Ana the Ist
Aggressively serene!
They teach that love is action, not feelings. Meeting the needs of others; service. Communicating in their "love language".
It's a problem because there may be someone more suited to you (or someone that God prefers you marry), but that you didn't "flip" for. You end up with a sub-optimal choice.
I don't think it's "rightly so". Love may be essential, but I'm trying to distinguish between love and feelings. There have been an uncountable number of successful marriages (by some definition of "successful") that did not include feelings.
Then there are the well-off who make sure their kids only get involved with the "right people".
I have looked at the top reasons for divorce. Depending upon where you look, infidelity is often at the top of the list. I addressed this in the OP. If you're depending on feelings, then if those feelings stop for your spouse you're bound to look elsewhere. Or you might develop even stronger feelings for someone you're not married to. In either case, infidelity can easily follow.
Mostly along the lines of compatibility. There are many parts to that.
True enough. Nor can you make yourself love someone. (Again, talking about feelings; you can certainly perform acts of love for someone.)
You keep conflating love with feelings. I'm trying to distinguish between them.
Yes, it is worth trying to hold on to. But the numbers indicate that in many cases this is a losing proposition.
No offense, but I don't really understand what you mean here. Love is an emotion. One can do things because of the love they feel...or they can express their love through actions...but love isn't an action in my understanding.
Perhaps you can give me an example of what you mean? Please, take care not to simply give me an action done because of love...that's still just love as an emotion.
I'll gladly respond to the rest...but I think this needs clarification first.
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