one my entire life.

 

[Owlette]

Doesn't pay the bills!! What do you mean? Just a figure of speech maybe?

I still disagree with the drama thing. Yeah, it's hard to make yourself vulnerable to another person, and yes, you will probably have pain and conflict, but having a companion is worth it in my opinion.

I agree that it isn't necessary for survival though. But hey, there are studies out there that say married people live longer. There's got to be a reason for that.

 

[aaronkt]

One of the big reasons I want to remain single is I don't want kids. I do not want to be a grandpa. In the off chance I wanted kids, I might be open to adopting a teenager.

 

[EazyMack]

You don't have to get married.

If you get married, you don't have to have kids.

Adoption is awesome, though.

 

[aaronkt]

Thanks for the replies. If God were to have a spouse for me, I worry I would suffer a mental breakdown and have to go to the hospital. That is my biggest concern.

 

[trentlogain2]

Thanks for the replies. If God were to have a spouse for me, I worry I would suffer a mental breakdown and have to go to the hospital. That is my biggest concern.

I used to think I wanted to remain single for the rest of my life too. The bottom line is The Bible says it's better to marry than to burn (with passion) I'm not overly crazy or infatuated with the idea of trying to find the right gal at this time, but I'm mindful of the fact that God works in me to both will and do of His good pleasure. What wasn't in my heart back in the day, now is. So sometimes we just have to wait and most of all stay busy for Him with whatever state or calling we're in.

 

[aaronkt]

I worry I will be at the same job the rest of my life. I have asked God to give me a job that uses my skills and he won't. I worry it is because I'm not married. I am dead serious, I want nothing to do with a romantic relationship.

 

[Ads123]

I worry I will be at the same job the rest of my life. I have asked God to give me a job that uses my skills and he won't. I worry it is because I'm not married. I am dead serious, I want nothing to do with a romantic relationship.

About the job, faith requires action, it won't fall from heaven

Not everyone wants to be married for whatever reason. It seems like you might be afraid of opening up and compromising, but who knows. Some people just prefer to be alone and that's ok as well. I know people who are older and single and they enjoy it.

 

[Owlette]

I worry I will be at the same job the rest of my life. I have asked God to give me a job that uses my skills and he won't.

Keep applying and don't give up! Eventually something will happen.

 

[trentlogain2]

You don't have to get married.

If you get married, you don't have to have kids.

Adoption is awesome, though.

i don't mean to name drop or reveal batman secrets, but is amber.ly and the bunch at the CF alternative site still posting? i tried remembering the name of the URL (i have an account with them) but i couldn't come up with it.

if you don't know what i'm talking about just disregard. i thought maybe you were part of the posters over there.

 

[MehGuy]

What Chatterbox?

That forum was killed when a ravenous tiger broke in.

 

[EazyMack]

I haven't posted there in months.

 

[EazyMack]

Thanks for the replies. If God were to have a spouse for me, I worry I would suffer a mental breakdown and have to go to the hospital. That is my biggest concern.

That's a legitimate concern! And if you don't mind being single, then more power to you.

I just happen to have too much "energy" to remain single. Such is the tradeoff for a potential mental breakdown.