I need to talk about a problem

[Quad]

I'm sorry for some of the things i'm going to say. I don't like to talk behind people's back like this, but the truth must be spoken.

I'm a young man who lives with a narcissist. There's no future for me here. My soul is being destroyed the longer i stay here. I have the opportunity to move out of here with someone else, but he is a narcissist, too.

The person im thinking about moving in with has had a tough life. He's had various surgeries on his body, but he blames his problems on other people instead of taking responsibilities for himself. He likes to take these narcissistic jabs at me, and i can't take it.

I have a dog, and i love him, but sometimes he feels like an unecesary weight holding me back. He has various skin diseases, and needs to contantly be watched. Because of this, i am unable to go anywhere because i have to watch him.

I haven't seen my mother, friends, and sister in so long because I'm trapped here having to constantly watch my dog so he doesn't suffer.

I can't put him down, because the narcissist i live with will probably put me out the house. Medication does not help him, it only makes him feel worse.

I believe faith may have shown me good things that will await me if i decide to move in with another narcissist, but i don't think it's worth it right now.

Any advice?

 

[salt-n-light]

For the dog situation, are you able to get a friend or pay someone to dog sit for a few hours? It may help take the load off.

Also, have to try witnessing to your roommate, or tell him about the love of Christ?

 

[Quad]

For the dog situation, are you able to get a friend or pay someone to dog sit for a few hours? It may help take the load off.

Also, have to try witnessing to your roommate, or tell him about the love of Christ?

That's a good idea. I don't know a lot of people around here who can do that, but thats something i can try. Yes, I've mentioned to him about the love of christ, but sometimes he doesn't want to hear it.

 

[salt-n-light]

That's a good idea. I don't know a lot of people around here who can do that, but thats something i can try. Yes, I've mentioned to him about the love of christ, but sometimes he doesn't want to hear it.

You can probably craigslist, but there should be some sort of dog sitting service somewhere,plenty of choices, just have to look

If you don't mind me asking, what makes this person a narcissist?

 

[Quad]

You can probably craigslist, but there should be some sort of dog sitting service somewhere,plenty of choices, just have to look

If you don't mind me asking, what makes this person a narcissist?

Narcissist is a term for someone who can't quite show, or give empathy. Living with someone who posses those traits can lead to a disfunctional lifestyle. I feel bad for referring my dad, and friend as a narcissist. I'm usually one to understand others, and show compassion, but it seems that may not truly be who i am. I spend a lot of time not trying to walk on eggshells and not make people upset.

 

[salt-n-light]

Narcissist is a term for someone who can't quite show, or give empathy. Living with someone who posses those traits can lead to a disfunctional lifestyle. I feel bad for referring my dad, and friend as a narcissist. I'm usually one to understand others, and show compassion, but it seems that may not truly be who i am. I spend a lot of time not trying to walk on eggshells and not make people upset.

Well maybe now is the time to not be afraid of walking on eggshells.

Im sorry that you are going through a rough living situation,and ideally while you can looking for a new place should help you. But in the meantime, don't be fearful to stand up for yourself. Just do it out of respect, and sometimes that requires a forgiving heart on your end. You may not get the response you're looking for, but at least you will have some inner peace.

Keep leaning on God, and don't lose heart.

 

[zephcom]

I'm sorry for some of the things i'm going to say. I don't like to talk behind people's back like this, but the truth must be spoken.

I'm a young man who lives with a narcissist. There's no future for me here. My soul is being destroyed the longer i stay here. I have the opportunity to move out of here with someone else, but he is a narcissist, too.

The person im thinking about moving in with has had a tough life. He's had various surgeries on his body, but he blames his problems on other people instead of taking responsibilities for himself. He likes to take these narcissistic jabs at me, and i can't take it.

I have a dog, and i love him, but sometimes he feels like an unecesary weight holding me back. He has various skin diseases, and needs to contantly be watched. Because of this, i am unable to go anywhere because i have to watch him.

I haven't seen my mother, friends, and sister in so long because I'm trapped here having to constantly watch my dog so he doesn't suffer.

I can't put him down, because the narcissist i live with will probably put me out the house. Medication does not help him, it only makes him feel worse.

I believe faith may have shown me good things that will await me if i decide to move in with another narcissist, but i don't think it's worth it right now.

Any advice?

Solving problems for others on a forum such as this is very difficult because there are always things which we don't know about the person with problems. But I've never been one to let little things like that bother me so I will offer some thoughts that may or may not help.

1. Jumping from one intolerable situation to another doesn't seem like a good strategy for making one's life better.

2. Without knowing your financial situation makes the next step difficult to suggest, but if it is at all possible you should try to create an independent living situation even if it is a tiny apartment. Everyone needs a base where they feel safe and can recharge their batteries.

3. Consult your vet about the dog. It isn't doing the dog any good if its care stresses you to the breaking point. The vet may well be able to give you advise on a better living situation for the dog or whether it would be better for the dog to not be miserable for years.

4. Learn to love yourself. If you are not happy, you will be unable to spread happiness. Jesus' second commandment is to love others as you love yourself. That tells me that loving oneself is important if one is to love others.

That does not mean becoming a narcissist yourself. But it does mean becoming comfortable with who you are, your abilities to care for yourself, and positioning yourself to best be able to spread Divine Love.

Love and good luck.

 

[zephcom]

I'm sorry for some of the things i'm going to say. I don't like to talk behind people's back like this, but the truth must be spoken.

I'm a young man who lives with a narcissist. There's no future for me here. My soul is being destroyed the longer i stay here. I have the opportunity to move out of here with someone else, but he is a narcissist, too.

The person im thinking about moving in with has had a tough life. He's had various surgeries on his body, but he blames his problems on other people instead of taking responsibilities for himself. He likes to take these narcissistic jabs at me, and i can't take it.

I have a dog, and i love him, but sometimes he feels like an unecesary weight holding me back. He has various skin diseases, and needs to contantly be watched. Because of this, i am unable to go anywhere because i have to watch him.

I haven't seen my mother, friends, and sister in so long because I'm trapped here having to constantly watch my dog so he doesn't suffer.

I can't put him down, because the narcissist i live with will probably put me out the house. Medication does not help him, it only makes him feel worse.

I believe faith may have shown me good things that will await me if i decide to move in with another narcissist, but i don't think it's worth it right now.

Any advice?

Solving problems for others on a forum such as this is very difficult because there are always things which we don't know about the person with problems. But I've never been one to let little things like that bother me so I will offer some thoughts that may or may not help.

1. Jumping from one intolerable situation to another doesn't seem like a good strategy for making one's life better.

2. Without knowing your financial situation makes the next step difficult to suggest, but if it is at all possible you should try to create an independent living situation even if it is a tiny apartment. Everyone needs a base where they feel safe and can recharge their batteries.

3. Consult your vet about the dog. It isn't doing the dog any good if its care stresses you to the breaking point. The vet may well be able to give you advise on a better living situation for the dog or whether it would be better for the dog to not be miserable for years.

4. Learn to love yourself. If you are not happy, you will be unable to spread happiness. Jesus' second commandment is to love others as you love yourself. That tells me that loving oneself is important if one is to love others.

That does not mean becoming a narcissist yourself. But it does mean becoming comfortable with who you are, your abilities to care for yourself, and positioning yourself to best be able to spread Divine Love.

Love and good luck.

 

[zephcom]

I'm sorry for some of the things i'm going to say. I don't like to talk behind people's back like this, but the truth must be spoken.

I'm a young man who lives with a narcissist. There's no future for me here. My soul is being destroyed the longer i stay here. I have the opportunity to move out of here with someone else, but he is a narcissist, too.

The person im thinking about moving in with has had a tough life. He's had various surgeries on his body, but he blames his problems on other people instead of taking responsibilities for himself. He likes to take these narcissistic jabs at me, and i can't take it.

I have a dog, and i love him, but sometimes he feels like an unecesary weight holding me back. He has various skin diseases, and needs to contantly be watched. Because of this, i am unable to go anywhere because i have to watch him.

I haven't seen my mother, friends, and sister in so long because I'm trapped here having to constantly watch my dog so he doesn't suffer.

I can't put him down, because the narcissist i live with will probably put me out the house. Medication does not help him, it only makes him feel worse.

I believe faith may have shown me good things that will await me if i decide to move in with another narcissist, but i don't think it's worth it right now.

Any advice?

Solving problems for others on a forum such as this is very difficult because there are always things which we don't know about the person with problems. But I've never been one to let little things like that bother me so I will offer some thoughts that may or may not help.

1. Jumping from one intolerable situation to another doesn't seem like a good strategy for making one's life better.

2. Without knowing your financial situation makes the next step difficult to suggest, but if it is at all possible you should try to create an independent living situation even if it is a tiny apartment. Everyone needs a base where they feel safe and can recharge their batteries.

3. Consult your vet about the dog. It isn't doing the dog any good if its care stresses you to the breaking point. The vet may well be able to give you advise on a better living situation for the dog or whether it would be better for the dog to not be miserable for years.

4. Learn to love yourself. If you are not happy, you will be unable to spread happiness. Jesus' second commandment is to love others as you love yourself. That tells me that loving oneself is important if one is to love others.

That does not mean becoming a narcissist yourself. But it does mean becoming comfortable with who you are, your abilities to care for yourself, and positioning yourself to best be able to spread Divine Love.

Love and good luck.

 

[zephcom]

Solving problems for others on a forum such as this is very difficult because there are always things which we don't know about the person with problems. But I've never been one to let little things like that bother me so I will offer some thoughts that may or may not help.

1. Jumping from one intolerable situation to another doesn't seem like a good strategy for making one's life better.

2. Without knowing your financial situation makes the next step difficult to suggest, but if it is at all possible you should try to create an independent living situation even if it is a tiny apartment. Everyone needs a base where they feel safe and can recharge their batteries.

3. Consult your vet about the dog. It isn't doing the dog any good if its care stresses you to the breaking point. The vet may well be able to give you advise on a better living situation for the dog or whether it would be better for the dog to not be miserable for years.

4. Learn to love yourself. If you are not happy, you will be unable to spread happiness. Jesus' second commandment is to love others as you love yourself. That tells me that loving oneself is important if one is to love others.

That does not mean becoming a narcissist yourself. But it does mean becoming comfortable with who you are, your abilities to care for yourself, and positioning yourself to best be able to spread Divine Love.

Love and good luck.

That is interesting. Please ignore all but one of my posts.

 

[Southernscotty]

I see you are a christian, Have you tried getting out the Word and witnessing here? Perhaps God has placed you here to be the light in the darkness? Just my two cents :] Go see your family, Love on them and have someone sit with the dog awhile.