i want to have a girlfriend now ;(

[Wenjie]

Hi brothers and sisters in christ..... Im so envious of all the couples out there. It must be really sweet to fall in love with one another, someone whom you can pour your concern onto... WOW

But sadly, Im already 17 years old soon and I doesn't have an girl friend yet.... Im getting impatient and my desire to have a girl friend is building rapidly... I need your help....

Please either pray for me that God will give me a girlfriend soon or pray for me that God will change my mindset of having a girlfriend

Thank you.

Yours Sincerely
Single TeoWenJie

 

[Nithavela]

You're "already 17 soon"?

Dude, you're 16. Relax, you're not behind the curve. Many people today take until their mid 20s.

Why do you even want a girlfriend? Just because everyone else has one?

 

[Radrook]

Hi brothers and sisters in christ..... Im so envious of all the couples out there. It must be really sweet to fall in love with one another, someone whom you can pour your concern onto... WOW

But sadly, Im already 17 years old soon and I doesn't have an girl friend yet.... Im getting impatient and my desire to have a girl friend is building rapidly... I need your help....

Please either pray for me that God will give me a girlfriend soon or pray for me that God will change my mindset of having a girlfriend

Thank you.

Yours Sincerely
Single TeoWenJie

Well, if you still doesn't has a girlfriend at 17 then that could be due to being socially isolated or associating with a group that doesn't provide any opportunities. Some churches are full of adults who are already married, divorced, or totally devoid of any opportunities for a teenagers seeking a marriage mate.

Also, some churches frown upon dating unless it is with the intention to marry. So parents will be very protective of their daughters and will demand an honorable motive for your interest. Also, parents will tend to impose their opinions on their daughters and prevent anyone they don't particularly like from getting too near. So the few that might be with within your age bracket might be out of reach based on those factors.

If in addition to these factors you add the demand that you marry only within your denomination-then things can become very agonizing very quickly with no easy Christian way out.

Some church elders will immediately spot any fellow who appears out of nowhere far from his home parish and suspect him of seeking girlfriends. Some will contact the visiting teen's home church in order to get the lowdown on who he is and if the report isn't too good, church parents will be warned and the chances of success will diminish.

Of course I am assuming that you are trying to stay within church attendance parameters.
If so, then all those factors will come into play in certain denominations more than in others.
You are the best one to deal with the situation since you are the one familiar with the reasons for your present solitude. But the factors outlined above might very well come into play. So I strongly suggest that you keep them well in mind.

BTW
Why would God want to change your mindset? Why should others pray that he does so. What is your mindset?

 

[Radrook]

You're "already 17 soon"?

Dude, you're 16. Relax, you're not behind the curve. Many people today take until their mid 20s.

Why do you even want a girlfriend? Just because everyone else has one?

Relax? LOL!
Raging hormones don't reason.

 

[blackribbon]

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[Radrook]

Are you ready and capable of getting married? Then it doesn't matter if you have a girlfriend yet. Maybe those raging hormones make it better that you don't have a girlfriend until you are old enough to control them.

Hey! Hold on! I am not the one seeking advice! The kid who posted the thread is. My raging hormone days are way over my friend. I was just simply remembering how I felt at his age.

BTW
Raging hormones aren't amenable to the control that you mention.
They persist and saturate every waking hour of the male's existence and if not, then physical; symptoms set in that are very detrimental to the male's health. I tried to control them and had to travel each day in the NYC public subway surrounded by women in mini skirts. Have you ever been packed into a subway full of women in mini skirts while raging hormones are coursing through your young lonely solitary veins?

 

[blackribbon]

Hi brothers and sisters in christ..... Im so envious of all the couples out there. It must be really sweet to fall in love with one another, someone whom you can pour your concern onto... WOW

But sadly, Im already 17 years old soon and I doesn't have an girl friend yet.... Im getting impatient and my desire to have a girl friend is building rapidly... I need your help....

Please either pray for me that God will give me a girlfriend soon or pray for me that God will change my mindset of having a girlfriend

Thank you.

Yours Sincerely
Single TeoWenJie

What is it that you hope to get from "having a girlfriend"? Are you ready or capable of getting married at 'almost 17'? Look around you, most of those dating relationships that you are looking at in your peer groups aren't as "sweet" as you seem to think they are and most don't last more than a few weeks or months. Broken hearts hurt. More than you can imagine. So don't rush this. Wait for the person God has picked out for you and chances are, she doesn't go to your high school.

 

[blackribbon]

Hey! Hold on! I am not the one seeking advice! The kid who posted the thread is. My raging hormone days are way over my friend. I was just simply remembering how I felt at his age.

I realized this after I posted...I really didn't "get" what you were posting but I did delete my post when I realized that you weren't the OP replying.

 

[Radrook]

I realized this after I posted...I really didn't "get" what you were posting but I did delete my post when I realized that you weren't the OP replying.

Well here is what I wrote in reply:

Hey! Hold on! I am not the one seeking advice! The kid who posted the thread is. My raging hormone days are way over my friend. I was just simply remembering how I felt at his age.

BTW
Raging hormones aren't amenable to the control that you mention.
They persist and saturate every waking hour of the male's existence and if not, then physical; symptoms set in that are very detrimental to the male's health. I tried to control them and had to travel each day in the NYC public subway surrounded by women in mini skirts. Have you ever been packed into a subway full of women in mini skirts while raging hormones are coursing through your young lonely solitary veins.

Just pray to God that you never doesn't have to be in that agonizing situation.

 

[blackribbon]

BTW
Raging hormones aren't amenable to the control that you mention.
They persist and saturate every waking hour of the male's existence and if not, then physical; symptoms set in that are very detrimental to the male's health. I tried to control them and had to travel each day in the NYC public subway surrounded by women in mini skirts. Have you ever been packed into a subway full of women in mini skirts while raging hormones are coursing through your young lonely solitary veins?

How is having a girlfriend going to change the raging hormones...or even address them? I am going to hope you did learn to control them and you didn't actually touch all those women on the subway....Control and erase are not synonyms.

 

[Daryl Gleason]

Hi brothers and sisters in christ..... Im so envious of all the couples out there. It must be really sweet to fall in love with one another, someone whom you can pour your concern onto... WOW

But sadly, Im already 17 years old soon and I doesn't have an girl friend yet.... Im getting impatient and my desire to have a girl friend is building rapidly... I need your help....

Please either pray for me that God will give me a girlfriend soon or pray for me that God will change my mindset of having a girlfriend

Thank you.

Yours Sincerely
Single TeoWenJie

Welcome, TeoWenJie, and grace and peace to you from our Father and our Lord Jesus. I mean this sincerely, as I suffered from a profound lack of both at your age, and I do not wish for you to suffer as well.

I empathize strongly with your feelings. As Radrook expressed, I don't feel that God wishes to change your mindset -- it was he who gave you the desire in the first place.

May I suggest an alternative prayer?

"Lord, please grant me wisdom regarding relationships, please prepare me to be ready for the one you have for me, please prepare her for me as well, and please bring us together at the time of your choosing, according to your perfect plan for us. In Jesus's name, amen."

One is never too young to start asking for the wisdom of God, and it's a wonderful place to start. James 1:5.

In Christ,
Daryl

 

[HollowbodyBlues]

Hi TeoWenJie!

I completely understand where you are coming from, I'm almost 19, and I have still never had a girlfriend, but you and me, we're still very young - we have many more years ahead of us. I believe that there is a girl out there for me, and another one for you - you've just got to keep looking, but don't let it blind you from God's path for you.

Also, you're going to keep changing in the next few years, you're not going to like the same things, you might change your virtues, your passions, etc. If you get a girlfriend now, it is very likely (although not guaranteed) that things might not last because you two will be changing so drastically.

All in all, don't give up, try to let God lead you to where you need to be, and as they say in Hockey, keep your stick on the ice.