I want to cut these feelings out

[jasmineh]

Hi my name is Jasmine and I identify as bisexual and I used to be so proud of this. I would promote the homosexual lifestyle. I thought it was normal. I thought the people who said it was a sin was being hateful but they are right. Homosexuality is a sin and I really want to live for God. I wish I could cut these feelings out of me. I started questioning my sexual orientation when I was in the 6th grade. A girl who was a stud or Butch liked me and I was so confused about that. Later on I started to see females.differently. I was attracted to them. I went back and forth from being a lesbian to bisexual.,I came out to my parents in the 9th grade that I was bisexual the only one in by family that took it well was my little sister. I didn't date a girl into my freshman year of college. I regret that so much. I have been in so many toxic relationships with males that my urge to date a female is even stronger than ever. I need advice and resources to help me stop this lifestyle. Is it possible to be an ex bisexual? If you have any questions feel free to ask me.

 

[Johnnz]

You can change.

Poor experiences with males will work against developing normal sexual responses to guys. That is not an uncommon experience for a woman with some toxic males in her past.

Some early same-sex experiences can take place as part of one's developing sexuality and its associated drive and curiosity. Being 'hit on' by a strong female was not helpful.

It's very possible you are confused and hurt at this stage, rather than being confirmed in your sexuality. Thus, with help and application change is possible.

Bless you
John
NZ

 

[RainbowUnbroken]

Hello. I'm new here too. I know this struggle all to well. It can tear a person to shreds and cause heartbreak for all involved in knowing the person who struggles with sexual orientation.

I won't advocate for either direction you choose to take. However, I will tell you what helped me to process my beliefs along with my struggles was a combination of things: seeing a Christian counselor, reading various books on the topic, going back and forth with my parents (who are retired ministers), going from one extreme to the other (live the "lifestyle" and then when convicted, trying to be "ex-gay" which affected me in so many ways), spending "quality alone time" with Jesus, meeting with my pastor, and writing a blog in which I discussed my journey of reconciling life, faith, and sexuality.

I believe each person is accountable to his / her relationship with Jesus. This must come first. I found it helpful to read Scripture aloud as a form of prayer. Also, I had a sacred space where I felt I could be absolutely alone and present with God. I followed where I felt Jesus was leading me. This struggle increased my intimacy with Jesus.

Sexuality is gift, and God has made His boundaries clear. It's important to sit in the presence of the Holy Spirit, to allow Spirit to teach you and guide you into all Truth. There are various interpretation of God's boundaries regarding sexuality. Take the time for your own sake to become familiar with a few of those interpretations, all under the leadership of the Holy Spirit.

This struggle is definitely a journey, a process - not something that "goes away" by "cutting it out." In the process of this journey, you may end up somewhere you never expected to be (i.e. marrying a man and raising a family, living the single life, or something else which only God can direct you to be with a clear conscience).

Be gentle with yourself, as Jesus is gentle with all His beloved who seek to live according to Spirit and Truth. Surround yourself with people who will respect you as a person, who will listen to your thoughts and feelings without condemning you - because you are going through a process and it sounds like you want to honor God; therefore, the process will be messy at times, and the last thing you need is judgmental friends, etc.

~Suzanne

 

[7angels]

i was a porn addict at one time. it is hard to turn off something that feels so good and fun to do. but that is how sin works. sin and the flesh work hand in hand with each other. the word of God teaches that the flesh is an enemy of God because what it craves is not in line with God which is why we are told to put the desires of the flesh down. usually the first 6 months are the toughest. i fell back into porn addiction many times but i noticed each time it happened less and less often. until eventually it no longer controls me.

when trying to stop something you don't really want to change is tough but it can be done. what you need to do is when the temptation comes upon you then you need to find a verse that gives support or meaning to you so that when the temptation comes you quote that verse every time it comes up. it will be a tough battle to begin with but will get easier. i have noticed once you conquer the temptation it will try and come back two more times. they come back at the most inopportune times. but if you stay strong throughout it all then the desire will eventually be pushed away.

i will be praying for you.

God bless