Uh, that would be false.
How many times have we seen a person get attacked and called names like "child of the devil" just because they voiced an opinion contrary to the majority's? Quit a bit, I assure you.
The "respect is earned" fallacy puts people under a bondage that they have to please [for example] Mr. X personally, when in fact if Mr. X doesn't like them [never will], then Mr. X will never give Mr. Y the respect that Mr. Y has "rightfully earned".
So, why am I going to waste my time trying to respect a disrespectful person who will NEVER give me respect anyway?
See, I've spent my whole life [by the instructions of my parents] doing everything I could to please God and man, so I could earn their precious respect.
Here's a story ...
I grew up with ... "Ray", let's call him. I went to school with Ray from 3rd grade, all through school, finished high school, was in college with him for 3 years, then ten years with him in one church. Ray's parents, after 23 years of us being good friends [I introduced him to his wife, etc] decided for some weirdo reason to start showing their disrespect and displeasure toward me.
They wouldn't let me over to their house. His mom picked up once when I was leaving a message on the answering machine, and cut me off while I was talking, telling me not to ever call there again.
Ray couldn't figure it out. He called his parents "cowards" for not telling me what was on their minds, whatever it could have been.
So I went along, tried to be nice and respectful to his parents, who were like elders in the community, whose opinions we were supposed to respect, and whose standards we were supposed to live up to. So, I wrote a letter to his parents, apologizing nicely if I'd ever done anything to them, asking for their forgiveness, telling them that since they were ministers, if I'd ever done anything in the first place, how much should they as a mature man and woman forgive me by the grace God had given them.
Well, Ray's dad got prostate cancer, and was dying. He didn't have long to live when they finally decided they wanted to restore themselves to me. I went to a wedding that day, and Ray, his wife, and I were going to Hospice to see Ray's dad.
As soon as we arrived there, Hospice told us that Ray's dad had died 40 minutes before we got there.
I never got to be reconciled to Ray's dad.
At the funeral, which was widely attended, I read a tribute to Ray's dad, and his mom came up to me after the funeral and said, "We'll talk, okay?"
And she never talked to me after that.
I could go on with plenty of examples of how I have wasted my life trying to "earn" respect from those who will never give it to me to begin with. I can name you lots of people who have done this to me. And people ask me why I am so angry and bitter.
We all have people in our lives who will hold out on us, who don't like us, who think we're "not worthy".
They don't want to give us the promotion.
They don't want to give us the time of day.
They don't want to give us the car loan.
They don't want to give us the good grade in school.
They don't want to help us when we need it.
Pardon me for reacting so angrily and with such resistance.
I have learned through hard trial and affliction that "respect is earned" is a lie Satan uses to keep us on the treadmill of works to the point that we are unable to receive [or even to simply SEE] God's grace bestowed upon us.
Look at David.
His brothers and father put him in the back taking care of sheep.
They didn't call him up when the prophet looked for a king to anoint.
His wife called him out in front of people.
His king tried to kill him.
His children tried to overthrow his throne.
It doesn't matter what you do. If you have that curse on you, people will never respect you.
But I'm supposed to respect THEM.
So, why am I going to waste my time trying to respect a disrespectful person who will NEVER give me respect anyway?
SO you AGREE that you're not going to give respect to someone who (you think) does not respect you?
this is respect sometimes in the real world!
Can I tell you a story?Uh, that would be false.
How many times have we seen a person get attacked and called names like "child of the devil" just because they voiced an opinion contrary to the majority's? Quit a bit, I assure you.
The "respect is earned" fallacy puts people under a bondage that they have to please [for example] Mr. X personally, when in fact if Mr. X doesn't like them [never will], then Mr. X will never give Mr. Y the respect that Mr. Y has "rightfully earned".
So, why am I going to waste my time trying to respect a disrespectful person who will NEVER give me respect anyway?
See, I've spent my whole life [by the instructions of my parents] doing everything I could to please God and man, so I could earn their precious respect.
Here's a story ...
I grew up with ... "Ray", let's call him. I went to school with Ray from 3rd grade, all through school, finished high school, was in college with him for 3 years, then ten years with him in one church. Ray's parents, after 23 years of us being good friends [I introduced him to his wife, etc] decided for some weirdo reason to start showing their disrespect and displeasure toward me.
They wouldn't let me over to their house. His mom picked up once when I was leaving a message on the answering machine, and cut me off while I was talking, telling me not to ever call there again.
Ray couldn't figure it out. He called his parents "cowards" for not telling me what was on their minds, whatever it could have been.
So I went along, tried to be nice and respectful to his parents, who were like elders in the community, whose opinions we were supposed to respect, and whose standards we were supposed to live up to. So, I wrote a letter to his parents, apologizing nicely if I'd ever done anything to them, asking for their forgiveness, telling them that since they were ministers, if I'd ever done anything in the first place, how much should they as a mature man and woman forgive me by the grace God had given them.
Well, Ray's dad got prostate cancer, and was dying. He didn't have long to live when they finally decided they wanted to restore themselves to me. I went to a wedding that day, and Ray, his wife, and I were going to Hospice to see Ray's dad.
As soon as we arrived there, Hospice told us that Ray's dad had died 40 minutes before we got there.
I never got to be reconciled to Ray's dad.
At the funeral, which was widely attended, I read a tribute to Ray's dad, and his mom came up to me after the funeral and said, "We'll talk, okay?"
And she never talked to me after that.
I could go on with plenty of examples of how I have wasted my life trying to "earn" respect from those who will never give it to me to begin with. I can name you lots of people who have done this to me. And people ask me why I am so angry and bitter.
We all have people in our lives who will hold out on us, who don't like us, who think we're "not worthy".
They don't want to give us the promotion.
They don't want to give us the time of day.
They don't want to give us the car loan.
They don't want to give us the good grade in school.
They don't want to help us when we need it.
Pardon me for reacting so angrily and with such resistance.
I have learned through hard trial and affliction that "respect is earned" is a lie Satan uses to keep us on the treadmill of works to the point that we are unable to receive [or even to simply SEE] God's grace bestowed upon us.
Look at David.
His brothers and father put him in the back taking care of sheep.
They didn't call him up when the prophet looked for a king to anoint.
His wife called him out in front of people.
His king tried to kill him.
His children tried to overthrow his throne.
It doesn't matter what you do. If you have that curse on you, people will never respect you.
But I'm supposed to respect THEM.
Basically, Jesus gave them respect even though they weren't willing to give it to him.
You want to make sure it's loaded first, safety catch is off, and cocked, which this one isn't.
Be blessed in Jesus' Name.
Do I have to share the opinion of another person to get respect and to avoid getting reported?
A simple yes or no will do, thanks. [Editorializing unnecessary]
Just a yes or a no.