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unkalledfor

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I think you did a good job... bottom line is this... It doesn't matter who you ask out or how you do it... when you ask out that special someone, she won't say No... Think of this as practice... you have more guts than you give yourself credit for, and your blunt approach isn't a bad thing.. A lot of girls like a guy that doesn't beat around the bush... Chin up man, she's out there, you're young... You're in your prime man, don't waste it by being down about a girl..
 
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GQ Chris

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best thing is to be very direct with her when you ask her out, and be specific... don't say stuff like "lets hang out sometime"

Specify the time and place and activity, also be polite but don't be so nauseatingly nice like your world will fall apart if she says no.
 
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GQ Chris

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ummmmm she asked me what my intentions were..... I wasn't gonna lie to her.

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When you tell a girl what you're really thinking you leave no mystery whatsoever and basically seems like you're throwing yourself at her.. girls like Strength and Confidence, not nauseatingly nice guys that give too many compliments early on.
 
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asking girls out isn't science guys... it's just like a sport, the more you try the less awkward and the better you become at it... it's all about knowing yourself, and being comfortable in your own skin... girls see this and it's attractive...

For example, last night I went out with a couple of buddies... now one of my buddies is kinda big (fat)... but he actually gets MORE girls to talk to him than anyone else in our posse... why is this?? because he doesn't care and he's comfortable in his skin... he's just an all-around fun guy to hang with... girls LOVE that...
 
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When you tell a girl what you're really thinking you leave no mystery whatsoever and basically seems like you're throwing yourself at her.. girls like Strength and Confidence, not nauseatingly nice guys that give too many compliments early on.


dude..... girls can't STAND guys who won't tell them the truth..... has anyone made that man law yet? It's really needed in this situation! I'm to hard, I'm to soft, I don't try enough, I try to much, what are you really asking me to do here??
 
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dude..... girls can't STAND guys who won't tell them the truth..... has anyone made that man law yet? It's really needed in this situation! I'm to hard, I'm to soft, I don't try enough, I try to much, what are you really asking me to do here??

I'm not asking you to do anything, but you asked for help and people are giving you it.. empty your cup so you can take in the advice.

Unfortunately with dating, initially it is all a game to even get your foot in the door, its a cruel world and people are trying to give you real world advice.
 
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dude..... girls can't STAND guys who won't tell them the truth..... has anyone made that man law yet? It's really needed in this situation! I'm to hard, I'm to soft, I don't try enough, I try to much, what are you really asking me to do here??
There's a difference between telling the girl the truth and too much information.

If she asked what your intention was, you could say, "Well, I'm looking for someone I can date seriously for about 2 years and then marry. I would like to be married for 2 more years and then have a child. I would like to have four more children in two year intervals. The cost of child care would probably be high so I would prefer a woman who will stay home with them until they are in school. When the children graduate and we retire, I would like to buy a Winnebago and travel South in the winter."

Or you could say, "Just thought it would be cool to hang out and talk."
 
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I am ROTFL right now
 
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that wasn't directed at you Chris..... that was a general rant. My point is girls just don't know what they want. even if I was coming off to strong.... guys are not perfect and most of us are not good with ladies and if we ARE good with ladies you might wanna question our intentions.
 
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