I think he is cheating on me..(guys, what are the signs of a cheating bf)

[MrsGnomeCrusher]

You have a lot of good advice here. A lot of wonderful advice. Wish I had this info awhile back, but I learned that no matter how many red flags others seen, and that you yourself see, until you realize it yourself, you'll keep yourself in this unhealthy relationship.

From lessons learned, if your gut is telling you he's cheating, 99.9% of the time he is.

 

[Ninjitsu14]

JF,PM me anytime,I will give mty time into working this out with you,all you have to do is ask,if I'm not on,PM some of these other great people giving great advice,even greater than mine!

 

[eliseb]

Hello,
I didnt' read the whole forum on your subject here with your MYSTERY man. But anytime you feel manipulated I would BAIL out a few days and then see what he does? If he doesn't feel the need to do anything to make you feel comfortable, or discuss this? Then dump it? WHat is the purpose of hiding phone calls from you? Sounds very devious and makes it LOOK as if he has something ot hide and how determined he is to do so??? Hello? Don't allow yourslef to be manipulated like this? But I do have this advice first? If you are having sexual relations wiht this man?( outside of marriage) This is what happens? It gives both partners a feeling of insecurity. I went through a very hard time year ago before I was saved? Wanting to be married to the wrong ( unsaved men) full of lies and put offs , secrets and so so so much emotional turmoil? But first I would make sure to do some self examination and make sure you are walking right yourself? And you are with somebody who truly loves the Lord enough to respect you in this area of your relationship.There is a HUGE difference between an unsaved partner and saved partner. Trust God? Not the man? Walk wiht the Lord in all you do he will set it straight and you will have so much less frustration?

 

[needhislove]

Hi there, Jesus Fan,

Wow! I think that you read up on one of my relationships and put it in this thread as your own. Listen, hun, I hate to say it, but this just can't be good. I went through this with a guy. I was really in love with a guy who did all these romantic things with me. He made me feel special. I didn't need my friends after dating him for a while. I mean, why would I? He spent all kinds of time with me. Anyway, he didn't like many of my friends, he thought they were a bad influence on me. Well, to be honest, some of them didn't like him. He had no problem with me hanging out with his friends as long as he was around. Long story short, eventually, I had no friends AT ALL. His friends were off limits unless he was around and even then I couldn't talk too much to them or he would throw fits. Yet he went and hung out with other girls sometimes, but that was okay as they were just friends, right? Oh, how wrong I was.

I brought up the problem to my dad one day after it had been going on for too long already. Here was my dad's very simple answer to me:

IF HE CAN'T SEE ANY REASON TO TRUST YOU TO BE AROUND OTHER MEN, THEN YOU HAVE EVERY REASON TO NOT TRUST HIM AROUND OTHER WOMEN.

In other words, if he thinks there is a reason that he should say you can't even talk to another guy about a work related issue, then that is a really big indicater that you can't trust him with other women, period.

I think you need to start spending more time with your friends. Let this guy go before you end up married to an abusive man. I really believe that's what he will turn into.

Also, it seems to be no coincidence to me that you are feeling so down on yourself right now, he is counting on that. If you feel it is your fault or that you are not worth better than you are getting, then you are less likely to walk away from this messed up relationship. On the other hand, if you were seeing yourself for the person you are( obviously caring, sweet, loving, and a priceless child in Christ!) then you would ask yourself why you are wasting your time in such a hurtful situation, and you would run, not walk away.

Unfortunately, I didn't listen to my dad. I stayed with the guy and got cheated on several times by him. How did I find out? One of his friends told me. And he did, in the end, admit it to me. Also, before the end came, he had punched a whole in the wall right beside my head on two different occasions and put a hole in another wall by throwing a brush at me. I'm glad I got out, but wish I had done it sooner. I am positive that one day he would have hit me with that nasty wall smashing fist.

I am praying for you. Keep in mind how important you are in Christ.

With my greatest hopes for you,
Toni