"I want to get to know you better"

[WileyCoyote]

This dude doesn't know diddley-squat about me. . .

He knows you're a girl. For some guys, that's all they need to know.

 

[KingCrimson250]

Wise men say, only fools rush in....

Ok so I won't finish that... but you get the point music fans.

"He who hesitates is lost"

 

[CoachR64]

Well, I would be flattered, even if I wasn't interested.

If I was interested, then I would ask her on a date. A date, on romantic footing to see if something is there. Not "hey, let's be friends and see what happens."

I think the problem with Christian dating is people are too scared to simply go on a date and read way too much into it. A date is not a relationship. It is going out with the intentions of seeing if a relationship might be in the future.

If I wasn't interested in her, I would tell her straight up that I am not interested in her in a romantic way.

Coach

 

[Apollo Celestio]

I would like to try running for the hills just once, just for comedic effect.
I would probably blush.. :o

 

[Panzerkamfwagen]

Hop and keep my hands on my legs.

 

[Stravinsk]

Guys, if a girl said this to you would you find it flattering or would you run in the other direction?

Depends on the girl, if I'm at all interested in her. Sometimes the former only, sometimes the latter only, and often both.

On a dating site, I wouldn't take it too personal - there could be any number of reasons another person wouldn't respond, some of them may have nothing to do with you, but that they are busy, currently involved with someone else or whatever.

 

[mikeandme]

Depends on if I was interested in more than friends with her of course.

 

[Niels]

If anything, I would be flattered. That's not to say that a romantic relationship would necessarily form. Learning more about another person can sometimes have the opposite effect, but it sounds like a good idea to me. I'm basically a "get to know her better" kind of guy, because I like there to be some kind of friendship or rapport from the start.

 

[captainslow]

That would be my reaction as well.

I think for now I'm just gonna keep quiet and see what happens.

Well hey, thats what I am doing, and guess what?? Single, no girl, not even one to talk to.

So, "I want to get to know you better?" Will take it, but is dificult, reason I say this is when I see someone I like, I will be blown away and non-stop thinking about her and will want it all straight away. I have learnt it does not work this way.

 

[PeculiarTreasure]

Well hey, thats what I am doing, and guess what?? Single, no girl, not even one to talk to.

So, "I want to get to know you better?" Will take it, but is dificult, reason I say this is when I see someone I like, I will be blown away and non-stop thinking about her and will want it all straight away. I have learnt it does not work this way.

Yeah, this is me too! It's hard not to rush things when you want it so bad and it's like right there in front of you.

 

[ido]

I'm surprised no one else suggested this, but maybe telling them you want to get to know them isn't enough. I have been on dating sites in the past and when I would receive a msg like that, I was never really sure how to respond. "Sounds great! What do you wanna know?" was kind of my standard response b/c I didn't like being made to feel like I needed to initiate the conversation/getting to know them.

So, instead, why not pick something on their profile that interests you and say - "I really liked your profile, especially what you wrote about 'XYZ'. How did you get involved with that? (or insert appropriate question pertaining to topic here)."

That will open the doors to communication a little better and get a conversation going faster, IMO.

 

[PeculiarTreasure]

I'm surprised no one else suggested this, but maybe telling them you want to get to know them isn't enough. I have been on dating sites in the past and when I would receive a msg like that, I was never really sure how to respond. "Sounds great! What do you wanna know?" was kind of my standard response b/c I didn't like being made to feel like I needed to initiate the conversation/getting to know them.

So, instead, why not pick something on their profile that interests you and say - "I really liked your profile, especially what you wrote about 'XYZ'. How did you get involved with that? (or insert appropriate question pertaining to topic here)."

That will open the doors to communication a little better and get a conversation going faster, IMO.

I've tried that before and still nothing. Very frustrating. I guess guys just don't like me for some reason. What else is new. If I do get a response back they lose interest very quickly. I just have no idea what I'm doing or not doing or whatever.

 

[ido]

I've tried that before and still nothing. Very frustrating. I guess guys just don't like me for some reason. What else is new. If I do get a response back they lose interest very quickly. I just have no idea what I'm doing or not doing or whatever.

Well, my personal experience is that it's very difficult to get positive results off of any of those sites. A lot of guys (even ones who claim Christianity on their profiles) are not looking for anything more than casual encounters/relationships. A lot of girls are probably the same way, but I wasn't viewing their profiles/emailing them, so I don't know for sure.

I don't think it's anything you are or aren't doing correctly, FWIW. I think it's just the nature of the beast. Internet allows for easier anonymity (sp?) - and so ceasing contact is usually the easy (read: cowardly) way for these guys to let a girl know they're no longer interested (or weren't interested to start).

Try not to take the lack of (continued) interest personally. I didn't - those guys had no idea what a great catch I am...and you are, too!

 

[PeculiarTreasure]

Well, my personal experience is that it's very difficult to get positive results off of any of those sites. A lot of guys (even ones who claim Christianity on their profiles) are not looking for anything more than casual encounters/relationships. A lot of girls are probably the same way, but I wasn't viewing their profiles/emailing them, so I don't know for sure.

I don't think it's anything you are or aren't doing correctly, FWIW. I think it's just the nature of the beast. Internet allows for easier anonymity (sp?) - and so ceasing contact is usually the easy (read: cowardly) way for these guys to let a girl know they're no longer interested (or weren't interested to start).

Try not to take the lack of (continued) interest personally. I didn't - those guys had no idea what a great catch I am...and you are, too!

Thanks girl. A local guy actually WROTE ME yesterday. He seems real sweet and plus he's a musician! My weakness right there. Prehaps after awhile we can actually meet and I'll have a RL friend! ! ! I'd be most grateful even if that's all that comes of it.

 

[stephanieamber]

He knows you're a girl. For some guys, that's all they need to know.

My friend Bee told me that once! There was a boy who was being a bit.. forward.. and I'd only met him once! and I was like "how can he even be interested in me if he knows nothing about me?" and Bee said "sometimes being a girl is enough."

kind of weird.

 

[Jerimi]

My friend Bee told me that once! There was a boy who was being a bit.. forward.. and I'd only met him once! and I was like "how can he even be interested in me if he knows nothing about me?" and Bee said "sometimes being a girl is enough."

kind of weird.

I have friends like that.

My best friend is interested in anything female. I caught him flirting with the 15 yr old groupies at the skate park... He's 23.

 

[PeculiarTreasure]

Thanks for the reps everyone! I hope it actually works out too. It would def. be a pleasant surprise. I hope I don't run him off like all the other ones.

 

[Jerimi]

Just remember, keep your cool, take it slow and smile. Smiles are women's greatest tool.

 

[BoarderDave]

I'd be all for it.. There is nothing bad about that, really. It's a great step in building a friendship AND relationship.

Do it up.

 

[stephanieamber]

I have friends like that.

My best friend is interested in anything female. I caught him flirting with the 15 yr old groupies at the skate park... He's 23.

Oh no that is no good