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I think I have a problem...

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I had a glass of wine with lunch. Usually I wait until evening when I know I won't have to drive anywhere. Today, I know I need to drive myself to my kids' school in about two hours.

So, anyway, I had a glass to relax a little from the stress of not yet being ready for the holidays. Then I had a second glass... now, I really want to open another bottle (since I polished off the open one). But I know I need to get to school soon - so I made a pot of coffee. So, I will be responsible and drink the coffee so I can be at school when I said I would be there.

I like drinking too much, I know. Most of the time I don't keep alcohol in the house. My excuse right now is that my in-laws are coming, and I know they like wine. Do I like having an excuse to have anything that can give me a buzz in the house? - yes. I have a problem, don't I? Dh does not like it when I drink. Although, he likes the way I loosen up when I drink.
 

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I had a glass of wine with lunch. Usually I wait until evening when I know I won't have to drive anywhere. Today, I know I need to drive myself to my kids' school in about two hours.

So, anyway, I had a glass to celebrate the holidays and relax a little from the stress of not yet being ready for the holidays. Then I had a second glass... now, I really want to open another bottle (since I polished off the open one). But I know I need to get to school soon - so I made a pot of coffee. So, I will be responsible and drink the coffee so I can be at school when I said I would be there. The alternative is tempting though...

I like drinking too much, I know. Most of the time I don't keep alcohol in the house. My excuse right now is that my in-laws are coming, and I know they like wine. Do I like having an excuse to have anything that can give me a buzz in the house? - yes. I have a problem, don't I? Dh does not like it when I drink. He likes the way I loosen up, but he doesn't like obnoxious drunks. :(

Oh great, my neighbor and mail lady just delivered a package and saw how hammered I was in the middle of the day. Is it ever okay to be hammered in the middle of the day?

You shouldn't drive, coffee or not. Coffee doesn't sober you up and a bottle of wine puts you over the limit.
 
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Hi Kanga,

I can relate to what you're saying. Often when I drink wine, it's usually more than one glass. I can't seem to stop after just one. I don't drink very often, but lately it has been a little more.

I agree that coffee doesn't sober you up. Only time can do that. I hope you got to school safely and returned without any incidents. It's good that we realize we may have a problem. The real question is, what will we do about it??

Praying for you...:prayer:
 
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Yes, I got to school and home again without incident. Thank you for the concern. :) School is only eight miles away and I take lightly traveled country roads to get there. I had two glasses of wine with lunch and stopped drinking two hours before I drove. My biggest problem was that the kids had a 4-H meeting at school, and I DIDN'T feel like being there. Hopefully I won't be stupid like that again.

Currently I have two bottles of unopened wine in my cabinet awaiting my in-laws visit. :) I'm proud of myself for not opening them. Every year, when the in-laws visit, they make a wine and beer run. I always feel badly that I never have it ready when they arrive, because I know they drink. In fact, I suspect they would not be able to go without it for an evening.

Last year I tried to tell my mother-in-law that I come from a family of alcoholics and that dh and I don't commonly keep alcohol in the house. It seems to fall on deaf ears. I end up feeling like I'm not being hospitable enough.

I just got off the phone with dh. He is not allowed to drink at all while he is working out of town, so he said he wants to get some beer and champain to have for the holidays. I'm glad that he wants to drink with me for a change. Usually I want to and he doesn't. So, I feel like a lush and don't end up getting anything. Which I'm sure is a good thing for me.
 
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Yes, I got to school and home again without incident. Thank you for the concern. :)

I'm glad you and the kids are safe. :)

Last year I tried to tell my mother-in-law that I come from a family of alcoholics and that dh and I don't commonly keep alcohol in the house. It seems to fall on deaf ears. I end up feeling like I'm not being hospitable enough.

Don't feel guilty. If you don't want alcohol in the house, then you should stick to that. Sounds like they might have some issues with alcohol as well if they can't handle a night without it.

I had too much to drink myself last night. I drank about 3/4 of a bottle of red wine. Then it causes me to eat like a fiend. I woke up in the middle of the night feeling pretty lousy, but not hungover. I prayed to God this morning that he would take any desire for alcohol away from me. I need to remember how it makes me feel later on. I can go many weeks without it, but when I drink wine, it's almost always at least 3 glasses. :sigh:

I would covet your prayers in this area, and will continue to pray for you as well.

God bless,

Jill
 
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