i really need help

[sinnerseekingtheway]

hi

i dont know how i found this forum..but im glad i did, i dont know what to do with my life. at one point i was very religious but i am now ashamed of te person i am and have become.
a year ago i moved away from home for university. i live very far away from my parents ive moved to a different country where english isnt the first language. mass isnt celebrated in english and i have fallen away from God in more ways than one
i met a guy and we were friends for 4 months then we started seeing each other he is currently my boyfriend..and i regret it but i did end up having sex with him.. we both regret it but we always say we are goign to stop but never do
and today i talked to him about it and we both realize it is wrong and we both want to change and start over can someone help

 

[faith2blv_in]

I can relate to this, the always saying your going to stop,then never stopping and then doing it again.... Its been the story of my relationship for some time. We too decided to change and start over, that's been the process over the past few days (weeks if you want to put it all together) Its been hard, really hard, and we've definatly failed at the process. For me, i've been really focusing on rebuilding my faith in God, praying when i sense that we may be getting ourselves into something we shouldn't. Its not easy, no two ways about that - so i'm not even going to tell you it does. But if you truely want to change your ways, and start over as i so badly want to do in my relationship, i suggest (keep in mind this is just a suggestion) not only focusing on standing firm in your decision and praying about it, but also spending time with your boyfriend doing things that won't put you in a situation where you will be having sex. My boyfriend and i started taking walks, going for drives, going out to eat (and including other couples) There are ways around it, and staying strong helps too. The key factor is standing firm in your decision - its hard, and it takes time. I pray you find your answers, as i am looking too. "Starting over" a relationship is hard, but so worth it if you two care about eachother and want to be with eachother - there are many other ways to show you love and care for one another without having sex.... now if i can only take my own advice.. Good luck to you, and God Bless.
I pray that this will all work out for both of us....

 

[Busybee]

Faith gave you great advice about keeping yourselves out as much as possible, so the atmosphere isn't so intimate.

I would also like to suggest starting prayer and devotional together at the BEGINNING of your dates together. Because where the Lord is, the devil won't be. It'll set your hearts and minds on the right course for your date together.

Thank God you're trying to set yourselves on the right course

 

[sinnerseekingtheway]

we're both not the same religion making that last part hard....we havtn seen each other in a week...so im really scared about seeing him when next week rolls around
faith u really made me feel like i am not alone and i really thank you for that
it is hard but im defiently gonna try and keep trying
thank you

 

[Johnnz]

Have you met and do you know Jesus in a personal way, or are you a religious person with beliefs about God, right and wrong? There is an important difference.

John
NZ

 

[Mebby01]

hey girl

l know what you mean you haven't really gone to church l haven't either l just don't know what to do with my life anymore. I dated a guy for a long time and l think to myself that l should stop having sex but l just can't say no and then l had sex with 7 more guys thinking that he will be earsed it never happend that way. The guy l dated for a long time was mean and abusive next time you are alone and are about to have sex say no put your foot down. And say l don't think this isn't right God won't like this. I don't think I want to have sex anymore until l'm married and say l'm sorry if u don't feel this way but l do l just don't feel comfortable with this. l don't think God will approve of this l want God to forgive me for my sins l just don't want to do this anymore. If he gets mad at you and break up with you for it. Thats his problem no one in there right mind has the right to force you don't what you think is right. If u need more support and l didn't help feel free to P2p me ok? l hope u feel better soon girl bye
God bless you hun