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First of all, I want to thank everyone on this website for the help they've given me over the years. It's nice to have a place that I can go to and vent anonymously about different things and I apologize if I've ever been a pain. You all are wonderful...
For those who know the things I post, I've experienced a significant loss in my relationship with God because of an event that happened four years ago right at the beginning of my walk with Him and four years later, I'm still struggling immensely with what happened. For a long time, I've felt like God pushed me away or that He didn't really want anything to do with me after what I did, but lately I've felt Him tugging on my heart to come back home...and after a lot of soul searching I've realized the problem isn't that God doesn't want me and is keeping me at a distance because He's angry or disappointed. The problem is, I've built up a wall around myself for protection because I have MAJOR trust issues with Him and I'm afraid to come back to Him after what happened because now that I missed what He originally wanted for me four years ago and know beyond a shadow of a doubt that I did, I don't trust His plan for me and I'm afraid to see what He might have me do next, and I'm afraid of being disappointed and heartbroken.
I wrote this in my prayer journal last night and hope that it can help shed some light:
"Father I know that I need to come back to You and that You’ve been calling out to me, but there’s one really big hurdle that’s in the way of me coming home that I just can’t get around…Father, I know that even if I do repent and turn back to You, I’m not going to have the life that was meant for me four years ago and that I missed out on, nor the blessings that I came with it. Even if I do come home to You, I’ll never see my past again or what I had. I’ll never get the chance to live out the life that was planned for me and I’ll never get another chance to redeem myself after the screw up that I made back there and I know that I won’t. Father my biggest obstacle in coming home to You is trust…
Father if I were to come home, the reality of my loss and my mistake will hit me harder than it has ever hit me and I think the pain is going to be so unbearable, that it will be like going into shock trauma after getting into a car accident. If I were to do this, I would be disappointed and have my heart broken all over again. And Father I also think, what is the use of going back to You and having life with You if I’m never going to live out Your purpose for me because I gave it away and missed the door into Your perfect, prescriptive will for my life? I hang back because I’m not sure what Your plan is for me now and I’m scared of what is going to happen to me when I do come home. I imagine being constantly reminded of what happened and reminded that I screwed up and could have had something amazing…if I were to come close to You, it would always be hanging over my head even more than it is now, or even worse…You would make me give it up in my heart even though all of that is what I cherish and hold dear even after all of this…You will rip it away from me once and for all and it will be GONE…and my worst nightmare will be realized. I know that as far as the constant reminder, You wouldn't be the one doing it to me as punishment, but I know that it will be the "elephant in the room" that can't be ignored and it will never leave me...
Father I keep my distance because it allows me to fight and it allows me to have hope that all of that really isn’t gone for good and that what happened really wasn’t my fault. I didn’t even want to do what I did in the first place and I did it because I felt like I had to do it and had to prove my righteousness to You before You would let me walk in all of it. I didn’t understand grace even though I knew I had it and was doing what I always did because I didn’t know any better: covering myself so that if anything went wrong, I couldn’t be blamed and accused and wouldn’t get in trouble or be punished. I was covering the bases so that You wouldn’t find wrong with me and take all of that away from me. It still baffles me, Father, that You could let this happen knowing that I didn’t want to and knowing that my sense of the truth was very warped and only just starting to be correct. I didn’t know any better because all my life I’d lived that way, always having to be two or three steps ahead so that when things hit the fan, my escape would already be planned out and cover myself so people wouldn't have an excuse to justify hurting me and what I was going through after I first found You was so different…I was just starting to learn the truth about You, still trying to process everything that happened to me when I got baptized and figure things out, figure out what was truth and what wasn’t…I was vulnerable and weak and when all of that hit me, I fell immediately because it overcame me in weakness. I have very little doubt that what caused me to make the choices I did back there was an attack from the enemy and what I was being told when I was being attacked was what I had been told all my life, that I was no good, that I deserved to be punished and You would punish me if I took what was being offered to me because I wasn't good enough for it...and because I knew little else, I couldn’t fight against it. Lord, I don’t know that any of this matters to You and You probably see it as just an excuse or me trying to justify doing wrong…
God in short the reason that I’m having trouble coming back to You is because I don’t trust Your plan for me after all of this and I’m afraid that I’m going to end up hurt and disappointed just like I was four years ago when all of this happened. And I’m afraid of You, too. I remember two summers ago when You came down and touched me and revealed Yourself to me one day at home after a counseling session, and I was deathly terrified of Your presence…I am still that way now because all I can remember and think about when I do feel the Spirit is what happened and all of the trauma of losing what You gave me and for other reasons I don’t really know. I want to come home and God I ask that You would help me get to where I can come home, but Lord these are my roadblocks to doing it and I can’t get around them. Or maybe I just don’t want to…I don’t know…I’m scared…"
For those who know the things I post, I've experienced a significant loss in my relationship with God because of an event that happened four years ago right at the beginning of my walk with Him and four years later, I'm still struggling immensely with what happened. For a long time, I've felt like God pushed me away or that He didn't really want anything to do with me after what I did, but lately I've felt Him tugging on my heart to come back home...and after a lot of soul searching I've realized the problem isn't that God doesn't want me and is keeping me at a distance because He's angry or disappointed. The problem is, I've built up a wall around myself for protection because I have MAJOR trust issues with Him and I'm afraid to come back to Him after what happened because now that I missed what He originally wanted for me four years ago and know beyond a shadow of a doubt that I did, I don't trust His plan for me and I'm afraid to see what He might have me do next, and I'm afraid of being disappointed and heartbroken.
I wrote this in my prayer journal last night and hope that it can help shed some light:
"Father I know that I need to come back to You and that You’ve been calling out to me, but there’s one really big hurdle that’s in the way of me coming home that I just can’t get around…Father, I know that even if I do repent and turn back to You, I’m not going to have the life that was meant for me four years ago and that I missed out on, nor the blessings that I came with it. Even if I do come home to You, I’ll never see my past again or what I had. I’ll never get the chance to live out the life that was planned for me and I’ll never get another chance to redeem myself after the screw up that I made back there and I know that I won’t. Father my biggest obstacle in coming home to You is trust…
Father if I were to come home, the reality of my loss and my mistake will hit me harder than it has ever hit me and I think the pain is going to be so unbearable, that it will be like going into shock trauma after getting into a car accident. If I were to do this, I would be disappointed and have my heart broken all over again. And Father I also think, what is the use of going back to You and having life with You if I’m never going to live out Your purpose for me because I gave it away and missed the door into Your perfect, prescriptive will for my life? I hang back because I’m not sure what Your plan is for me now and I’m scared of what is going to happen to me when I do come home. I imagine being constantly reminded of what happened and reminded that I screwed up and could have had something amazing…if I were to come close to You, it would always be hanging over my head even more than it is now, or even worse…You would make me give it up in my heart even though all of that is what I cherish and hold dear even after all of this…You will rip it away from me once and for all and it will be GONE…and my worst nightmare will be realized. I know that as far as the constant reminder, You wouldn't be the one doing it to me as punishment, but I know that it will be the "elephant in the room" that can't be ignored and it will never leave me...
Father I keep my distance because it allows me to fight and it allows me to have hope that all of that really isn’t gone for good and that what happened really wasn’t my fault. I didn’t even want to do what I did in the first place and I did it because I felt like I had to do it and had to prove my righteousness to You before You would let me walk in all of it. I didn’t understand grace even though I knew I had it and was doing what I always did because I didn’t know any better: covering myself so that if anything went wrong, I couldn’t be blamed and accused and wouldn’t get in trouble or be punished. I was covering the bases so that You wouldn’t find wrong with me and take all of that away from me. It still baffles me, Father, that You could let this happen knowing that I didn’t want to and knowing that my sense of the truth was very warped and only just starting to be correct. I didn’t know any better because all my life I’d lived that way, always having to be two or three steps ahead so that when things hit the fan, my escape would already be planned out and cover myself so people wouldn't have an excuse to justify hurting me and what I was going through after I first found You was so different…I was just starting to learn the truth about You, still trying to process everything that happened to me when I got baptized and figure things out, figure out what was truth and what wasn’t…I was vulnerable and weak and when all of that hit me, I fell immediately because it overcame me in weakness. I have very little doubt that what caused me to make the choices I did back there was an attack from the enemy and what I was being told when I was being attacked was what I had been told all my life, that I was no good, that I deserved to be punished and You would punish me if I took what was being offered to me because I wasn't good enough for it...and because I knew little else, I couldn’t fight against it. Lord, I don’t know that any of this matters to You and You probably see it as just an excuse or me trying to justify doing wrong…
God in short the reason that I’m having trouble coming back to You is because I don’t trust Your plan for me after all of this and I’m afraid that I’m going to end up hurt and disappointed just like I was four years ago when all of this happened. And I’m afraid of You, too. I remember two summers ago when You came down and touched me and revealed Yourself to me one day at home after a counseling session, and I was deathly terrified of Your presence…I am still that way now because all I can remember and think about when I do feel the Spirit is what happened and all of the trauma of losing what You gave me and for other reasons I don’t really know. I want to come home and God I ask that You would help me get to where I can come home, but Lord these are my roadblocks to doing it and I can’t get around them. Or maybe I just don’t want to…I don’t know…I’m scared…"