hi guys i need help. i live in a dorm and last night i was talking so my neighbors we were jus debating about something stupid. well after i left they started talkin about me i heard them from my room they were jus sayin mean stuff i tried to hold maself back for about 30minutes or even more. but oh no they kept goin and goin on and on about me. i couldnt take it anymore so i went there and took anything that they had that was mine and told em the friendship was over! and they claimed to bechristians...and they talk about me??? well i did forgive them but i cant trust them no more i've been hurt b4 and i dont want nobody to hurt me again. i guess now they have become my enemies i aint hatin they were the ones hatin and they dd apologise here and there but it didnt seem like they meant you know what i mean? i need ur help did i do the right thing? well even today they were talkin bout me they didnt know i heard them. i was so hurt i was cryin i really thought we was friends. please advice me....and the worst thing is that almost all ma block mates were involved! who do i go for help now???
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well, u definitely need to forgive and let go of the anger, but i know this is a hard thing to do when someone hurts you like that. i'm still angry with someone who hurt me a year ago but i am learning how to get over it.... are these people u would consider good friends (other than what just happened)? if they are maybe u should try giving them another chance. if not, its okay to not want to be friends with them anymore. we need to forgive people who hurt us but that doesn't mean we have to continue being best friends. i dont know what u should do about it. i guess just decide if they are people u really want in ur life and work on forgiving them as well.
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I just preached recently that people will hate us. We will be hated like Christ was hated and despised by His own people. I know it's hard to sit there and listen to your roommates talk about you and not care about it, but I'd try my hardest. Maybe find another place to live.
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awww 
me is sorry!!! that sucks, 
they weren't acting very christianly it sounds like, if I were you I would try really hard to go find some new friends, don't talk about those other...people... but dont let the fact that they hurt you hold you back. Also, hold your head up high, if you act with forgivness towards them, and do not speak ill of them, it will become easier for you to forgive them in your heart. Also it will reflect well on you. and best of all if you do that, then God's love will shine out of you and you will touch those around you and also you will draw people to you. Be willing to help those that hurt you and you will be a true testomony of God's love.
me is sorry!!! that sucks, they weren't acting very christianly it sounds like, if I were you I would try really hard to go find some new friends, don't talk about those other...people... but dont let the fact that they hurt you hold you back. Also, hold your head up high, if you act with forgivness towards them, and do not speak ill of them, it will become easier for you to forgive them in your heart. Also it will reflect well on you. and best of all if you do that, then God's love will shine out of you and you will touch those around you and also you will draw people to you. Be willing to help those that hurt you and you will be a true testomony of God's love.
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There is also times when some anger is good...Jesus was angry - in the temple with all the sellers and such. I don't believe anger to be bad, however it can't become a dwelling point (i.e. bitterness) where it starts to consume you.
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"if you love only those that love you, of what good is that to you...............even the tax payers do the same........." It may be hard to ove those that act harsh towards us, but we are to allow the Lord to live in and through us.
Surrender more to the Lord and let Him give you the strength to love those that are unlovable. Otherwise the human nature in you can't allow you to act in the so called christian way you want.
Best of all, don't allow your anger to let you sin, it will be a double loss.
Surrender more to the Lord and let Him give you the strength to love those that are unlovable. Otherwise the human nature in you can't allow you to act in the so called christian way you want.
Best of all, don't allow your anger to let you sin, it will be a double loss.
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thanks yall for replyin me ur advice is really useful thanks GOD BLESS....they dont talk to me i dont talk to them thats how it is now...i have forgiven them if they say hi i ma say hi but since they aint...oh well GOD BLESS LOVE YALL IN JESUS NAME please pray for me to pass ma exams comin up soon
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Matthew 5:43-45 (King James Version)
43Ye have heard that it hath been said, Thou shalt love thy neighbour, and hate thine enemy.
44But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you; 45That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust.
43Ye have heard that it hath been said, Thou shalt love thy neighbour, and hate thine enemy.
44But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you; 45That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust.
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Sadly, this is how it is throughout much of high school and college. People are backstabbers sometimes. You just have to sever with the people who are, and find friends who aren't, while still remaining civil to the people who have hurt you and that you don't like. Good luck.
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I'm sorry to hear that these people you trusted as friends have hurt you. I know that hurts and it's natural to be angry. I agree that you need to forgive and let go of the anger, but I also know that's easier said than done. It takes time to do that and it's not something that we can do on our own, it takes God working in us to bring those things about. If they really are sorry then accept that apology and don't totally cut them off. But at the same time they will need to earn your trust again. Don't give it away too quick. If they aren't sorry then you should keep some distance there. Don't be cold to them or mean, be friendly with them. Take your pain to God, He knows how it feels to be betrayed by someone close to Him. One of His disciples was the one that turned Him over to be executed. When the soldiers came to arrest him all His disciples ran. Peter betrayed Him 3 times. Ever since Adam and Eve His children have rebeled against Him. He knows the pain. His response to that betrayal was to love us so much that He died for us. Trust Him that He can heal the pain and restore your heart. Ask Him to heal your heart and allow you to forgive these people. Pray for them, that they would turn from the gossip and backstabbing. Don't pray in a vindictive way, pray that they would be set free from the power of sin in their life. They are victims of their own sinful nature and satan's schemes. When we are called to love our enemies the best place to start is by praying for them. Find some new friends to hang out with. Don't give your trust away too fast, but also don't withhold your trust from everyone. Sometimes when we get hurt we want to put up walls, those walls keep us alone and seperated. Unfortunately getting hurt is part of relationships. Every marriage involves one person hurting the other at times. But only by forgiveness and rebuilding trust can we truely understand what love really is.
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