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I truly understand what you are going through. I've been through a lot of sexual abuse from a very young age. The good news is that I never did get pregnant and had to get married.

There are ways to close the past and close the pain. Can you ever get rid of the memory? No, but the pain will no longer be there. The memory will not haunt you so there is hope because Jesus came to heal the broken hearted according to Luke 4:18. Your heart has been broken, you've been betrayed and need healing.

God is a good God! I'm standing with you.
 
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I truly understand what you are going through. I've been through a lot of sexual abuse from a very young age. The good news is that I never did get pregnant and had to get married.

There are ways to close the past and close the pain. Can you ever get rid of the memory? No, but the pain will no longer be there. The memory will not haunt you so there is hope because Jesus came to heal the broken hearted according to Luke 4:18. Your heart has been broken, you've been betrayed and need healing.

God is a good God! I'm standing with you.
Thank you very much for that!!! God bless you in the name of Jesus!
 
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I have often used te example of the Jewish exiles returning to jeruslam after their captivity (See Ezra & Nehemiah). They found the walls broken down and consequently they could easilly be attacked.

We can have broken walls in our own lives. It takes time, courage, help and love to rebuild them. But, brick by brick and cemented by the love of compassionate and wise counsel your defences can be restored and again you can live.

Bless you
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I am new to this site. My husband found it and recommend that I come here to talk to someone. I was molested and raped from the age of 9 to 14. It was by two different men. When I was around my parents I tryed to be their sweet innocent little girl but when they were not around I was a totally different person. I turned to drinking when I was not at home and I got pregnant at age 17. I married the father. I thought maybe things would get better but they didn't. I was married to him for 12 years. If I was not feeling good or just not in the mood he would take it anyways. He would flirt with other women right in front of me and deny it. He was emotionally abusing me. After 12 years, I finally got the courage to get out of the marriage. I am now remarried and I love my husband very very much. My past though is making it very hard on my marriage. I have a problem with depression. My husband wants to help but does not know what to do or say. He really does not understand everything that I have been through. It is really putting a stain on my marriage. I have tried counselling with my pastor but I do not feel comfortable telling him everything that happened to me. Can someone please help me?
Hello.......
I have replied to this post 2 times. After which, I deleted them both times. Got up and walked away, but the spirit of the Lord is dealing with me over this. My heart goes out to you and with great love and concern I will post what I feel the Lord wants me to say. I am going to address each thing that has been laid on my heart to do...........

My past though is making it very hard on my marriage. Your past, exactly, not your present, not your future, but your past.Don't try to deal with the present or see the futrue looking through your past. The past will control the present and have a dramatic effect on the future.

I have a problem with depression.By clinging and holding on to the past, gives the devil a stronghold on your mind, a playground to battle on. He has come to steal(our hope, our faith,and our joy),kill (our testimony)and destroy(our lives,our families,the love of God).

My husband wants to help but does not know what to do or say. He really does not understand everything that I have been through.He may not, but he led you here through the spirit of God.Him understanding and knowing is not the answer.The answer is Believing "who"(you) our Lord hung on the cross for and shed his blood for on that day and conquered all just for you.

It is really putting a stain on my marriage.The only strain is you holding on to what God has already let go of.See the good,Trust in the LORD and believe and don't hold on to the past by saying "but". There was no "but" on the day God delivered you from your past.......
My prayers are with you and for you. May you find the prefect peace in Christ Jesus and the comfort in our God. "Point the devil back to his past and remind him of his future, as we live in Christ Jesus in the present". Sumei
 
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there are Rape Crisis Centers in almost all cities that offer free counseling and group counseling, too, all free.
I had a close friend that was a nurse. She got off late one night and ran into a problem with a man in the parking lot. It troubled her for a long time. Then maybe 12 years later she talked to a women at the rape crisis center. She was surprised to learn what she was feeling was very common. The women gave her some advise on how to work her way though some of those feels that at times could be a little overwelming for her.
 
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