I think I'm losing control of my life... Help, please!

[AfanofJesus]

Hi brothers and sisters!

I'm in a terrible state right now and I just feel that I need to talk (type) to somebody! I've for a long time now felt a huge lack of motivation in school and things are getting overwhelming, I can't keep up any longer. At first I was able to just ignore it and keep on studying but as days passes by my motivation declines and things gets worse. This have affected everything in my life now, social relations, family, faith, sin, happiness - you name it. I really need to get out of this now but I'd really need some support. I'd appreciate advice a lot, but mainly right now I think I need a lot of encouragement and prayer, and someone to talk to and share with. I feel really bad since, as mentioned, my whole life is getting affected and I just can't handle it. I have really nice friends in real life that I could talk to and such, but somehow I feel the need to be "anonymous", or to talk to someone that have some distance to my life, and I also think I need to share it with someone of my own age whom is a christian. Naturally the list of possible friends suddenly got pretty short.

Is there anyone willing to help me out?

Thanks a lot in advance, peace.

 

[Gath]

Well, I think the first thing you need to try to do is figure out what exactly is causing this lack of motivation. Are you not interested in the topics? Is there too much work? Is there too little work? (I find that I'm actually better at getting things done when there's more to do.)

What about other factors? What exactly do you spend time doing? If you have a very active social life, you might want to try to cut back. If you're in too many activities, you might drop out of a few. Conversely, if you have nothing to do with your time, getting involved in a few more activities can help to bring back motivation.

Of course, without more information, it's hard to offer accurate advice. However, I would recommend attempting to schedule every part of your day. If you can create a schedule that alternates work and leisure (i.e. work for an hour, take on hour off, repeat) you may be able to improve your work ethic.

If that fails, you might want to attempt taking a step back. I'm assuming based on your age that you are currently attending college: (correct me if I'm wrong) perhaps your major or choice of classes just isn't right for you, or perhaps a college education in general isn't for you.

If you want to discuss anything in more detail, my PM box is open. I'll check this thread again as well.

Good luck!

 

[AfanofJesus]

Friends!

Thanks a lot for your support, encouragement and advice! It meant and means a whole lot to me. I have been really busy with my life and couldn't find the peace until now to come back and write here. There are still much going on but things have turned into the better. I'm so sorry for not replying to your help and repies, I will do that more at length as soon as possible.

Also I'm sorry to see that your post got removed Tellastory, that was probably because the age restrictions here. Rules are rules, but when someone is reaching out in a sincere way to help others, it would sometimes maybe be right to look another way if a rule i broken. However I'm very thankful and will get back to you soon. As I feared it would get removed I saved a copy of your message, your help and energy put into it was not wasted in any way.

Thanks again, see you soon!

 

[triforceYOU]

Hey AlfanofJesus,

What you need to do is find strength through your relationship to all things good. I can see that you are male. Coming from a male who has embraced all things evil for six years, I can definitely assure you that your situations are coming from evil.

I advise you to look into your heart, quite literally feel your heart beating, now imagine what your heart looks like... reflect on your past actions and characteristics that your actions have given you. Is your heart a bright beating vibrant red? Or is your heart a blackening crisp?

I advise you to live by something called virtues. Living a God fearing life will give you virtues and people can see a virtuous man just by his face (expression), his actions and his tone of voice. Your voice will begin to deepen and your confidence in your actions will soar. They are the actions of Jesus.

Please, step back from whatever sin you are committing and fill your mind with the Words of God. Memorize verses such as John 11:25 "I am the resurrection, and the Life; he who believes in me, though he were dead, yet shall live." There is chance for everybody... Always.

REMEMBER God's word is your SWORD and your SHIELD and your ARMOR and your BATTLE PLAN. REMEMBER this life is a WAR ZONE and your afflictions are that of the enemy and he is the great liar. Television, music, billboards and even substance came from earth... these are all tools of the liar. Arm yourself companion, and know that the WORD IS GOD, so if you need God, speak his word and literally he comes from you and your enemy will flee.

I am here to message if you need more advice. I am also working on a ministry that will primarily reach young people who feel like you do, and those who don't or will not admit they feel these things. May you keep God by your side, because will not make you come to Him.


Sincerely,
God speaking through me