I still have the same arguments with my dad, just in a different setting.

[Lady Bug]

I was having some peace and quiet (sort of) in the home when my dad called me this evening and started biching about the same things that we bich at home about and I feel absolutely miserable. My dinner is over an hour delayed because of this. I had been trying to go to bed earlier, which I had been doing, but it's not to my liking. How can I want him to come back home, when this is what is in store for me?

 

[Michie]

I was having some peace and quiet (sort of) in the home when my dad called me this evening and started biching about the same things that we bich at home about and I feel absolutely miserable. My dinner is over an hour delayed because of this. I had been trying to go to bed earlier, which I had been doing, but it's not to my liking. How can I want him to come back home, when this is what is in store for me?

My advice is to cut it off. Tell him you no longer want to continue this pattern of arguments. It is not healthy for him or you. If he continues, just tell him you’ll see him tomorrow. During this time he may get the hint and try to communicate in a more healthy way.

 

[RileyG]

God bless you

 

[mourningdove~]

I was having some peace and quiet (sort of) in the home when my dad called me this evening and started biching about the same things that we bich at home about and I feel absolutely miserable. My dinner is over an hour delayed because of this. I had been trying to go to bed earlier, which I had been doing, but it's not to my liking. How can I want him to come back home, when this is what is in store for me?

You probably can't look happily forward to it. You're right.

I agree with @Michie . This is a time when you can begin to set boundaries with your Dad. While he's not in the room with you, and on the phone.

It also seems like this could be a very good time for you to get your 'spiritual gas tank' filled up, for when and if your Dad does return home. Like, you have more privacy now for time alone with God. And if you aren't employed, you could try to make daily Mass sometimes. And I want to recommend a very good book to you:

"The Way of Trust and Love, A Retreat Guided by St. Therese of Lisieux" by Jacques Philippe

Amazon.com

It's available on Amazon.
If you have a Kindle Reader, the Kindle version is only $7.95

It's just a very good book, and learning about St. Therese's "Little Way" has helped me thru some difficult times.

I'm sorry if my advice always tends towards the spiritual, but that is how I get thru the hard things in life. With God.

When it seems we have no one else but God ... that is where we learn to trust Him.
St. Therese trusted, and loved, God.

 

[eleos1954]

I was having some peace and quiet (sort of) in the home when my dad called me this evening and started biching about the same things that we bich at home about and I feel absolutely miserable. My dinner is over an hour delayed because of this. I had been trying to go to bed earlier, which I had been doing, but it's not to my liking. How can I want him to come back home, when this is what is in store for me?

You can simply state ... I don't want to discuss this right now ... in your particular example .... Dad, I need to go prepare dinner and want to go to bed early ... we can discuss this some other time. If at any time you don't want to engage in conversation (with anyone) just politely say so ... there's nothing wrong with that ... and you don't have to give a reason.

 

[FaithT]

My advice is to cut it off. Tell him you no longer want to continue this pattern of arguments. It is not healthy for him or you. If he continues, just tell him you’ll see him tomorrow. During this time he may get the hint and try to communicate in a more healthy way.

Good advice.