I need some major help!

[god_is_light2008]

Iam a female and i am currently in a relationship with a girl. I know that what i am doing is wrong. I know that i need to break up with her but here's the problem..she's one of the kinds of people that doesn't take the word 'no' very good.
Several times, in the past, i ve actually broke up but she kept comming back. She kept calling me and told me that i was makign the biggest mistake in my life. I also just want to just be friends with her..but she thinks that she can't just be friends with me. Help me! What is the best thing to do in a situation like this?


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[LoG]

Being friends with a significant other after a breakup is next to impossible in my experience, especially when the other doesn't feel like breaking it up. It means I always have to be on my guard against that person because the moment I let it down, we're back together again.

My .02 cents

 

[JenniferGreen]

It is important that you stay true to your convictions. You can be gental when getting your point across to your friend. I have been in your situation. Here is a book you might want to read it really helped my understand my true identity.

A Way of Excape by Neil T. Anderson its a must read. I will be praying for you.

 

[simplicity]

I find friendships tend to be somewhat polarized these days too. It is too bad folks cannot just hang out like in the good old days, doing nothing and getting nowhere together.

A person who makes you unhappy or upset on a persistent basis should not really be considered a friend since this is precisely what enemies do. And sometimes it is better just to quickly end things rather than languishing on the differences and dislikes. Contempt after all is several magnitudes worse than disappointment and sadness from a breakup.

Do everything you can to end a relationship on good grounds. This is because later in life almost everybody is useful - for instance, for networking. This is something I didn't appreciate until I got much older.

 

[bethdinsmore]

Dear friend -
not much I can add, except that I had problems with controllers all my life. Now that I am a Christian, God has been teaching me boundaries (including leaving toxic relationships), and things are so much easier now. It was especially helpful for me to read "Boundaries with Kids" - though I have no children, it taught me a lot about myself and how to be more effective with my boundaries.

"Unless the Lord builds the house, its builders labor in vain. Unless the Lord guards the city, the watchmen stand guard in vain." Psalm 127:1, NIV

God bless you friend, I'll pray for your freedom.

Aloha in Jesus

 

[soonto_be]

I know how that feels, all too well. What you have to do is get away from her. Don't worry aobut hurting her feelings, tell her what you're doing is WRONG and it has to stop. I'm not saying be mean about it, but be blunt. And I don;t think you can remain friends with her. At least not for a while. The feelings will still be there.

i doubt I've helped very much...but I'm praying for you...you can PM me if you'd like.

 

[Alive again]

praying!!!!!

 

[MinDach]

Iam a female and i am currently in a relationship with a girl. I know that what i am doing is wrong. I know that i need to break up with her but here's the problem..she's one of the kinds of people that doesn't take the word 'no' very good

Tell her you are no longer wanting a relationship with females, you decided to change your life, a life where your children will have a mom & Dad in the house hold. The path you are on now, will only lead to a very hard life. We are in the last days before Jesus comes back, for he told us that ( this world we are living in now ) what it would be like the world before the flood. Read up about what these people were doing, that God was so angry with these people and sorry he every made them.

 

[dia_liom]

Praying for you, that you'll be able to end this relationship and that you'll come closer to God & His love every day.

 

[ALIOSIAS]

You will never be able to be just friends with her so forget it. Quit returning her calls. Quit participating in conversation with her. Be distant - non-coimmunicative.

 

[promise]

You are going to have to go your separate ways with this young lady. There is too much history between the two of you, the attachment is too strong. You have to make it known and clear to her that you are not interested in staying in that relationship, you think it's best to not communicate, and that you wish her well in the future. If she calls then get your number changed, and if she starts to continuously show up to harass you then you will have to get a restraining order. Relationships are hard to get out of especially when the other person doesn't want the break up, but you have to be strong and do what needs to be done. I know you will be concerned about her feelings, but you can't do anything to help her feelings. Staying with her and trying to be there for her will only bring you back down, and you will continue to feel this guilt and wrongness and I doubt you can live like that. Most people can't. I will be praying for both of you.

 

[Illuminite]

prayed,hoping you return to these forums for faith and caring help.God bless You.

 

[angelwannabe]

YOU DIDNT SAY BUT I HOPE AND PRAY YOU ARE SAVED, IT SEEMS LIKE YOU KNOW THIS IS WRONG. ITS AN ABONINATION TO GOD,ASK YOURSELF IS IT WORTH YOU GOING TO HELL OVER? I PRAY YOU GET THE STRENGTH TO END THIS RELATIONSHIP ,WHETHER SHE STAYS YOUR FRIEND OR NOT. ITS BETTER TO LOSE A FRIEND NOW THEN TO LOSE YOUR SALVATION.

 

[cmkjr1689]

I think that you sould just Tell her what you really feel. and you sould also pray to God for some help I know God will always help you. and If that don't work tell your mom or somebody about whats going on. I hope that what i tell you help you out alot. And I will pray for you always too.

 

[BLUEEYEANGEL]

Jesus as I come to you humbly asking as I
just read this post that this lady needs a touch on her heart, mind, body, and soul and I am asking you Lord that she will repent with a TRUE heart and get a true desire to always walk that straight and narrow way. Lord I ask that she will have the strength to turn satan down with he comes to her with them temptations, In Jesus name Sweetie you have admited of the wrong doing you have done, you have a desire to make a change you are on the right path ........That is what God wants. We have to first admit our wrong ,and then repent { to make a change}. You know hun ,Jesus loves you and I do to. {how you know you're saved because you love the brethren.} When God saved my soul he put a love there like no other, my compassion for you is so great.......... God was on the scene the second your started making this post. Satan wasn't telling you to confess .To have it be so open to everyone God bless you. God allowed you to post because he want his children praying for you. I am sure there was some that passed judgement as soon as their eyes had seen this. Sweetie I have not walked in your shoes and never done as you have posted. Let me tell you tho , when I came to God, I was a lost sinner on my way to hell.
he stood there with out reached arms saying ,com on my child..{ I love you, } I went to calvary for you . I took the beatings and all the suffering for you. I am bruised with all that iniquity{sin} upon me where you could have eternal life.
The blood has covered it all .Oh the shame that was upon him because he love you and I so. Satan will always bring up your pass to get you discouraged, make you feel the same , as nothing has changed . Tell satan he is a lair and the father of it.
Jesus said , I will cast those sins as far as the east to the west and never remember them no more.{ wow, wow ,wow. }You just give it all to the lord , he will take those desires away . As the other girl involed ,God will take care of that. Just trust him, he knows your heart if this will be a true repentance.
If it is ,,,,,it's all taking care of. This is my advice personal you need to be up front with her , hey tell her the good news .{that you knew you where on your way to hell and you ask God to save you from that awfull place, and now you have a changed heart , You don't have those same desires anymore }
Just { trust him the lord} tell her you are not that same person any more. Tell her you are praying for her soul. {ok} Stay a way from each other ,,,,,,you have to , if you don't you will be right back there. You should not even talk on the phone. Just pray for her soul.

 

[Hisbygrace]

Praying for you that this storm will pass and you can begin a new relationship with our Lord.