I need some help understanding Reformed and non-Reformed Christianity

[ToBeLoved]

reformed believe God created some people for destruction and some for salvation and theres nothing anyone can do about which group they end up in.

the rest of Christendom believe God made a way (Jesus) so that every single person God created gets to choose to repent and be saved or not.

BINGO ^^^

This is why I would avoid Calvinism. It's a slippery slope because it's hard to reconcile a lot of verses with it.

Like "God so loved the world ...." John 3:16

Calvinism has to do acrobatics to say why the world is not everyone. Tons of bad theology and gymnastics. I would try to at least follow 50% and 50% of Calvinists vs. non-Calvinists.

Once you get in... it's hard to get out.