i really need some help 17/f

[Wondergirl]

my name is sara and i have a serious problem and i need some spiritual help. my church threw me out and ive been too scared to go to another man of god. i need help from my peers. im 17 years old and i was impregnated 4 months ago. just to add another twist to my sad story, im starting to have feelings for one of my friends. shes been helping my deal with my baby and somethings have been coming over me. she and i had the same feelings and weve had a date and she kissed me. it was a long kiss, one that made me believe that im bi. i need advice. please help me find gods message of what i need to do.

 

[flounder7786]

honey, im sorry...remember wherever you go that God loves you...for who you are too!!! I think you need to find a church ASAP...and get plugged in...dont be afraid...people can be rude and not very understanding...but God will put someone into your life that you can go to.

About being bi...pray about it...talk to the girl...tell her you dont want to fall into that sin...and then end the "relationship"

you'll be in my prayers!!

 

[Wondergirl]

but thats the thing, i want to be with her, she is amazing and she cares for me. cant jesus love me if i have a girlfriend?

 

[Melbelle]

Did your Preacher ask you about counceling, I got pregnant out of wedlock but I didn't get kicked out for that, my preacher expland to me that I needed to see why what I did was wrong and what I needed to do for my fellow church. My preacher counciled me then I went forward in my church and appoligized for my sinning because i know that this could have ruined my fellowship with God and my fellow church family members. The bi issue I have nothing to say about that just pray about it and allow God to show you what is right and ask satan to leave you be. You will have a more open and clear mind once you tell Satan to leave you alone.

 

[Melbelle]

but thats the thing, i want to be with her, she is amazing and she cares for me. cant jesus love me if i have a girlfriend?

Yes he will always love you but he doesn't love your sin.

 

[flounder7786]

yes...like she said...jesus loves you even when in sin...but if you really want to follow after the Lord, and walk as close to jesus as you possibly can, you are going to want to get rid of sin in your life...do you understand that...sometimes i dont make sense...lol...or all the tiem.

 

[Wondergirl]

im not sure ill ever be able to trust a man of got again. when i told him all of what ive told you, he called me spon of satan and litterally threw me out, then locked the door to his office. i want to do gods work and i think he will understand me feelings for my girlfriend. im also thinking about abortion if its possible 4 months into it or adoption. i dont want the baby, i didnt want to have sex with the father anyway but thats another story an another headach. please, help me as much as you can withought suggesting a church. ive done so much to try to contact god. ive prayed for 5 hour stretches, only to break for eating, i even fasted for a day. ive seen no signs. what do you think i should do? short of praying (im doing that nonstop) and going to a church

 

[flounder7786]

i want to do gods work and i think he will understand me feelings for my girlfriend.

okay...God will NOT understand your feelings for a GF...God is completly sinless...and would not tolerate this...if it werent for Jesus...we'd all be helpless in that department...SIN is what separates us from God...and in the bible it DOES say that it is sinful to have a relationship wiht someone of the same sex. God will forgive...but he would NOT understand it!!!!

and do me a favor...do the adoption thing...DONT have an abortion...really...that causes soo much more trauma that the pregnancy itself...PLEASE dont get an abortion...do the adoption thing!!!!

 

[Melbelle]

im not sure ill ever be able to trust a man of got again. when i told him all of what ive told you, he called me spon of satan and litterally threw me out, then locked the door to his office. i want to do gods work and i think he will understand me feelings for my girlfriend. im also thinking about abortion if its possible 4 months into it or adoption. i dont want the baby, i didnt want to have sex with the father anyway but thats another story an another headach. please, help me as much as you can withought suggesting a church. ive done so much to try to contact god. ive prayed for 5 hour stretches, only to break for eating, i even fasted for a day. ive seen no signs. what do you think i should do? short of praying (im doing that nonstop) and going to a church

well maybe if you stop stressing over this girl and don't worry about her at the momment and worry about your own problems you are having and be OPENED about it and have a CLEARED mind and tell satan to back off then maybe you will see the sin that is going through your mind. Abortion Hummm Why? there is women out there who cannot have kids why not do adobtions, abortions can cause you to be starial and never have a kid. Being with a woman, hummm excuse me but God made adam and eve not adam and steve.

 

[Wondergirl]

why does god have to be so stubborn? he gave me the ability to love and he gave me my girlfriend in my path, how could it be that he did not want me to be with her? i think god gave me a heart and a brain and both are saying that god will understand.

 

[Melbelle]

why does god have to be so stubborn? he gave me the ability to love and he gave me my girlfriend in my path, how could it be that he did not want me to be with her? i think god gave me a heart and a brain and both are saying that god will understand.

Where is satan I guess he is a saint in all this. Did it ever cross your mind that he is the one who is doing all this. why do you have to be so quick to judge God?

 

[flounder7786]

NO NO NO NO NO!!! Look...okay, since God can do no evil, and cannot be tempted...it says this in John 1:13 (Let no one say when he is tempted, "I am being tempted by God"; for GOD cannot be tempted by evil, and He himself does not tempt anyone) God does NOT allow evil...and that would be considered evil

 

[ZooMom]

Temp Closed for review.

 

[ZooMom]

Re-opening.

 

[CoatOfColors373]

First of all I Want to say God Loves and cares for you more than any guy / girl can ever will. I know how you are feeling sweetheart, Your Young and your Hurting, and it is in our Weakness Satan tends to do us harm. And he will continue and continue, over and over again to bring you down and destory you more if you let him. Satan Lies to you hun. Remember he was once and Angel, and he will apper to you in ways that may look like the "right thing" to do. How do you tell the difference between Satans Lies and the truth? THE BIBLE! Have you been reading God's Word. We talk to him in prayer, and God talks to us IN HIS WORD! Let me Give You Some Scripture That you can think about and I Do Advise You Think About them!

LETVITICUS 18:22
Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it [is] abomination.
(It offends God when people are with others of the same sex. God distoried the city of Sodom and Gormarah Because the place was full of sin, including Men With Men and Woman with Women.)
PSALMS 22:10
I was cast upon thee from the womb: thou [art] my God from my mother's belly. (God Already knows your Baby. God Loves your Baby. God wants to give your Baby life. It's not the Baby's faught that you made a mistake, let it live. Adoption is the best Answer.)
1st CORINTHIANS 2:3
And I was with you in weakness, and in fear, and in much trembling. ( We don't have to listen to Satan's lies and let him continue to hurt us. We can just seek God and he will make us strong in our weakness. Sin seperates us from God. God will not hear your prayers if you continue to Sin. But he is Always going to love you!)

I Hope you can find Peace and understand what the Lord wants you to do. READ THE BIBLE!
YOUR IN MY PRAYERS

 

[Mr.Cheese]

Talk about church and the individual you refer to as a man of god.
Also, you indicate some tension regarding the father of the child to be.
So it sounds like you got involved with this guy.
You got pregnant.
Things got ugly. Or maybe things were already ugly.
You found a caring friend and boundaries have been confused among the two of you. You confided in someone at church, apparently a male, a pastor maybe? and they have reacted...rather unfortunately.
It's no wonder you're not interested in guys after all that and you haven't even told the half of it.
So start from the beginning and tell your story. The guy...you were dating? He pressured you into things? Talk about that.

 

[LegacyOfLove]

First of all, not to be judgemental of you as a person...God loves YOU! But, He does not tolerate homosexuality. That IS a sin! But, HE still loves YOU.

This girl who has come into your life....sounds like she's more of a temptation to throw you off of the course that God wants in your life. Sounds like you were already having some troubles when SHE showed up...only making things even more confusing. Give this area to God. Ask Him for His guidance and His will to be done in your life.

Secondly, PLEASE do not consider abortion! If you are 100% certain that you do not want this baby, at least consider adoption. These days you can even have open adoptions...often times you can be the one to select the parents who will raise your child! Your child is a gift from God...if you don't want it, you can be sure that there are many other loving couples/families out there who will!

I am sorry to hear that your church is treating you in this way. I would love to say that churches have kept pace with the "times" but some still haven't. But, ONE church does not represent all churches. And your church's (or pastor's) mindset does NOT represent God's mindset.

I too got pregnant out of wedlock with my first child. My church and even some of my family wrote me off, but I didn't give up. God forgave my sin and He still loved me, in spite of myself! I like what Sethsmommy said how she confessed her sin and her church loved her and let her grow and learn from her experience.

God can take anything bad and turn it into something GOOD for His Glory...if we will just allow Him the chance!

Besides the praying...what can you do? Seek God with all your mind, body, heart and soul....Pray...don't give up...and wait on the Lord for the answers.

 

[blerg1234]

Sometimes, as much as it hurts we NEED to say NO to sin.

The man who got you pregnant and kicked you out needs your PRAYER, no matter how much he's hurt you. Don't look for signs as to what God is doing, but instead start ACTING, start FOLLOWING and OBEYING God. No matter what it costs - just remember that however many years you live on this earth are NOTHING compared to how long you are going to be in Eternity with Him.

Stop waiting for God to do something. God wants you to obey Him, and you've reached the stage where you need to really choose between obeying Him and disobeying him. Resist Satan as much as you can, and when you feel that it's becoming too hard, reach out to God and you will get through.

 

[madison1101]

I am sorry you have found yourself in this situation. First, your sexual relationship with the father of your child had sin in it. So, you need to confess that to the Lord, and repent of that. Second, you need to distance yourself from this girl. Read 1 Corinthians 6 and 7. It talks about sexual sin. God will forgive you. 1 JOhn 1:9.

Now, the church pastor should not have thrown you out. One bad apple does not spoil the whole bunch.

I was pregnant out of wedlock and had to deal with all that stuff too. My church didn't throw me out, but they were challenging to deal with.

Find a crisis pregnancy center that can offer you counseling and support through this time. You are confused and need help.

Hugs,
Trish

 

[stray bullet]

but thats the thing, i want to be with her, she is amazing and she cares for me. cant jesus love me if i have a girlfriend?

Yep, Jesus will still love you if you have a girlfriend. No matter what we do, God doesn't turn His love away from us.

I want you to know that what this "man of God" did was not at all Christlike. No man or woman of God would have treated you like that if they were really in a submissive state to the will of God.

I want you to know that you are not evil, you are not a spawn of Satan or an abomination.

You are a child of God. Being such allows us grace and the mercy of God. With that, however, also comes a responsibility. That is, to use what we have to further serve God.

I want you to know that I can understand where you are coming from. I have had feelings and might continue to, for the same sex. I often struggled with understanding why it would really bother God. But the thing is, we were created male and female for a reason. Through marriage, we can attempt to have children and bring forth people, ultimately, more love into the Universe.

The trouble with homosexuality is that people don't come from these unions. To reject the procreative part of our nature to pursue a member of the same sex, we are rejecting our responsibility, as children of God, to bring in people, to further God's will, to bring forth more love and happiness in the Universe.

I have no doubt that you can have sincere feelings for this woman. You aren't evil for it, it just happens. However, we can't always act on our inclinations because they aren't always right. She could just as well be married. To pursue her would be tempting, but also wrong at the same time.

If you are wanting to talk, please give me a PM. I understand how you feel.