I want to be saved but im gay

[mockingbird100]

Im 23 have been bought up in a caring strong christian family my whole life. Since i was 14 or 15 i have struggled with homosexual tendancies. When i was 21 i finally gave into this. Im now in a relationship...i feel ok about this tho i know its wrong. I want to be saved but i dont want to be a hypocrite. I have tried to walk away from this lifestyle but never seem to make it. I cant talk to my parents because it hurts them too much and they pastor a large church. What should i do

 

[madison1101]

Im 23 have been bought up in a caring strong christian family my whole life. Since i was 14 or 15 i have struggled with homosexual tendancies. When i was 21 i finally gave into this. Im now in a relationship...i feel ok about this tho i know its wrong. I want to be saved but i dont want to be a hypocrite. I have tried to walk away from this lifestyle but never seem to make it. I cant talk to my parents because it hurts them too much and they pastor a large church. What should i do

Do you understand what it means to be saved? John 3:16 says "For God so loved the world (that includes you) that He gave His only begotten son (Jesus) that whosoever believes on Him should not perish but have everlasting life." That verse says nothing about you doing anything but believing that when Jesus died on the cross, He died for your sins so you could have a loving relationship with God. PERIOD.

Pray and accept the Lord, and then pray and ask God for His guidance about your sexual behavior. Don't try to deal with your sexuality without God in your corner.

 

[Willo]

Im 23 have been bought up in a caring strong christian family my whole life. Since i was 14 or 15 i have struggled with homosexual tendancies. When i was 21 i finally gave into this. Im now in a relationship...i feel ok about this tho i know its wrong. I want to be saved but i dont want to be a hypocrite. I have tried to walk away from this lifestyle but never seem to make it. I cant talk to my parents because it hurts them too much and they pastor a large church. What should i do

Right up it is something that needs to be walked away from as it is clearly sin.

I would encourage you to go to www.australia4jesus.com and take the good test.

 

[Mr.Cheese]

Jesus loves you.
We're all hypocrites.
By all means you can be saved this very minute.

 

[Diane_Windsor]

The Roman Catholic Church has an apostolate called Courage-it is geared for homosexuals who wish to lead more godly lives. There website provides lots of resources.

There also might be a similar program in your denomination.

Diane

 

[Sam Gamgee]

You are going through a very difficult struggle.

You probably feel like you have to choose between your sexaulity and your relgion... and both are such fundamental parts of your being. You probably feel like this will be one of the hardest decisions you'll have to make.

I've been where you are. And I can tell you that there is a way for you to find incredible happiness in your life. God gives many blessings if you open your heart and mind to them. And in five or ten years when you look back on it, you'll be surprised how easy this decision could have been.

Let me ask you a question: If you could be a homosexual AND be a Christian, would that be an option that you'd consider? Or is it "one or the other" for you right now?

 

[Lee_Lee]

Hey dudes,
I'm am going through the same struggle at the moment- every fibre of my being tells me that I am a lesbian- but being gay is against the bible so for me it is very much a 'be alone the rest of my life' or 'go to hell' thing - as you can tell I loose either way.

I want to be gay and I want to be a lesbian.......I want to be a gay lesbian- is that really true???? do they exist? will I go to hell? I don't know-can God change me? I am very confused at the moment........

- I have sort of decided to leave it up to God- be open to anything and then see what happens from there........but I will give anyone a super hug if they could tell me what to do (I know i'm being cheeky - cause no one can really tell me what to do)

btw - sorry didn't mean to steal your thunder sam ......

 

[WashedClean]

Jesus can set you free from homosexuality, but you need to be repentant. Please check out this website from a former homosexual who is now married with two children and has a ministry reaching out to the homosexual community. Jesus loves you. But He wants you to be free!

www.sbministries.org

 

[Diane_Windsor]

I'm am going through the same struggle at the moment- every fibre of my being tells me that I am a lesbian- but being gay is against the bible so for me it is very much a 'be alone the rest of my life' or 'go to hell' thing - as you can tell I loose either way.

I'm not sure what you meant by "being gay", but having a homosexual orientation is not wrong or sinful in and of itself. Certain sexual behaviours such as homosexual lovemaking are sinful, but having a sexual orientation is not.

If you are a homosexual (orientation) then you are most likely called to single and celibate life. For some people this can be diffcult to accept, but it might be a cross that you have to shoulder.

Diane

 

[Nigmeister]

All stuggle, and all fail

Have hope, for in Christ is victory

Don't ignore what you feel, but don't be ruled by it either

It's a fight - it's a brutal war, but have patience and faith

Christ won't pull you out of your fight, he'll carry you through it - and he'll win

 

[mockingbird100]

To me its pretty clear as to what the bible says about homosexuals. I know not just from what other people tell me but within myself that i cant continue as a christian if i persue this lifestyle. To me the issue is not entirely about being a hypocrite its more like i dont want to be lukewarm and ineffective as a christian if i am one i want to have a life thats fully submitted to God not just have him as my saviour but not as the Lord of my life

You are going through a very difficult struggle.

You probably feel like you have to choose between your sexaulity and your relgion... and both are such fundamental parts of your being. You probably feel like this will be one of the hardest decisions you'll have to make.

I've been where you are. And I can tell you that there is a way for you to find incredible happiness in your life. God gives many blessings if you open your heart and mind to them. And in five or ten years when you look back on it, you'll be surprised how easy this decision could have been.

Let me ask you a question: If you could be a homosexual AND be a Christian, would that be an option that you'd consider? Or is it "one or the other" for you right now?

 

[madison1101]

Have you accepted Christ as your saviour? If so, then you seem to have an understanding of what is expected of you.

My point is: You don't have to stop being gay to be a saved, born again Christian. BUT, being saved may cause you to change your lifestyle to honor and glorify Christ, once you are saved. Accept Christ as saviour. Let Him change you from within.

 

[hasnoname]

I know a recovery program in the Dallas are called Celebrate Recovery. I have heard it has helped people in your situation overcome their problems. But as you said, you are not ready to let Christ be Lord of your life. When you put Christ in that "drivers" seat of your life things will change. I might be fairly young, but this is something that I know is true and have seen a change in my life. Im sure you know this, but when you accept Christ as your Savior, it is only one step. The next step, the hard step, is surrendering your life to God. Letting God make your decisions (through prayer and listening to the Holy Spirit and repentence) is hard. For every believer, it is a constant struggle to stay in the light.

 

[vinc]

Apostle Paul condemns Homosexuality or "being gay". There is no record that Lord Jesus Christ condemned Homosexuality in the Bible.

We are all saved by grace and not because of our sexual purity alone. In fact Lord Jesus Christ goes on to say to the religious-minded Pharisees and Sadducees that "Prostitutes and the Publicans shall enter the Kingdom of God before you".

Continue to develop a personal relationship with God and His Son Lord Jesus Christ inspite of your sexual orientation and live for Him. God loves all His Creation including Homosexuals/Gays and Lesbians. Homosexual tendencies come to us at a young age and, if indulged in it very much, would be very difficult to leave it just like the Heterosexuals who have indulged too much in fornication/adultery in younger days and find it hard to overcome them. So, in my opinion God sees both Heterosexuals and Homosexuals alike. And our sexual-orientation doesn't matter anyway.

Today's religious-minded christians are no better than the religious-minded pharisees and sadduccees of Jesus days. Be thick-skinned of what such people say. Your parents might also be sadly having such a feeling in mind but if they are true christians they will continue to love you and hope the best for you.

Try to overcome it as much as possible. If you are not able to overcome completely then it remains as a sexual-weakness and not as a sin in the sight of God. Make friends with some Christians who have homosexual-orientation and you will feel more comfortable.

This is my honest personal opinion. Lord bless and be with you always.

 

[Lee_Lee]

hmmmmmm...........I get the whole concept of 'gay christian' - having those feelings but not acting on them- alls Im saying is it is a bloody hard choice....... don't know if any striaght person could get it.

 

[Mr.Cheese]

To me its pretty clear as to what the bible says about homosexuals. I know not just from what other people tell me but within myself that i cant continue as a christian if i persue this lifestyle. To me the issue is not entirely about being a hypocrite its more like i dont want to be lukewarm and ineffective as a christian if i am one i want to have a life thats fully submitted to God not just have him as my saviour but not as the Lord of my life

You are no different from me or anyone else.
We are all in Humanity's sinking ship.
Jesus loves you and died for you the same as he did for me.

Why you struggle with homosexuality is a question I cannot answer.
But God is with you through your struggle.
We are called to be lights shining in the darkness. Maybe we all have our own darkness that we are meant to shine in.
In spite of ourselves God uses us. He's cool like that.
I'm not homosexual. I absolutely cannot understand what you go through.
What an opportunity you have to shine where I cannot.
Maybe instead of you seeing yourself as a flawed human being beyond God's grace you can see that God can use you as you are to reach people who need to know his love?

 

[Agent Clancy]

Im 23 have been bought up in a caring strong christian family my whole life. Since i was 14 or 15 i have struggled with homosexual tendancies. When i was 21 i finally gave into this. Im now in a relationship...i feel ok about this tho i know its wrong. I want to be saved but i dont want to be a hypocrite. I have tried to walk away from this lifestyle but never seem to make it. I cant talk to my parents because it hurts them too much and they pastor a large church. What should i do

It's fine to have a relationship with someone. The only sinful part is homosexual sex, as it is not procreative. All it takes is willpower and trust in God.

 

[nosilla115]

Jesus Loves u soooo much (i no it sounds a bit cliche) not matter what u do not matter who u are. yes being gay os something that the bible doesnt exaxtly encourage but it wont make u a better christian that the Benny Hinns who are healing thousands. Ask God to come onto ur life, and with his help u can change if u want to. he has many plans 4 ur life and there is nothing more he wants than for u 2 carry them through, but if you dont his love for u wont alter. he has known u since before u where born u have a place in his heart that no one else can fill. Just ask him do you what he wants in ur heart and he will.

 

[themessage88]

Mockingbird100,

I think it's pretty clear that you have a choice to make. I know that it is very hard to see God through your circumstances, and feelings. I know there is freedom from homosexuality in Christ. You have to completely surrender it to him and in faith pray for forgiveness, and deliverance. I know it's easier said than done, but God longs for you. He longs to change your life and he longs to see his plan in action in your life. I believe that Satan has you trapped believing a lie. He wants you to be afraid and to think that you will always have homosexual feelings, He wants you to think that God hates you, he wants you to think that you are useless, but you arent. We all suck in the sight of God but because of God's love and Jesus' sacrifice on the cross, he sees us when we repent and accept Christ. The only way to the Father is through the Son. Don't think that you can't be delivered because you can, I urge you to get down on your knees and pray in faith for Christ to break the chains binding you. I will pray for you, don't worry. Get over yourself, have faith, be obedient!
Here is a song that you should read the lyrics to.

All For Love
Hillsong United

All for love the Father gave
For only love can make a way
All for love the heavens cry
For love was crucified

Oh how many times have I broken your heart?
Still you forgive, if only I ask
Oh how many times have you heard me pray
Draw near to me

Everything I need is you, my beginning my Forever
Everything I need is you, Is you

Let me sing, All for Love
I will join the angel's song
Ever holy is the Lord
King of Glory King of All

God Bless you and I pray that the chains in your life would be broken by the Spirit of God. In Christ,
Themessage88

 

[TheMainException]

If you believe....then receive the love of the Father in heaven...there are NO prerequistites for being a Christian....just receive his love...and he will go from there and help to change you.