I need some big help with this (question about girls)

[HarborOrange]

^^^Yeah, I agree, good point.

I think I may have Social Anxiety Disorder, at least a minor form of it. Being in public, making friends, and carrying on normal conversation is incredibly difficult for me... Knowing YHWH is always there has made it possible for me to go on despite what would be incredible loneliness. And, in regards to the original post in this thread, you're way too young for a girlfriend, relax for now... You'll have time to stress about it later.

 

[tpk]

Yes, I realize I am coming in a bit late, but I would like to sort of echo some of the stuff I am thinking from your post.

I really need a girlfriend... I feel like my life is sort of empty I checked out some dream interpretation online before I found out she was 11 and all just because I'm really into the study of dreams and sleep and I saw a barren market in my dream and the interpretation for that is that something is missing... A void in your life... And I think that might be a girl...

First of all, if you are getting a girlfriend simply because you "need a girlfriend", then that relationship WILL NOT last. As for that void, like others have said, that is not going to able to be filled with a girlfriend. That is a void that can only be filled with Jesus. A relationship with him is more important than any other relationship you could ever have on this Earth.

Secondly, I personally do not date. I see all the peer pressure to go date, but it is seriously not a big priority for me. I am about to graduate from high school. I have not had a single girlfriend, ever, and I do not regret that. There is SO MUCH drama.

Also, when you are just friends, there is not a big status that there is when you start dating. When you start going out, you get this big title of "boyfriend and girlfriend" that is only there to be torn down.

Another thing, I personally think that 13 is a bit young for dating. Dating is supposed to be you spending time with the person that is potentially going to be your spouse. You still have 4 or 5 years of school left, so lots can change. If you get into that relationship and do even the slightest thing wrong, if you even give her an excuse to break up with you, it will most likely happen. That's how the dating scene is currently, unfortunately.

So if you stay just friends until you're both older and more mature, the relationship will have MUCH more potential of working out better.

Lastly, you can still spend time with her as friends. You don't have to be going out with someone to get to know them. Two of my best friends were girls. People thought in both cases that I was dating that person, but we are just really good friends.

 

[LadyGemini]

Whoa, whoa, whoa! You need a girlfriend? Since when did you get that idea? r2d, you don't need a girlfriend. If there's a void in your life, its spiritual, not something that can be filled by having a girlfriend. Look to Christ, fill yourself with Him. Don't worry about whether this girl will end up yours or not. Or even worry about having a relationship at all. Set your eyes fully and Christ, and He'll bring you the right young woman, at HIS time. You're wanting one now, and I can tell you, that's not healthy. If you try to push your way, its going to hurt you. So turn to Christ.

Oh, and don't look to some website that "interprets" dreams or anything. Talk to your youth pastor, find a mentor, talk to people who are above the age of 18, preferably, about relationships. Seek guidance, and DON'T try to do this on your own.

Amen I completely agree you're only 13 the last thing you need to be thinking about is girls. And even in you did have a girlfriend (which you do not need) you should be wanted to cuddle, kiss, and say I love you. One because you're 13, two because that can lead to other things which God hates.

Fill your life with Chirst and don't let anything else get in your way.

 

[ExaltedReign]

I think that you are old enough for a girlfriend to kiss, hug, etc. But she may not. Wait a couple of years. Try to make a friendship with her. Something similar happened to me.

When I just turned 14, one of my classmates(girl) who I have known for months started kissing me at the movies for no apparent reason. She was only a couple months younger than me, and I was shocked and embarrassed. Shocked because she showed no signs (that I could tell) that she liked me. Embarrassed because we were on a class field-trip and everyone was looking at us. The teacher stopped us after about the 3 seconds and we felt shy when we went back on the bus. I sat in front, her in back. A couple days of avoiding each other and I decided to talk to her about it. I went to her house, her parents were gone and she was watching a movie. She was hesitant to let me in, we talked for a couple minutes and then decided to watch the rest of the movie. We sat there and then she started to grab my hand, we just sat there for hours holding hands and watching movies. Needles to say it felt great. I never had that kind of feeling for a girl before. It was around 11pm and her parents got home, we fell asleep on the couch. Her mom woke me up and asked what happened, I told her and she told met to go home (for obvious reasons). We still have a relationship after 8 months, though nothing like sex. Maybe kissing and cuddling, but nothing more than that.