Ok my friend came to town (she moved to Wisconsin but visits sometimes) when she came over she kinda confessed that she was a lesbian and "liked me." I almost feel like I like her as well I've prayed for guidance but Im still not sure what do i do???
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fm107
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Homosexuality is an abomination in the eyes of God.
1 Corinthians 6:9
Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders
Romans 6:13
Do not offer the parts of your body to sin, as instruments of wickedness, but rather offer yourselves to God, as those who have been brought from death to life; and offer the parts of your body to him as instruments of righteousness.
1 Corinthians 6:18-20
Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.
I urdge you to flee from this. In fact you ought to cease the dealings you have with this woman as it could lead to temptation.
1 Corinthians 6:9
Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders
Romans 6:13
Do not offer the parts of your body to sin, as instruments of wickedness, but rather offer yourselves to God, as those who have been brought from death to life; and offer the parts of your body to him as instruments of righteousness.
1 Corinthians 6:18-20
Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.
I urdge you to flee from this. In fact you ought to cease the dealings you have with this woman as it could lead to temptation.
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Whether this is something that tempts you or not, I would urge you first to be firm in your mind what God's feelings are on such behavior - study the scriptures, pray for insight and wisdom; get some local help from your church (a good thing regardless) - be open and willing to confess/share with someone you trust as a Christian (someone firm and strong in the faith themself) and with whom you feel you can share. Seek their guidance and support.
While advice here can be helpful, it is important you have someone close in your life there, with you, who can disciple you, pray with you, hear your confessions/struggles/temptations and wisely and maturely give you the Christian support we all need.
With their help, your study and prayer, there may be an opportunity to share your faith with this person, but don't be naive either - as such temptations can be powerful and may lead you to stumble in your relationship with Christ.
While advice here can be helpful, it is important you have someone close in your life there, with you, who can disciple you, pray with you, hear your confessions/struggles/temptations and wisely and maturely give you the Christian support we all need.
With their help, your study and prayer, there may be an opportunity to share your faith with this person, but don't be naive either - as such temptations can be powerful and may lead you to stumble in your relationship with Christ.
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Do nothing. Don't be rude to her just don't bring it up again. She can't help the way she feels right now perhaps, and I would not cut her off as a friend at all, but I would not think about these feelings as they can bring temptations into your mind that were not there before.
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The problem is she's the person I usually go to when I feel confused I'd talk to my parents but then I probably couldn't see her again and I think she's still my friend. Can someone that's gay and likes you still be your friend????
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Same as a guy who "likes" you, but you just want to be friends with them. Maybe the friendship is stronger, maybe the "like" is stronger. No set answer, situation, by situation every friendship will be different. I'd encourage you to find out & give it a try keeping the friendship. It'll be evident if she just maintaining the friendship to be angling for a way into your pants, just like if it was a guy.
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Yes they can be. I'm just saying if you are weak and likely to fall into temptation then be extremely careful. It is not wise to be around temptation as it could lead to sin.
Proverbs 12:26
A righteous man is cautious in friendship, but the way of the wicked leads them astray.
If she claims to be a Christian, the situation would be entirely different:
1 Corinthians 5:11
But now I am writing you that you must not associate with anyone who calls himself a brother but is sexually immoral or greedy, an idolater or a slanderer, a drunkard or a swindler. With such a man do not even eat.
Proverbs 12:26
A righteous man is cautious in friendship, but the way of the wicked leads them astray.
If she claims to be a Christian, the situation would be entirely different:
1 Corinthians 5:11
But now I am writing you that you must not associate with anyone who calls himself a brother but is sexually immoral or greedy, an idolater or a slanderer, a drunkard or a swindler. With such a man do not even eat.
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KnowWhatJesusDid
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We are all born sinners, yet we must try our best to NOT SIN. If you were born a homosexual or are having homosexual feelings toward her, you MUST not act upon your Temptations.
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"A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another, even as I have loved you, that you also love one another"
-John 13:34
You should love her in the manner that Christ would. Jesus wouldn't get physically involved with her (extended hugging, kissing, etc.). He wouldn't lead her on. He wouldn't be with her in any situation that she couldn't handle.
Emotions are very powerful. You need to be careful for both your and her sake.
-John 13:34
You should love her in the manner that Christ would. Jesus wouldn't get physically involved with her (extended hugging, kissing, etc.). He wouldn't lead her on. He wouldn't be with her in any situation that she couldn't handle.
Emotions are very powerful. You need to be careful for both your and her sake.
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I just want to say that sometimes we can feel confused and it is the LIES OF THE ENEMY. My little sister thinks she is a lesbian because of an extremely dis-functional family. We all need affection and when someone tells you they like you we react and if your hormones and emotions are not balanced, the devil can jump in and attack you when you are weak. It is not right, not correct, a sin from a Biblical standpoint. It is not cool or modern to be a homosexual. It is not a right or a freedom. It is a lie of the enemy. God bless you and I do not mean to offend anyone.... WITH THE TRUTH
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There are many places to seek advice for this kind of thing, but the internet is a poor choice for something like this. Consult trusted leaders of your church for advice, they can help much more than we can. It is a very serious subject.
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sbbqb7n16
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cause anyone can say they are a pastor/counselor/psychologist online?
I'm a pastor. <-- see. I just did it. (FYI - I'm really not a pastor)
going to the physical location, seeing a sign that says "First Baptist of Indianapolis, Pastor Smith" or "Mary Swanson*, Phd.", going to a legit office, validates the person and makes it more trustworthy that the person isn't just saying it.
I know I'm not a pastor. I don't know if you are - or if anyone who says they are on here isn't just lying to gain credibility.
**and yes that was a Dumb and Dumber reference
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In what way is the advice:
More or less valid coming from a "qualified professional"? If only people who have "credentials" can post valid advice, why is tthere this section and not just "Ask the Chaplian"? How can we take seriously your advice since you claim not to be a pastor or "qualified opinion"?
More or less valid coming from a "qualified professional"? If only people who have "credentials" can post valid advice, why is tthere this section and not just "Ask the Chaplian"? How can we take seriously your advice since you claim not to be a pastor or "qualified opinion"?
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Dear Little Sister,
Red flags are popping up all over the place for me on your behalf. Tread carefully here. You are standing on the edge of a pit and need to take a step back. This is very tricky and friendships, when designed by God, are supposed to safe places not tricky places. I do not know exactly how you should handle this, but I do know you should not try to navigate it without the help of a pastor, youth pastor, parent, pastor's wife, someone close by who can help you walk through it safely. The fact that you are tempted is a gigantic concern. Do not play with fire. There are ways of doing this without sinning and without abandoning your friend, but it will take the guidance of a very loving and mature Christian to help you do that. For some help, you can click on www.groundwire.net and chat with a spiritual coach there. There are also K-love pastors available (but I'm not sure about weekends) to talk with at 1-800-525-love. these are loving people who are there for times like these to help. They can give you some pointers. But no one, no matter now mature in Christ, should try to walk through something like this alone. Your Father has you in His hand, yes, but your adversary the devil prowls about like a roaring lion seeking whom he might devour. You have the choice to not let it be you, but you must not take this situation lightly. "Oh, we can just hang out and watch this movie alone together." NO! That would be the example of a trap. Until this situatio is under control, a short term fix would be to hang out with her but invite other Christian friends along. And you do not have to hide this need from her. It is fine to be upfront and let her know that since she has had these sorts of feelings toward you it is best you not be alone together, but you still love her as a friend and want to spend time in groups with her. But keep in mind, that would be a short term fix. You will need to work closely with someone very mature in Christ to get this settled. Do not try to do this solo. Remember, you are standing on the edge of a pit. Okay?
Blessings, A
Red flags are popping up all over the place for me on your behalf. Tread carefully here. You are standing on the edge of a pit and need to take a step back. This is very tricky and friendships, when designed by God, are supposed to safe places not tricky places. I do not know exactly how you should handle this, but I do know you should not try to navigate it without the help of a pastor, youth pastor, parent, pastor's wife, someone close by who can help you walk through it safely. The fact that you are tempted is a gigantic concern. Do not play with fire. There are ways of doing this without sinning and without abandoning your friend, but it will take the guidance of a very loving and mature Christian to help you do that. For some help, you can click on www.groundwire.net and chat with a spiritual coach there. There are also K-love pastors available (but I'm not sure about weekends) to talk with at 1-800-525-love. these are loving people who are there for times like these to help. They can give you some pointers. But no one, no matter now mature in Christ, should try to walk through something like this alone. Your Father has you in His hand, yes, but your adversary the devil prowls about like a roaring lion seeking whom he might devour. You have the choice to not let it be you, but you must not take this situation lightly. "Oh, we can just hang out and watch this movie alone together." NO! That would be the example of a trap. Until this situatio is under control, a short term fix would be to hang out with her but invite other Christian friends along. And you do not have to hide this need from her. It is fine to be upfront and let her know that since she has had these sorts of feelings toward you it is best you not be alone together, but you still love her as a friend and want to spend time in groups with her. But keep in mind, that would be a short term fix. You will need to work closely with someone very mature in Christ to get this settled. Do not try to do this solo. Remember, you are standing on the edge of a pit. Okay?
Blessings, A
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